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Ashes~is~Blessed
Age: 27
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City: St. George
Partner: My Love ~ Shawn
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23-9-2009 - New Beginnings numb but hopefulMy mood while writing this blog:
numb but hopeful



Well let me try and make this as short as possible. So Monday Shawn and I were fighting. Nothing too bad, just stress fighting over money and such. Then out of the blue he says that this isn't working and he "doesn't see us going anywhere" because I don't trust him. He says I am always questioning whether he is going to drink again. I said well he has yet to prove to me that he will not drink. I need more than a few weeks. He just said He wants to drink and blah blah blah. That's when I told him to go drink then (then cried for him to stay) so he packed up and left. I talked to him for about 5 minutes Tuesday morning and was surprised to hear he was SOBER....(oh believe me I can tell) He said he was going to stay at our buddy Dolamite's house and record some music. I was doubtful as usually this is when he takes off and gets so drunk he won't call me. He will call EVERYONE in his phonebook but me. So ALL day after I talked to him I did not hear a work and just cried all day. My LIPS were even so swollen and I lost 4 pounds in a day!! ( I SWEAR IT WAS THE CRYING!) So this morning I got a call from him. I was expecting the drunk Shawn...the man I hate. It wasn't him. It was just Shawn....sober. I asked why he didn't call and he said honestly that he didn't want to talk to me. He said he was a wreck and D-mite even tried talking to him and tried getting him to open up. He said he needed to think about everything in his own head and not be influenced by anyone. I then asked why he said he wanted to drink. He said I took him wrong. He said "Yes I want to drink...EVERYDAY I want to drink..But I won't. I don't want to lose my family. I don't want to drink because of what I will lose but it's something I struggle with everyday and I need YOUR trust in helping me. None of this is your fault and I know you need time to trust me but our relationship is doomed without trust." I WAS AMAZED! I expected things to be so different....I imagined him like he used to be....off so drunk somewhere that I had to be called to pick him up because he passed out in the parking lot of a bar, or him calling me to come get him because he was so drunk he didn't know where he was. But it wasn't even close. Dolamite called to tell me he didn't even have A BEER while he was gone....NOTHING!!! Yes this gives me hope, but I have a lot of reservation. I will definitely try and put more trust in him, because he is right on that...I need to let go of some fears. but HE needs to understand that I DO have fears. He is home now and we had a really good day. We even made love for the first time in 3 WEEKS! I prayed and prayed and cried and cried that things would be okay....maybe this is a start.....maybe this is what needed to happen for us BOTH to realize we need to work harder....maybe this is a new beginning. Time will tell. THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR ALL OF YOUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS. I would have lost my my sanity if it were not for you ladies. You mean EVERYTHING to me...and when I (and Diane..lol) win the lottery I am going to start a IAP ANNUAL EVENT!! Where we can all get together and meet! :) I love you all and thank you again! :)


29 Comments on New Beginnings


TanMansMomma32 - Friday, 25 Sep
I just started crying I had an alcoholic as my now exhusband... and those words that he said to you were amazing because he wants to change!! I am so happy that there is light in this darkness.. I know that it is hard but I know that you guys are going to be able to make it!! =)

B3thy - Thursday, 24 Sep
good luck...I hope everything works out!

*dcsfantasticfour - Thursday, 24 Sep
LOVE YOU TOO SWEETIE!!!!!

AbbottBaby2 - Thursday, 24 Sep
Good for you guys for working it out. I'm happy it turned out okay!

melissabkr - Thursday, 24 Sep
ooooooh im so excited about the anual events :D i want to go,good luck with everything hope things will work out for you both sometimes people just need to touch button to wake up and that just makes your love stronger is always worth to give it a new try...

R-N-E-Bump - Thursday, 24 Sep
YAY! I'm sooo happy things seem to have gone in a positive direction for you and Shawn. I've been praying for you both and will continue to do so.

