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06-11-2009 - my social life, or lack there of

My mood while writing this blog: down

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Ok, let's face it....having a 3 year old, a 2 year old and a 7 week old doesn't exactly give one the freedom to have any real social life. I'm basically at home, in my "mom" clothes chasing after them moment by moment and cleaning up the house in the process. DH's schedule doesn't allow much time with him (about 45 mins per day), except on his 8 days off each month, during which he is typically too tired to do anything. By the time I get all 3 kids ready to go, and myself looking decent (I often find it to be a privalege to shower and brush my teeth), I'm too exhausted to really go anywhere. Today, I mustered up the energy to go to McDonald's playland to allow the kids to play...when I was there I found myself eavesdropping on the conversation two ladies were having behind me...and that made me feel adult again! What has my life come to?

I have 2 friends that stay at home, but one of them has a little boy who is really bad and annoying to be around and she doesn't really watch him, so I end up helping watch him and I already have 3 to look after, the other one is completely over protective of her year and a half year old so I don't feel like my kids can even play or have fun around him.

I have a "small group" at church that I attend or host every Thursday...there are 2 ladies in it: one has a 11 yr old and a 6 yr old, the other has a 16 year old and a 3 year old....needless to say, I'm constantly the third wheel and it DOES hurt my feelings. I mean, the people that go to my church are the people that I want to be the best of friends with and the church is SO BIG, there are many people that probably have the same interests as me and there are probably people I could be good friends with..but when do I have the time? Yeah, I am having a pity party for myself. I'm feeling lonely (and dare I say?) somewhat depressed, I'm also finding that FOOD has become my companion and that is a horrible, horrible habit to get into. I feel trapped inside the house surrounded by chores and children (which are wonderful, but sometimes you need some adult interaction). I'm also disappointed in my mother who only lives less than a mile away, she doesn't step up to the plate as a mother or grandmother very often...and when she does it's totally out of obligation.

Alright, I guess I am done ranting...I really just wanted to get that all off of my chest.

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2 Comments on my social life, or lack there of


nuggetlovin - Saturday, 7 Nov
Just know that you aren't alone!! I think about the same thing all the time...it's pretty sad when I am around children so much that I talk tomy SO like a child half the time... I just feel like I'm mommy 24/7 and have no identity outside of this role.... but I guess it's normal.

barunka05 - Saturday, 7 Nov
Omg. Its like you are taking words from my mouth. I was thinking about the same thing last week very often and needles to say its making me a little depressed . My hubby , same as yours, works a lot so I am left with the house alone with the kids and as you said they are fun but it's not enough. On top of that i don't drive so i depend on my husband to go anywhere. It seems pathetic to complain about it but i know very much how u feel and also the weather is not making it any easier. Lack of sun is making it worst.Most of my fiends are either busy or don't have kids so they don't really understand.