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22 Comments on Question For The First Time Mommies!
babymoIV - Saturday, 24 Jan
Beauti Let me just tell you first your personality comes right out of the screen. and you are one cool girl! ANyway, I am scared a little but like you I wont feel guilty if I have to take med. I am going to try it without though. I think your body will know what to do when the time comes. I would try not to worry too much! you do want to try to Relax. Good luck GIrl!
smweston - Wednesday, 7 Jan
Hey Beauty! I have an 8 month old son. I had a pretty crazy labor! I was induced and was in labor for 3 days before I finally had a C section! I know that's a little extreme but if I could give you ANY advice it'd BE to just relax and KNOW that women have been doing this FOREVER! It's totally natural and the MOST amazing experience no matter how she comes out! I am a big girl too and I had the SAME fears as you do. I decided for the epidural and it made my labor slow WAY down so ask your doctor what they recommend when you should get it. My doctor said AFTER 4cm. It still took 3 days. When I FINALLY was fully dilated my son wasn't fully engaged and he was turned sideways so he had to be taken out by a C section! You'll do FINE!!!! You know what the BEST part is????? You'll forget about the labor, the pain, the anxiety, and being scared when you see her beautiful little face and get to relish in the fact that you are a Mommy!!! I am SOOO excited for you and KNOW you'll do great!! Good luck! :)
Olivias-Jrs-Mommy - Sunday, 4 Jan
im terrified to be honest. i put up a front like im not but im having some weird pains and the thought of it getting worst than this kills me. lol i pray i dont need a c section but hey if thats what god has in store for me then so be it. i will go for as long as i can with no meds as u said but if im screaming for meds then guess wat OH WELL lol
luvmybunnybelly - Thursday, 1 Jan
im not as far along as you are... but i do wonder whats going to happen. the good thing about ur plan is that ur going to try to give birth the way u know u want to, then u also have accepted that if things dont work out that u wouldnt beat urself up. make sure u follow through if ur plan doesnt go on schudule. women from the begining of time have been giving birth but as each woman stepped up to the plate i bet their was a bit of nervousness, whole lotta pain, and the usual -just get it out!! ~~~~but u asked if im scared yes i am very scared, nervous, anxious, and all those other emotions that go threw any mother to bes mind. im concerned about the pain, but im more concerned to see this mysterous person ive carried for this time, whut they look like, their smile and im really looking forward to when they grab my pinky. and when u read this and think about ur little girl smiling at u, yawning.. grabbing ur pinky tight. u will find ur inner strength to overcome the whole labor worries and just want to hold her. how she needs to get here is how she needs to get here but the only thing that matters is that she gets here healthy. hope this helps. cuz honestly thats how i think of it. happy new years!! and i hope things go as u plan. mmmwauh!
MINATB18 - Wednesday, 31 Dec
I feel the same way you do, I also have a low tolerance for pain. But, at the same time it will all be worth it once our newborns get here.
katesmommy - Wednesday, 31 Dec
Beauti,
Women have been having babies for thousands of years. And lets face it some of those women are not nearly as strong as you and I. :) Your body knows exactly what it is supposed to do. You will do just fine.
Now regarding medication...just go with the flow. And know this-there is no trophy for delivering a baby without an epidural. If you choose pain meds you will still leave that hospital with a beautiful baby in your arms.
I had an epidural...it is a beautiful thing. You'll impress yourself with how strong you truly are. And you'll blow Larmar away with your strength too.