MamaLuvnJah - Thursday, 24 Sep
Like I said before he needs your help and can't do it alone. I know you won't give up on him and being alive for his children should be enough strength for him to go to AA. I pray that he goes. The support group can help. Just like we here for you on IAP. LOL

nich-vegas-mommy - Thursday, 24 Sep
Glad to hear there is hope! Be strong and stay healthy!!

southstar - Thursday, 24 Sep
oh beautiful!! i'm glad things are going your way, EVERYTHING happens for a reason honey, EVERYTHING. That baby came at a perfect time as well...he/she and ur son and daughter i'm sure have a major influence on him. I wish you all the best

kbpc3949 - Thursday, 24 Sep
Glad to hear things sound to be on the right track!

ttcbby1 - Thursday, 24 Sep
Aww hun I am so happy that you guys talked and Shawn didn't go out drinking!! It will take a lot more than just a few sober days I'm sure, but you guys love eachother and I am sure you will work through it. Everyone has issues, every couple goes through something! But it is important to not just go and give up- so again, I am so happy for you that things are looking brighter! Just remember even if you guys have a little spat over something, stay calm- you have a beautiful life growing inside you- and its life from both of you... HUGS! Oh yeah- and I agree- if I win the lottery before you or Diane I am totally arranging it so we can all meet :-) How awesome will that be! Haha.. take care!

amy011 - Thursday, 24 Sep
Oh thats great news! I am really pleased, I think you're right that it's what you needed a quick reality check. Good luck and remember everything happens for a reason xx

cpalmer - Thursday, 24 Sep
good!! i figured he might not have the sense to go there again with the drinking, he may have problems but hes not stupid :) im so happy for u that u guys are working together!! its not easy! but have faith and never lose hope and it will get easier, much love hun xxxxx

OverTheRainbow - Thursday, 24 Sep
Girl...I have lived first hand with alcoholics...and I have seen my neighbor go through the same thing with her husband just a few months ago (And they have a newborn)...anyhow...I know it's hard, but you haved to try and put a little more faith in him right now. He needs that...and your relationship needs that. I know it sounds unfair to ask that of you, after all he has put you through...but alcoholism is a disease, and it sounds like he is on the right track. He's admitting that it's a problem, and he acknowledges that he wants to drink - but is going to try his best to stay away. He needs you to be his rock right now. YOu can do it!!! :) WOMAN POWER!! haha. Hugs to you, hang in there!!

DiandClover - Thursday, 24 Sep
I must say, I am surprised too that he did not drink while he was having his breakdown, usually that is when you are most likely to crack. Good for you Shawn :) I wish you both all the luck in the world, and I hope Shawn stays the course. He does need to understand that your trust must be earned back, and work towards that end. He still seems very much convinced he can do it on his own - I hope he soon sees the benefit of a counseling program to help him, like AA. and YES, when those lotto numbers come up there will be a MASSIVE IAP retreat planned! ((HUG))

SarahLJ - Thursday, 24 Sep
I'm glad things all worked out for you hun and he didn't drink whilst he was away.

claire louise - Thursday, 24 Sep
Aww great news hun. I hope your right and it's the start of sumthing great.x

Lilmissesmum- - Wednesday, 23 Sep
Good to hear it worked out, just remember there is always hope. :)

Duffy - Wednesday, 23 Sep
I am glad things as starting to sort out for you and hubby....I pray that this is a new beginning for you both and that he can stay sober and you can learn to trust him....good luck hun

ashysmm1 - Wednesday, 23 Sep
So glad to hear things are on the right track.

boyoboy - Wednesday, 23 Sep
I would love to meet you someday, so hurry up and win the lotto. That is great you two talked, good luck and don't stress too much with that miracle brewing inside of you. He better know how lucky he is.

nikkipearl - Wednesday, 23 Sep
Im glad everything worked out for you guys...now you need to kick your feet up and relax so your lil baby isnt stressed out too!!

Cherryb0m - Wednesday, 23 Sep
good luck hun, i really hope everything works out for you guys :-)

brendalee - Wednesday, 23 Sep
I'm glad he didn't drink while he was away and you two are going to try to work things out, hopefully it's the start of a new beginning. :)

Mommy2KayleeAndKeira - Wednesday, 23 Sep
I'm glad to hear that your making it work. Good luck

mrs lady - Wednesday, 23 Sep
Im glad that things are working out for you, trust takes time but it will eventually happen.

*AMANDA* - Wednesday, 23 Sep
Thats a lot of stress for you babe, hope everything works out for the best! Your always in my thoughts and prayers!

STCT - Wednesday, 23 Sep
I'm so glad to hear everything is going well. Sometimes something bad needs to happen so the good to come out. I think it's really sweet he'll do everything in his power not to drink because you and your family mean more to him.

dreame - Wednesday, 23 Sep
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