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02-2-2009 - sons dad

My mood while writing this blog: pissed

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ok, I put this up in Q&A but appaerently didnt explain properly not to mention got a couple judgemental ones that started critisizing my parenting. So Im going to put this up here. My oldest 2 kids are from previous marriages,my eldest, 8, is currently in 2nd grade. My son, 5, starts school in the fall. and my youngest is 5 months, and Im 15weeks along(wow I know) My youngest and curret pregnancy belong to my current DH. We are a military family. Now since I was a single mom most of the time for my oldest 2, my mother was a HUGE part of thier lives, shes basically a 2nd moter, and I cant think of any one I would trust more with my children. When we moved to our first miliatry station, we moved 18 hours from mine and DH family and my oldes kids dads. This is the longest theyve ever been without seeing my mother, dads is another story. My mom recently asked if my son could come visit her and stay for about a month. Considering that would help me during the day with only the baby to care for then, I said yes. Then my daighter will be goin to spend the summer with her. (daugter is older so can handle more time away from home) Now my sons dad, when he discovered my son would be coming down and staying he instantly assumed hed be with him the whole time. Lets give the run down on my sons dad. He lives less than 10 min from my mother, he is currently unemployed, has no money to care for my son at all, and hes living at his parents house. Now his parents house has already had CPS take his nephew out of that house, because it was horrid. They have 5 LARGE birds, 10 dogs(4 indoor) and 20-30 cats inside and out. Theyve already had the carpet torn up there cause it was so nasty. Now compare to my mothers home, nice Large 4bdrm, clean, and plenty of money to care for my son, and they are offering to pay for the trip to get my son home. I wouldhave to give up medical paper work and get the caretake a pass to take my son on base should there be an emergency, and the last time I gave my sons dad an important paper he lost it. So my choice is obvious, for the well being of my sons he needs to stay with my mother during his visit. His father ca see him at anytime, but my son doesnt need to stay at that home, and even if it were the home thers the matter of money, my mother has the money to care for him while hes there, the father does not, and my mother has the mother to get my son home, father does not. I tried to explain all this to my son dad but he refused to listen, he threw a complete fit, yelled and screamed at me telling me his son would stay wherever he wanted him to. There is no legal custody arrangement and the man cant even hope of getting one so long as he stays at that house, and he knows it. Yes part of me feels guilty that my son cant stay with his dad, but it out of my control. I just cant get the dad to understand this at all. why cant he see its in my sons best interest. any ideas on getting him to understand? Telling him thathouse is nasty just makes him mad. And if he keeps acting like this then my mother isnt going to let my son go with his dad for fear of not getting him back, and Idont blame her.

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1 Comments on sons dad


4thonitsway - Tuesday, 3 Feb
custody is in the slow ass court system of getting done, and I keep telling him to get out of that house or the judge isnt going to let him have my son at all. He says Im full of it and keeps going