amandapmills - Wednesday, 31 Dec
i gave birth to my baby boy 6 months ago and I thought I was going to be terrified. It turns out My body knew exactly what to do and when to do it. Everything fell into place. I wont lie to you, the contraction do get painful but just breathe through them. My husband and mom had to keep telling me to breathe bc I wanted to hold my breathe during the contractions. Alot of people make it out to be like its something scary but It's not. Its the most beautiful thing I've ever experienced.... When you go to the hospital just relax bc not relaxing could slow ur labour down. Good luck and I know ur gonna do GREAT
tasha1977 - Tuesday, 30 Dec
They say when you are in labor, that's the closest thing to death. Labor is different for each woman. You can't go by what other's have experienced. I have 2 children. With my son, they broke my water and I was in labor for 14 hours. I did have an epidural with both of my children because I couldn't take the pain. Some woman can handle the pain, but I couldn't. I had my son 12 years ago when I was 18. It was an experience that I wasn't ready for. But when you are in labor, try not to be so stressed, the baby will sense it and you don't want the baby to become stress. There is a reason for everything. Some woman have c-sections because the baby is in danger. I know you would rather have your baby in a safe environment, so you would go ahead with the c-section. I had both of my children vaginally. But if I neede a c-section, I would have done it, at the end of the day, it's all about the health of the baby. I heard about the meds and went with it, but not all woman are the same. Talk to your Dr and see what options you have. At the end of the day, you are the one who is there in that room at that time having the baby. You do what you have to do to make sure you have a healthy baby. I can say it was easier delivering my daughter, she came right out. I had to have pitocin with her too because my water broke and my labor wasn't progressing. But with my son, I was dilating and my water didn't break, they had to break it and he still took 14 hours to come out. They even had to use the suction cup with him. I have people in my family whose labor was a lot easier than mines, but every woman is different. I pray that you have a safe delivery and remember it's all about the baby.
13yearsapart - Tuesday, 30 Dec
Ok, first of all this is my second child. I had a c-sec with my daugther because she was breech so I had no choice in the matter. And the recovery is somewhat painful as with any major surgery! BUT, the doc gives you meds for a REASON!! Take them and recovery is much, much easier!!
And as for natural labor, I went into labor three weeks prior to my c-sec and had to have a shot to stop it cause we we're too early to deliver and she was breech. But for the contrations I did have, they were painful, but you need to focus on other things while they are happening! ALSO, make sure you let your OB know that you are having these anxiety attacks about it and they can HELP you figure out a birth plan!!!!!
The meds are there for a REASON, the easier it is on you the easier it is on muffin girl!! Just remember that!!!!
Dont let people tell you aweful labor and delivery stories cause they DON"T help you at all!!!!!!!!!! You are a strong woman, you have already proved that by what I know about you. Just let the doc's and nurses take care of you the way they are supposed to, and if you have a question about ANYTHING they are doing, make sure you ask!!!
I hope this gave you a little more insight to what your about to face one way or the other and I wish you the best!!!
~ hugs~ Candy
Anesha - Tuesday, 30 Dec
I was pregnant for the first time 18 months ago and I remember that I felt just like you do. I was scared from the moment I saw a BFP. My nerves were so bad I began having anxiety issues with the thought of labor and a potential c section. By the time the 37th week came I wanted that baby out of me so bad I didn't care. Then when labor began it felt like bad menstrual cramps. For months in my mind i had conjured up the worst pain ever so this pain was not so bad. Unfortunately I allowed them to break my water and they kept giving me internal exams afterwards so I got a fever. Then I allowed the use of pitocin to rush my labor for reasons I still don't know as I had not been in the hospital for 10 hours yet. The pitocin caused my babies heartrate to decline. Then I got the epidural which totally stopped my labor. I screamed and hollered when they told me I have to get a c section!!!! I felt like my world was coming to an end. I cried so bad and hard that they had to get the upper level staff in there to literally baby me and comfort me. They promised to give me a pencil thin incision. They made good on that promise but the recovery from c section was really REALLY painful for me. It was worse than the labor itself. So leave those meds alone honey. Don't let them break your water and continue to give you internal exams every 30 minutes. I learned later on that that hospital has a 54% c section rate. Over half of the women that labor there end up with a c section and I was one of them. Educate yourself now and know that your body and baby are working together to birth your baby. Work with your body not against it. I am pregnant again and I am having a natural birth this time with no interventions.
