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	Age: 27 Country: -US Province/region: - City: St. George Partner: My Love ~ Shawn Children: Yes, 4 Pregnant: Not anymore Occupation: SAHM / Owner Rudegirl Boutique
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21-9-2009 - Well....we are over

My mood while writing this blog:
heartbroken

I will go into more detail tomorrow when my eyes are not so swollen. Shawn and I are over. It's basically because he says I can't trust him with alcohol and he wants to drink. He made his choice. He packed his things and left. I am a wreck right now. What do I do? I am almost 12 weeks pregnant. None of my family knows and now I get to tell them I am pregnant AND single. Yay me! I am a winner. What have I done? What have I done to my kids? I ruined everything. I have to go. Goodnight.......

35 Comments on Well....we are over

AbbottBaby2 - Wednesday, 23 Sep
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. You don't deserve to be treated like that. You are in my prayers.

claire louise - Wednesday, 23 Sep
Hun don't blame yourself noway is any of this down to you. He walked out over drink. I really dont no wot to say as I know nothing anyone says will make you fell better as u love him same wen me and hub have problems ( This same thing has happened with us wen he drinks ) I hope all turns out well and you get happy for yourself and baby and kids. I have never meet you but from what i read your a fantastic mother never forget that.x

mrs lady - Wednesday, 23 Sep
I am sorry to hear that...keep strong and do whats best for you and you kids and everything will work itself out

kathy=^.^= - Tuesday, 22 Sep
im so sorry.... i know that you are a strong woman and none of this is ur fault! you know whats best for you and ur kids! i wish you the best and if you need 2 talk im here ((((HUGGS))))

cpalmer - Tuesday, 22 Sep
wow hun i am speechless, im so sorry :( everyone is right tho its not ur fault, he left and obviously chose booze over u and ur kids, im def praying for u hun, dont worry everything will be okay and who knows maybe something will happen when hes gone that will turn him around for the better, thinkin of u xxxoooxx

kaysfamily - Tuesday, 22 Sep
hunny, you did nothing wrong! He is just stupid for making a stupid choice! I'm sorry but he's a loser for leaving you and his kids for a freakin drink??? I bet your family will help you and just be strong. everything will work out ! ***hugs*** I know you can do this, your a sweet and strong woman who will do whatever it takes to make your family alright even if you have to do it on your own. We're all here if u need to talk! **hugs**Kay

hippiemommy09 - Tuesday, 22 Sep
babe i know you already have a ton of comments but i just wanted to tell you that i dont think you have done anything wrong, you are in the right, he is the one that chose to drink over being a sober father..thats his stupid choice and you should not feel guilty no matter what he or anyone else tells you. you are a strong and wonderful mommy and whatever happens i know you will make it through.

R-N-E-Bump - Tuesday, 22 Sep
Oh, I'm so sorry, hun! I really can't imagine what you're going through right now. Just know I'll be praying for you and Shawn and hoping he will make the right decision very quickly!

MamaLuvnJah - Tuesday, 22 Sep
Tell him his kids are counting on him. If he can't do it for you. He needs to stay healthy for his kids. Try to help him. He needs your strength. Addiction is a battle he can't do alone. He needs AA. Try to help him get back on track before he ends up in the hospital again. Don't give up on him. When he's sober again than you can work on your marriage. Right now he needs to save himself. Be strong. Your baby needs you to stay calm. Do it for the baby. Pray pray pray. Reading scripture usually helps me. I will pray for you sweetie.

boyoboy - Tuesday, 22 Sep
Ever since I've been on here you sounded like an amazing woman who is strong and smart. You have family around you that will support your decision and help and just like everyone said this is not your fault. I hope time heals your heart. Put your time and energy into your beautiful children and you will find your answers.

TanMansMomma32 - Tuesday, 22 Sep
Im sorry hun! Things are rough right now, if you feel you did what was right for you and your baby then you did...

hopefulash - Tuesday, 22 Sep
So sorry Ashes, try to stay positive. You made the right choice. things will work out...

