16-11-2009 - Grandparents!!! UGH!!!

My mood while writing this blog: AGGRIVATED!

I have some stuff bothering me and I cant talk to anyone at home about it besides my husband and its hard to because its about his MOTHER!! I know some grandparents are completely involved in their grandchildrens lives and then there are the ones who are completely uninvolved. Well im dealing with a pain in the ASS uninvolved/involved grandmother. Thats probably confusing so I will tell you what she does!

My kids are 6 and 3. They love their Nanny (my MIL). She is the only grandmother they have in this state. My mother is in Texas along with ALL the rest of both of our families. I can understand my FIL not seeing the kids very often because he works 7 days a week 12 hours a day just like my husband.

She tells them she is gonna come see them...then doesnt. She tells them she is gonna pick them up to go do something fun with her...then she cancels. My son just started playing Baseball. Saturday was the 6th out of 8 games. My inlaws live in the same town as us and are only a few minutes away. She does NOT work..yet she has NOT been to any of his games. She has told Hayden that she is coming to each game and each time when she doesnt show up or she calls to say she wont make it I have to break the news to him. Im SICK of seeing that hurt and dissapointed look on my little boys face!! I now REFUSE to tell my kids when she 'calls to say "tell the kids I'm going to pick them up" or "tell Hayden I will see him at his game" or "tell the kids im going to come see them tomorrow"

Just saturday she calls to ask if she could take the kids to the Air Show at the Air Force Base here in town on sunday. "I said GREAT the kids would love to go and would love to spend time with you." I even said Id like to go if my MS wasnt too bad on that day. So we planned to be ready to leave between 9:30 and 10am. I also asked a friend if she was taking her kids so we could try and meet up at the event. Well my phone died in the middle of the night so I put it on the charger and didnt get it off until I was ready to call her to say that we were ready. When I called she said "Oh, you didnt get my message? I have to back out on the plans we made. My tummy was feeling bad last night and still feels a little icky this morning. I dont want to take the chance of getting the kids sick. Tell the kids im sorry and that I will pick them up sometime next week to come to the house."

So on Sunday I take the kids because they were looking forward to it. Well I just called her and she sounded fine to me! she was running errands and said nothing about her tummy feeling bad I WILL NOT tell them she wants to come get them. If they dont expect it then they wont be dissapointed! I REFUSE to tell them anymore!! Its just so frusterating!! I told my husband that if she keeps this up my hormones are gonna take over and I WILL hurt her feeling and not feel bad about it. I WILL tell her to STOP breaking promises to my kids!! My kids are the only ones they have close enough to see on a daily basis. All the other grandchildren are in Texas. Why would she NOT keep her promises.

NOW my kids are asking if we will go to Nanny and Papaw's house for Thanksgiving. I called and asked what their plans were. She said "oh we dont know yet. We are thinking about going back home but we havent made up our minds. I will let you know when we do." That is BULL SHIT!! I am planning to cook dinner for MY family but if they will be in town and we are going over there I dont want to make a HUGE dinner for us then it go to waste because she all of a sudden decides to stay home and cook and have us and friends over. Honestly this is what im going to do. I will plan to cook for my family since Thanksgiving is only around a week away. If she calls to say she is cooking and wants us to come over I will politely say NO! My family will stay home and have a NICE Thanksgiving dinner alone!!!

NOW if you are gonna be an involved grandmother then that is AWESOME! IF you are gonna be an uninvolved grandmother thats fine we can live without you. BUT STOP telling them you are gonna do something and then backing out on them!!

OK SORRY LADIES I just had to get that off of my chest. Its just so frusterating!! GRRRRR