gamama31791 - Tuesday, 30 Dec
Im not a first time mommy, BUT...Let me tell you the mistake that I made. This is my third child and with my other 2 kids we never had the internet. I never knew what it looked like or how it would feel. Well a couple of months ago I went on YOU TUBE (very bad mistake) B/C now I am terrified. I promise you when your going through it, it may hurt. But after wards you REALLY do forget what it was like. I swear! I forgot UNTIL I watch the videos of home/hosp births and it brought back memories. If I would've never watched those videos I would've been so much better off, b/c now I am nervous and yes this is my third child. Not to mention every single birth is different. My first took 5 hours, and my second took only 3. I'm thinking now what if its longer with this one. All in all it just may be best to wait & be surprised how your little one comes. One thing for sure is now I will never ever view those videos again. Its like trying to get yourself prepared for death (not saying this is anything like death). Knowing its going to be coming and trying to figure out how to deal with the pain. Its just too stressful. One thing is for sure DON'T LISTEN TO LABOR STORIES> OMG i'm so tired of ppl telling an expectant mother how much dying pain they were in. How is that going to help them besides keep them in a nervous wreck??? Every woman is different, and it may not even be that bad for you. Just keep thinking about how your going to be holding that little precious muffin and everything will be ok. I PROMISE!!! Besides god intended us to have babies, and he never puts nothing on us that we can't handle.
X-LeahsMummy-X - Tuesday, 30 Dec
i am not scared of labour at all... and that scared me. cos i no its gonna hurt and i no its gonna be horrible. but i just cant imagaine it, i cant see how painful it could be so its not scaring me lol. i wish i was scared cos then at least i will be expecting the worst, but as i am not scared the labour is gonna be one massive shock for me. im gonna be struck with all this pain i was not expecting. but i just cant get scared its weird. does that make sence?? x
andriette and christians mummy liz - Tuesday, 30 Dec
I FEEL THIS EXACT SAME WAY ABOUT C SECTION.WHEN I THINK ABOUT IT OR HEAR THE WORD I START TO HAVE A PANIC ATTACK.IM TOTALY SCARED S@ITLESS OF BEING OPERATED ON,IM SCARED I NEVER WAKE UP AND DIE ON THE TABLE.IM SCARED THEY WILL CUT ON ME WHILE I STILL HAVE FELLING.I FIND MYSELF MORE RELAXED ABOUT A VAGINAL DELIVERY,I DUNNO WHY.IM GOING TO TRY GO WITHOUT MEDS LIKE U,BUT IF I FEEL THE NEED I WILL ASK FOR IV MEDS,COZ IM ALSO SCARED OF A EPIDURAL(I HAD A LUMBER PUNCH A WHILE AGO AND LETS JUST SAY ITS BAD).I DO GET A LITTLE SCARED WHEN I THINK ABOUT WELL HOW IS SHE GONNA FIT THRU THAT TINY HOLE(SORY TMI) AND WILL I BE ABLE TO TAKE THE PAIN???AND WILL I KNOW HOW TO BREATHE THRU IT ALL.MY ONE FRIEND I MENTIONED ON ONE OF MY BLOGS HAD HER BABY 2ND DECEMBER AND SHE WAS ALSO SCARED ALOT AND SHE CRIED ONE NIGHT,SAYING SHE CANT HANDLE NOT KNOWING HOW ITS GONNA FEEL BUT SHE SAID IT WAS PAINFULL,NO ARGUEING THAT BUT IT WAS NEVER MORE THAN SHE COULD HANDLE.U JUT HAVE TO GO INTO THE WHOLE EXPERIENCE AS RELAXED AS POSSIBLE.IM CALMING MYSELF DOWN BY VISUALISING THE WORST CASE SCENARIO AND KEEPING AN OPEN MIND.I TELL MYSELF ITS GONNA BE BLOODY PAINFULL BUT ITS EITHER THAT OR A SECTION,EITHER WAY IS SORE.TRY TO RELAX AND PREPARE YOURSELVE AND DONT HAVE UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS OF YOURSELVE.TAKE THAT EPIDURAL IF U NEED IT.OR TAKE IV MEDS JUST TO TAKE THE EDGE OF.MY MIL LOOKED AT ME WEIRD WHEN I TOLD HER IF WONT BE ABLE TO TAKE THE PAIN MEDS,BUT NO ONE THE SAME.IM HERE IF U NEED SOMEONE TO SPEAK TO:-)
CooperMom1st - Tuesday, 30 Dec
I am extremely scared of the thought of it and I'm only in week 26 now, but I've been wondering how I was gonna get through it as well, I am registered at a all natural birth hospital, they only have midwives, they do not allow med's, so everything has to be done naturally only if something really goes wrong will they transfer you to their neibouring hospital, where med's and c-sections are allowed... so I'm scared out of my mind, I have a this thing that when i experience really intense pain I go quiet, so I dont no how this is going to be, I might be quiet or I might go off like a fire cracker and explode all over the place...