*dcsfantasticfour - Tuesday, 22 Sep
Aw sweetie..... Things seem extreamly hard right now but TRUST me time will heal all!!! You have to put yourself and your children first! You CAN do this, Shawn might come around and you might work it out, BUT as of now work on healing yourself, You are a very strong woman, and this too shall pass

*AMANDA* - Tuesday, 22 Sep
im so sorry baby. YOU didnt do anything, he made his decision if he wants to pick alcohol and partying over his family.. then i guess thats his problem. You are an amazing person i dont have to met you in person to know that. As far as your kids go, i think that my parents divorce would have been easier on me at thier age... my parents split when i was 12. I am sorry for everything that your going through. Just like God had a reason for taking my baby, im sure he has a purpose behind this too. Even though people telling you that doesnt help (i know). If you need anything im here for ya girlie!

ttcbby1 - Tuesday, 22 Sep
You did NOT do ANYTHING wrong.. like you said, he made HIS choice & left.. you are a strong women!! Be strong for the kids! Sending you a big hug!

tasha3withwingsbailey - Tuesday, 22 Sep
Oh darling... Please don't blame yourself for this. HE made his choice and if alcohol is more important to him than you and the kids then he deserves the alcohol. I have a friend that went through the same thing and you can bet her life is better now and her son Peyton has a much better life now as well. Just stay strong and know that you are doing the right thing although it hurts and it may feel wrong it is the right decision. I will pray for you both!

STCT - Tuesday, 22 Sep
I'm sorry this has happened, but you didn't ruin anything. You are a strong person and will work through this.

trying4thirdangel - Tuesday, 22 Sep
you DIDNT ruin everything. You did the best thing for your children and while people may not agree with the situation you need to get into the mindset that you are making sure your children have great influences in their lives...you will be fine honey....hugs

nich-vegas-mommy - Tuesday, 22 Sep
He doesn't deserve you or his family. He is being a manipulative person - it seems as if might see this as his 'free ticket' to drinking. He knows the situation right now - he knows you are pregnant and have kids and you feel as if you need him and you can't do it alone - perhaps he is hoping for you to say "ok, drink, as long as you will come back to me". What a surprise it will be when you DON'T beg him back!! You and your children don't need someone in there life who will put a drink before family and love. It's ridiculous. There is no excuse for that, period. They deserve better, you deserve better. You can make it without him. He'll learn real fast that your life is about your kids - it's not about him. I hope he comes around and gets some help, but always remember you don't NEED HIM. You've got your beautiful babies and you are a strong beautiful woman.

biziemom - Tuesday, 22 Sep
hey sweetie, i know how you feel, i found out my ex was cheating on me when i was pregnant with my youngest, and he left i was further along than you but i was also high risk and he didnt care, he chose the town slut over his wife and kids. men are dogs, i made it just fine with the help of my friends and my own inner strength, and i know you can too. he will realize he gave up the best thing in the world and hopefully its not to late to change and make things right, my ex waited till i was married again and then poured it all out to me and begged for me back

chrissi10990 - Tuesday, 22 Sep
I am so sorry sweetie! Growing up around alcoholics I can tell you this is what they do. He doesnt want to have to make a choice between drinking and his family, so most likely he thinks if he leaves and makes you think its all your fault then you will ask him to come back and tell him its ok for him to drink as long as he doesnt leave you guys. I watched my brother do the same thing to my SIL & their 4 kids. She gave in so he is back, thinking his drinking is justified and her & the kids are miserable. Thank god at this point the kids are old enuf to move on.. PLease stay strong for your children. If you ever want to talk (or just vent) I am here :(

luckywhite - Tuesday, 22 Sep
men are idiots.. im not convinced its over.. he WILL be back.. its up to you whether you want him there.stay stong xx

mamakristin - Tuesday, 22 Sep
Im am really sorry this is happening to you. Dont blame your self, I remember reading your blog about how bad it was when he was drinking all the time. You dont want you and your kids going through that all the time. I cant believe he would chose drinking over his family! Thats ridiculous.. It wasnt that long ago that he said he would never do it again and knew what it was doing to those kids, now, hes leaving you guys to drink. Thats not right. I think he'll wake up, but i think when he does, it could be too late. I know its gotta be hard, but hang in there.. this is for the best, especially if he is going to put booze in front of his family. Your children will be just fine! You just concentrate on this pregnancy and them now!

