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23-6-2009 - Feeling sensitive

My mood while writing this blog:
a little bummed out

So my baby shower/birthday party is happening this Saturday the 27th and I have been so excited and anticipating this for a really long time now. My mom just sent out an email invite to who knows how many people because she blank copied everyone. And I just asked her how many and she said like 50 people. The only thing is, is that she basically is advertising it as a group birthday party and a duo baby shower. I don't want to sound snobby or conceited but I am honestly a little bummed out by this. I thought this was going to be my party type of deal and now we are celebrating 4 or 5 other birthdays as well as another pregnant gals baby shower at this time. I am trying not to cry right now because I am a little hurt by this and just feeling really sensitive about the whole thing at this moment. Not to say that I cannot be happy to celebrate with others but I was just feeling like this was supposed to be my special party and my moment to celebrate for me and my baby. I dunno. I know my mom doesn't mean any harm and she is excited too and wanted to invite all these other people anyways, but that just kinda hurt my feelings a little. My first baby shower was absolutely awful because no one showed up at all. I know I had just moved into the area and didn't really have many friends but that still stung. That was part of the reason I was so looking forward to this. Not to say that I am not now just that this came up and just kinda bummed me out a little. I always come here to express myself when I am feeling blue so here I am blogging to you ladies. Thanks for reading and letting me vent a little.

14 Comments on Feeling sensitive

shlei - Wednesday, 24 Jun
I don't blame you. I would be just as bummed out as you. i would have to say something to her

hayley-france - Wednesday, 24 Jun
Aw, I'd feel a bit poop about that too! I totally understand you wanting it to just be a celebration for you and your baby! x

neicie04 - Wednesday, 24 Jun
I totally understand! I would be bummed too. But I suppose the damage is done now and can't be taken back, unfortunately. Hopefully once the day gets here, you'll be able to enjoy yourself anyway. I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you wanted it to :( But try to have a good time. And I hope it all works out.

Baby-Beiler - Wednesday, 24 Jun
hey i am behind ya girl... i would be soooo bummed out in your situation too! i am sorry that it didn't work out the way that you had planned... but hey maybe the other people that are having b-days and the other pregnant lady wont show up... just a thought to try to make you feel better!

Texas gal - Wednesday, 24 Jun
I would be a little hurt too. I'm sure that your mom didn't think about bundling up so many celebrations on the same day. She might have thought that she would have a larger turn out with including the other folks. It is too late now to change it.

Still, it should be you and your baby's celebration. Just know that the folks that do come for you are all that matter. They will be there for you to support your new addition to your family. So, you may have to bite the bullet and put on a happy face. Even if you don't feel like it. I am having to do the same thing with one of my showers. My neighbor is throwing me one with a wierd theme. I didn't know there could be any other theme to a baby shower other than babies. But apparently she thinks so. So, the theme is Mardi Gras! Wow... where the heck did she come up with that??????? She is having a shrimp boil and seafood appetizers. So, no cute baby cake, no games. I am less than pleased but I can't tell her that because then she will get offended. I am just going to have to grit my teeth and accept whatever she gives me. Still, it is not my idea of a baby shower. So, I kinda know how you are feeling.

Darcyanne59 - Wednesday, 24 Jun
I would be bummed out to. You feel this is your special moment and you have to share it with others and you wont be in the spotlight! I would feel the same way. Too bad you couldnt have talked to your mom a little earlier and tell her how you felt before she sent them out! I wish you the best! Hope everything goes well, and no matter what you will be the spotlight for the people that are coming to see you :)

nataliesan - Wednesday, 24 Jun
Aw, it is understandable why u feel that way. I hope your day goes well x

Tara83 - Tuesday, 23 Jun
I too would feel awful. Your shower should be about YOU and your baby!! I don't think you should feel bad for feeling that way at all. I can see how it would be awkward to say something with our hurting your Mom's feelings, I know I would be at a loss for words as well.. but it should be understood that this is your day. Is there any way you could maybe hint around wanting to have your own party?!?!

I also agree with you and don't mean to sound rude.. but it is common for guests to bring gifts to a baby shower.. so saying it isn't necessary is a little unfair.

I think that you should allow this get together to be for your birthday as well as to celebrate others birthdays but then have a shower as well. Maybe talk to a friend about planning one either ASAP or after the baby arrives. That way you can still make your Mom feel good and be apart of her party but also get to have your own special day.

sinny - Tuesday, 23 Jun
thats what a shower is FOR!! I would say somthing to her.. I don't think she was very thoughtful about your feelings. could you ask her to change somthing or make the first half of the party YOURS and that IS a bring presants or at least a diper party? I dont get it why would she not think about it. I had some shower issues as well but nothing this annoying. I am sorry you are dealing with this. I would ask at least to send out a amendment stating the first half or the second half being a JUST for you shower and that gifts ARE of course aprechiated for the baby!

AllyCat62683 - Tuesday, 23 Jun
Didn't mention that my mom put on the invite that gifts are not manditory and that only well wishes and presence is required. Again not wanting to sound conceited but I thought thats what those type of parties are for....

sinny - Tuesday, 23 Jun
Im sorry. the day should not have been combined. that sucks. how many presants will each guest be exspected to bring. seems like bad planning.

ladykilla421 - Tuesday, 23 Jun
I understand how you could be feeling blue....It is supposed to be your day and it should totally revolve around you and your baby.....It not conceited that you would want your own day and not have to share it with anyone but your baby.....I hope things turn out and the joint shower/b-day are a smash! You deserve it! Keep your head up, things will work themselves out!

2ndComoBaby - Tuesday, 23 Jun
Don't be bummed out! Your baby shower, and birthday is still number one!!!!

Diegirl - Tuesday, 23 Jun
I totally do not think you are being sensitive. Its supposed to be your day.... your birthday and your day to celebrate your baby. You have every right to be bummed. I am so sorry you are going through this. *hugs* Oh, maybe once baby is born you can do you own little gathering/party/get together of "come meet the baby"?