shug1stbebe - Tuesday, 30 Dec
Am I scared? Sometimes I'm minutes away from a panic attack..lol. I am scared of the pain, I am scared that I will poop on the table, I am scared that I will wait too long b4 asking for an epidural and miss my window, I am afraid after birth I won't be able to breast feed, I am scared my good girl won't have a "snapback" after birth (hehe). And that is only a quarter of the list of my fears. I'm trying not to worry about it and concentrating on just that she gets here safe and healthy.
stillsexy08 - Tuesday, 30 Dec
god will never put notthing on us that we cant bare
femi - Tuesday, 30 Dec
i was soooo nervous and fearful right around the point you are now and the thought that women have been doing this forever really helped give me strength and courage. the breathing that i learned and practiced in lamaze also helped keep me going, truthfully. and the support system i had ... calm and yet assertive and always reminded me that i could do it and to continue breathing well. you can and will do this and it's going to be amazing.
verom02 - Tuesday, 30 Dec
I'm not a first time mom but i had my son 8 years ago and so this kind of feels like my first time just cus its been so so long (or at least thats the way it feels), so when i had my son i wanted to go without any pain meds or the epidural but by the time i was dialated to 5 i couldnt stand the pain and requested the epidural. Well, since i hadn't requested it before, the anesthesiologist didn't get there until i was 8 centemiters dialated, then i had my son 15 minutes after the epidural. The hours i spent waiting for the anesthesiologist to come was the longest time of my life. I remember thinking that he was probably home eating breakfast and drinking his coffee while reading the newspaper while i was in the most painful moment of my life. Also, i know that pain is better controlled when you get pain med before your pain is way high. Trust me, don't get scared to ask for any type of pain relieve, the nurses are there to help and monitor you and your baby. I'm just telling you this so that you don't have to go through unecessary pain. :)
trixie369 - Tuesday, 30 Dec
You know whats funny? I was having the SAME EXACT fears as you when I was 36 weeks. It's funny. As time progresses and the time is coming, you will not have these fears as bad. Not until you are actually in labor. But, I say...if I can do it, anyone can do it. I grew up my whole life thinking I would have a c section because my mom had to. But, when it came time to push, it is the best relief. The sucky part is getting to that part.
Take care! YOu are going to do awesome!!!! Visualize soothing things.
aarons-mom - Tuesday, 30 Dec
hi girl, u should not be scared. everything will be fine. dont forget to pray dear. He knows whats best. we just need to ask for His guidance always. Take care. xoxo
adnorel - Tuesday, 30 Dec
I'm not a first time mommy but I can tell you I'm scared as ever and I had it pretty good the first time. But my son is 8 and that was sooo long ago. I keep thinking about hemroids (not that I spelled that right) enema or no enema.....pain, recovery.....etc.
nena70211 - Tuesday, 30 Dec
i'm scared too, not so much of the pain... okay, i'll be honest i'm a little scared of the pain..i'm def getting meds.. but more that i'm going to be by myself when the pain starts and that i'm going to go through labor alone.. or that nothing down there is going to get back to normal.. or that something will happen to the baby.. seriously i don't know how women do it..
I read somewhere that you just have to be realistic of your expectations of labor and you'll be fine..
| 29-12-2008 - Question For The First Time Mommies! |  My mood while writing this blog:Nervous |
Here I sit wondering certain things.
I am not naive, so I want that to be understood, I know exactly where babies come from. I've known where babies come from since the age of seven years old.
However as, I sit here currently 36 weeks pregnant, I just wonder HOW MINES IS GOING TO GET HERE!!
I DO NOT want a c-section so of course that just leaves vaginal birth! Well let me tell you I am scared of labor. As my pregnancy progresses, and I am so lucky that it has...I have no idea how she's going to be born because I am so fearful, and the pure thought of labor scares me.