Cherryb0m - Tuesday, 22 Sep
oh i am soo sorry. i can only imagine how hard this is for you but you are a strong independant woman and are making the best choice for you and your kids. i grew up with an alcoholic dad and it was horrible. my mom didnt have the guts to leave him till i was in 11th grade. alcohol is a horrible drug of choice and can ruin families and homes. stay strong. it took me a long time to understand this and actually beleive it, but you cant make someone stop drinking unless they really want to. i can remember my brother at 4 YEARS OLD pulling a chair up to the kitchen sink and dumping out my dads beer down the sink begging him not to drink on his birthday. kids know whats going on..... stay strong girl!!!!!!!!!

tattooedmomma - Tuesday, 22 Sep
Awww. Don't put yourself down and don't worry about your kids. They have a awesome mother who is courageous and strong! I raised my two eldest boys on my own and it's the best thing I could ever had done for them as they're father is an addict and would only have been a bad influence on them. Keep your chin up and know we are all here for you if you need someone to talk to!

littlemissfatty!! - Tuesday, 22 Sep
omg u dont know me but i have to say this is NOT ur fault...if anything u r doin a courageous thing to put ur childrens safety 1st, alcohol can be an evil evil part of life an shud not be underestimated. ur beautiful and ur kids r lovely so for him to choose drink he is MAD!! but like u sed its HIS choice an that is in no way ur fault!! hope u feel better soon an dont blame urself x x x

excitedmummy - Tuesday, 22 Sep
im soo sorry hun x.... try stay strong for u bubs and the kids..you seem like a lovely girl,its not yur fault k.

amy011 - Tuesday, 22 Sep
This is NOT your fault. You have done the right thing. You have said what you will and will not put up with and if he can't deal with that it's his issue- not you. You only have one life and you have your children to think about as well as yourself. Be selfish. If he is why can't you. Think about what you REALLY want. Everything happens for a reason and it's only there to make us stronger. Good luck xx

SarahLJ - Tuesday, 22 Sep
I am so sorry to hear its over. You have done nothing wrong, it isn't your fault at all. If he choice alcohol over you and his children then then he is not worth it at all. I know nothing anybody says will help you right now but we are here for you hun. Stay strong for the children.

ammunitionbutterfly - Monday, 21 Sep
Oh sweet heart!!!! I wish I was there to hug you right now!!!!! I'm sooo soo sorry!!!!!

Duffy - Monday, 21 Sep
I am sorry hun about it; but don't think you have done anything wrong - it is not your fault! He has the problem with alcohol, you have supported him the best that you can to help him over come this but if he refuses to overcome it there is nothing you can do about that. In the long term I know things will work out for the best for you and your children

haileys mommy - Monday, 21 Sep
I'm so sorry hun, try and stay strong for the kids.

melissabkr - Monday, 21 Sep
be strong,everything happens for a reason,your kids need you ,wish you the best ...

baby[bump]mama - Monday, 21 Sep
i am sorry, but you need to remember what is best for you and your children. Alcohol can be dangerous when someone takes it too far.

brendalee - Monday, 21 Sep
I'm so sorry hun. You didn't ruin anything...your kids and the LO on the way will love you no matter what happens because you're an awesome mother, with or without him. And you did NOTHING wrong, as you said...he made HIS choice. If drinking is more important than his family then let him go...you and your children will be just fine without him.

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