I have been looking @ web sites and I am so thankful for those women that actually allow the graphic pictures, and videos to be shown because they give me insight on what could happen. I saw one woman give birth to a 10 pound baby and I had an anxiety attack. I have low tolerance for pain, but I've decided that I will try to go without meds for as long as possible before, and IF I decide to ask for medication.
I've already decided that I will not beat myself up if I am not able to deal with the pain because the medication is being offered for a reason. NOW time for my question!!
For the first time Mommies..
Are you scared?
What are some of the thoughts that go through your head when it comes to labor?
I am hoping that my body will relax and let nature take it's course because women have been giving birth for centuries, but this is my first time, and I am so scared that I have no idea what to do!
22 Comments on Question For The First Time Mommies!
babymoIV - Saturday, 24 Jan
Beauti Let me just tell you first your personality comes right out of the screen. and you are one cool girl! ANyway, I am scared a little but like you I wont feel guilty if I have to take med. I am going to try it without though. I think your body will know what to do when the time comes. I would try not to worry too much! you do want to try to Relax. Good luck GIrl!
smweston - Wednesday, 7 Jan
Hey Beauty! I have an 8 month old son. I had a pretty crazy labor! I was induced and was in labor for 3 days before I finally had a C section! I know that's a little extreme but if I could give you ANY advice it'd BE to just relax and KNOW that women have been doing this FOREVER! It's totally natural and the MOST amazing experience no matter how she comes out! I am a big girl too and I had the SAME fears as you do. I decided for the epidural and it made my labor slow WAY down so ask your doctor what they recommend when you should get it. My doctor said AFTER 4cm. It still took 3 days. When I FINALLY was fully dilated my son wasn't fully engaged and he was turned sideways so he had to be taken out by a C section! You'll do FINE!!!! You know what the BEST part is????? You'll forget about the labor, the pain, the anxiety, and being scared when you see her beautiful little face and get to relish in the fact that you are a Mommy!!! I am SOOO excited for you and KNOW you'll do great!! Good luck! :)
Olivias-Jrs-Mommy - Sunday, 4 Jan
im terrified to be honest. i put up a front like im not but im having some weird pains and the thought of it getting worst than this kills me. lol i pray i dont need a c section but hey if thats what god has in store for me then so be it. i will go for as long as i can with no meds as u said but if im screaming for meds then guess wat OH WELL lol
luvmybunnybelly - Thursday, 1 Jan
im not as far along as you are... but i do wonder whats going to happen. the good thing about ur plan is that ur going to try to give birth the way u know u want to, then u also have accepted that if things dont work out that u wouldnt beat urself up. make sure u follow through if ur plan doesnt go on schudule. women from the begining of time have been giving birth but as each woman stepped up to the plate i bet their was a bit of nervousness, whole lotta pain, and the usual -just get it out!! ~~~~but u asked if im scared yes i am very scared, nervous, anxious, and all those other emotions that go threw any mother to bes mind. im concerned about the pain, but im more concerned to see this mysterous person ive carried for this time, whut they look like, their smile and im really looking forward to when they grab my pinky. and when u read this and think about ur little girl smiling at u, yawning.. grabbing ur pinky tight. u will find ur inner strength to overcome the whole labor worries and just want to hold her. how she needs to get here is how she needs to get here but the only thing that matters is that she gets here healthy. hope this helps. cuz honestly thats how i think of it. happy new years!! and i hope things go as u plan. mmmwauh!
MINATB18 - Wednesday, 31 Dec
I feel the same way you do, I also have a low tolerance for pain. But, at the same time it will all be worth it once our newborns get here.
katesmommy - Wednesday, 31 Dec
Beauti,
Women have been having babies for thousands of years. And lets face it some of those women are not nearly as strong as you and I. :) Your body knows exactly what it is supposed to do. You will do just fine.
Now regarding medication...just go with the flow. And know this-there is no trophy for delivering a baby without an epidural. If you choose pain meds you will still leave that hospital with a beautiful baby in your arms.
I had an epidural...it is a beautiful thing. You'll impress yourself with how strong you truly are. And you'll blow Larmar away with your strength too.
amandapmills - Wednesday, 31 Dec
i gave birth to my baby boy 6 months ago and I thought I was going to be terrified. It turns out My body knew exactly what to do and when to do it. Everything fell into place. I wont lie to you, the contraction do get painful but just breathe through them. My husband and mom had to keep telling me to breathe bc I wanted to hold my breathe during the contractions. Alot of people make it out to be like its something scary but It's not. Its the most beautiful thing I've ever experienced.... When you go to the hospital just relax bc not relaxing could slow ur labour down. Good luck and I know ur gonna do GREAT
tasha1977 - Tuesday, 30 Dec
They say when you are in labor, that's the closest thing to death. Labor is different for each woman. You can't go by what other's have experienced. I have 2 children. With my son, they broke my water and I was in labor for 14 hours. I did have an epidural with both of my children because I couldn't take the pain. Some woman can handle the pain, but I couldn't. I had my son 12 years ago when I was 18. It was an experience that I wasn't ready for. But when you are in labor, try not to be so stressed, the baby will sense it and you don't want the baby to become stress. There is a reason for everything. Some woman have c-sections because the baby is in danger. I know you would rather have your baby in a safe environment, so you would go ahead with the c-section. I had both of my children vaginally. But if I neede a c-section, I would have done it, at the end of the day, it's all about the health of the baby. I heard about the meds and went with it, but not all woman are the same. Talk to your Dr and see what options you have. At the end of the day, you are the one who is there in that room at that time having the baby. You do what you have to do to make sure you have a healthy baby. I can say it was easier delivering my daughter, she came right out. I had to have pitocin with her too because my water broke and my labor wasn't progressing. But with my son, I was dilating and my water didn't break, they had to break it and he still took 14 hours to come out. They even had to use the suction cup with him. I have people in my family whose labor was a lot easier than mines, but every woman is different. I pray that you have a safe delivery and remember it's all about the baby.
13yearsapart - Tuesday, 30 Dec
Ok, first of all this is my second child. I had a c-sec with my daugther because she was breech so I had no choice in the matter. And the recovery is somewhat painful as with any major surgery! BUT, the doc gives you meds for a REASON!! Take them and recovery is much, much easier!!
And as for natural labor, I went into labor three weeks prior to my c-sec and had to have a shot to stop it cause we we're too early to deliver and she was breech. But for the contrations I did have, they were painful, but you need to focus on other things while they are happening! ALSO, make sure you let your OB know that you are having these anxiety attacks about it and they can HELP you figure out a birth plan!!!!!
The meds are there for a REASON, the easier it is on you the easier it is on muffin girl!! Just remember that!!!!
Dont let people tell you aweful labor and delivery stories cause they DON"T help you at all!!!!!!!!!! You are a strong woman, you have already proved that by what I know about you. Just let the doc's and nurses take care of you the way they are supposed to, and if you have a question about ANYTHING they are doing, make sure you ask!!!
I hope this gave you a little more insight to what your about to face one way or the other and I wish you the best!!!
~ hugs~ Candy
Anesha - Tuesday, 30 Dec
I was pregnant for the first time 18 months ago and I remember that I felt just like you do. I was scared from the moment I saw a BFP. My nerves were so bad I began having anxiety issues with the thought of labor and a potential c section. By the time the 37th week came I wanted that baby out of me so bad I didn't care. Then when labor began it felt like bad menstrual cramps. For months in my mind i had conjured up the worst pain ever so this pain was not so bad. Unfortunately I allowed them to break my water and they kept giving me internal exams afterwards so I got a fever. Then I allowed the use of pitocin to rush my labor for reasons I still don't know as I had not been in the hospital for 10 hours yet. The pitocin caused my babies heartrate to decline. Then I got the epidural which totally stopped my labor. I screamed and hollered when they told me I have to get a c section!!!! I felt like my world was coming to an end. I cried so bad and hard that they had to get the upper level staff in there to literally baby me and comfort me. They promised to give me a pencil thin incision. They made good on that promise but the recovery from c section was really REALLY painful for me. It was worse than the labor itself. So leave those meds alone honey. Don't let them break your water and continue to give you internal exams every 30 minutes. I learned later on that that hospital has a 54% c section rate. Over half of the women that labor there end up with a c section and I was one of them. Educate yourself now and know that your body and baby are working together to birth your baby. Work with your body not against it. I am pregnant again and I am having a natural birth this time with no interventions.
gamama31791 - Tuesday, 30 Dec
Im not a first time mommy, BUT...Let me tell you the mistake that I made. This is my third child and with my other 2 kids we never had the internet. I never knew what it looked like or how it would feel. Well a couple of months ago I went on YOU TUBE (very bad mistake) B/C now I am terrified. I promise you when your going through it, it may hurt. But after wards you REALLY do forget what it was like. I swear! I forgot UNTIL I watch the videos of home/hosp births and it brought back memories. If I would've never watched those videos I would've been so much better off, b/c now I am nervous and yes this is my third child. Not to mention every single birth is different. My first took 5 hours, and my second took only 3. I'm thinking now what if its longer with this one. All in all it just may be best to wait & be surprised how your little one comes. One thing for sure is now I will never ever view those videos again. Its like trying to get yourself prepared for death (not saying this is anything like death). Knowing its going to be coming and trying to figure out how to deal with the pain. Its just too stressful. One thing is for sure DON'T LISTEN TO LABOR STORIES> OMG i'm so tired of ppl telling an expectant mother how much dying pain they were in. How is that going to help them besides keep them in a nervous wreck??? Every woman is different, and it may not even be that bad for you. Just keep thinking about how your going to be holding that little precious muffin and everything will be ok. I PROMISE!!! Besides god intended us to have babies, and he never puts nothing on us that we can't handle.
X-LeahsMummy-X - Tuesday, 30 Dec
i am not scared of labour at all... and that scared me. cos i no its gonna hurt and i no its gonna be horrible. but i just cant imagaine it, i cant see how painful it could be so its not scaring me lol. i wish i was scared cos then at least i will be expecting the worst, but as i am not scared the labour is gonna be one massive shock for me. im gonna be struck with all this pain i was not expecting. but i just cant get scared its weird. does that make sence?? x
andriette and christians mummy liz - Tuesday, 30 Dec
I FEEL THIS EXACT SAME WAY ABOUT C SECTION.WHEN I THINK ABOUT IT OR HEAR THE WORD I START TO HAVE A PANIC ATTACK.IM TOTALY SCARED S@ITLESS OF BEING OPERATED ON,IM SCARED I NEVER WAKE UP AND DIE ON THE TABLE.IM SCARED THEY WILL CUT ON ME WHILE I STILL HAVE FELLING.I FIND MYSELF MORE RELAXED ABOUT A VAGINAL DELIVERY,I DUNNO WHY.IM GOING TO TRY GO WITHOUT MEDS LIKE U,BUT IF I FEEL THE NEED I WILL ASK FOR IV MEDS,COZ IM ALSO SCARED OF A EPIDURAL(I HAD A LUMBER PUNCH A WHILE AGO AND LETS JUST SAY ITS BAD).I DO GET A LITTLE SCARED WHEN I THINK ABOUT WELL HOW IS SHE GONNA FIT THRU THAT TINY HOLE(SORY TMI) AND WILL I BE ABLE TO TAKE THE PAIN???AND WILL I KNOW HOW TO BREATHE THRU IT ALL.MY ONE FRIEND I MENTIONED ON ONE OF MY BLOGS HAD HER BABY 2ND DECEMBER AND SHE WAS ALSO SCARED ALOT AND SHE CRIED ONE NIGHT,SAYING SHE CANT HANDLE NOT KNOWING HOW ITS GONNA FEEL BUT SHE SAID IT WAS PAINFULL,NO ARGUEING THAT BUT IT WAS NEVER MORE THAN SHE COULD HANDLE.U JUT HAVE TO GO INTO THE WHOLE EXPERIENCE AS RELAXED AS POSSIBLE.IM CALMING MYSELF DOWN BY VISUALISING THE WORST CASE SCENARIO AND KEEPING AN OPEN MIND.I TELL MYSELF ITS GONNA BE BLOODY PAINFULL BUT ITS EITHER THAT OR A SECTION,EITHER WAY IS SORE.TRY TO RELAX AND PREPARE YOURSELVE AND DONT HAVE UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS OF YOURSELVE.TAKE THAT EPIDURAL IF U NEED IT.OR TAKE IV MEDS JUST TO TAKE THE EDGE OF.MY MIL LOOKED AT ME WEIRD WHEN I TOLD HER IF WONT BE ABLE TO TAKE THE PAIN MEDS,BUT NO ONE THE SAME.IM HERE IF U NEED SOMEONE TO SPEAK TO:-)
CooperMom1st - Tuesday, 30 Dec
I am extremely scared of the thought of it and I'm only in week 26 now, but I've been wondering how I was gonna get through it as well, I am registered at a all natural birth hospital, they only have midwives, they do not allow med's, so everything has to be done naturally only if something really goes wrong will they transfer you to their neibouring hospital, where med's and c-sections are allowed... so I'm scared out of my mind, I have a this thing that when i experience really intense pain I go quiet, so I dont no how this is going to be, I might be quiet or I might go off like a fire cracker and explode all over the place...
shug1stbebe - Tuesday, 30 Dec
Am I scared? Sometimes I'm minutes away from a panic attack..lol. I am scared of the pain, I am scared that I will poop on the table, I am scared that I will wait too long b4 asking for an epidural and miss my window, I am afraid after birth I won't be able to breast feed, I am scared my good girl won't have a "snapback" after birth (hehe). And that is only a quarter of the list of my fears. I'm trying not to worry about it and concentrating on just that she gets here safe and healthy.
stillsexy08 - Tuesday, 30 Dec
god will never put notthing on us that we cant bare
femi - Tuesday, 30 Dec
i was soooo nervous and fearful right around the point you are now and the thought that women have been doing this forever really helped give me strength and courage. the breathing that i learned and practiced in lamaze also helped keep me going, truthfully. and the support system i had ... calm and yet assertive and always reminded me that i could do it and to continue breathing well. you can and will do this and it's going to be amazing.
verom02 - Tuesday, 30 Dec
I'm not a first time mom but i had my son 8 years ago and so this kind of feels like my first time just cus its been so so long (or at least thats the way it feels), so when i had my son i wanted to go without any pain meds or the epidural but by the time i was dialated to 5 i couldnt stand the pain and requested the epidural. Well, since i hadn't requested it before, the anesthesiologist didn't get there until i was 8 centemiters dialated, then i had my son 15 minutes after the epidural. The hours i spent waiting for the anesthesiologist to come was the longest time of my life. I remember thinking that he was probably home eating breakfast and drinking his coffee while reading the newspaper while i was in the most painful moment of my life. Also, i know that pain is better controlled when you get pain med before your pain is way high. Trust me, don't get scared to ask for any type of pain relieve, the nurses are there to help and monitor you and your baby. I'm just telling you this so that you don't have to go through unecessary pain. :)
trixie369 - Tuesday, 30 Dec
You know whats funny? I was having the SAME EXACT fears as you when I was 36 weeks. It's funny. As time progresses and the time is coming, you will not have these fears as bad. Not until you are actually in labor. But, I say...if I can do it, anyone can do it. I grew up my whole life thinking I would have a c section because my mom had to. But, when it came time to push, it is the best relief. The sucky part is getting to that part.
Take care! YOu are going to do awesome!!!! Visualize soothing things.
aarons-mom - Tuesday, 30 Dec
hi girl, u should not be scared. everything will be fine. dont forget to pray dear. He knows whats best. we just need to ask for His guidance always. Take care. xoxo
adnorel - Tuesday, 30 Dec
I'm not a first time mommy but I can tell you I'm scared as ever and I had it pretty good the first time. But my son is 8 and that was sooo long ago. I keep thinking about hemroids (not that I spelled that right) enema or no enema.....pain, recovery.....etc.
nena70211 - Tuesday, 30 Dec
i'm scared too, not so much of the pain... okay, i'll be honest i'm a little scared of the pain..i'm def getting meds.. but more that i'm going to be by myself when the pain starts and that i'm going to go through labor alone.. or that nothing down there is going to get back to normal.. or that something will happen to the baby.. seriously i don't know how women do it..
I read somewhere that you just have to be realistic of your expectations of labor and you'll be fine..
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