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Have you ever had a day where you felt like no one spoke the same language as you? That's how I feel today. I mean when you teach a group of three year olds there is bound to me times when you feel like they are just all ganging up on you. That I can deal with, but when you say things over and over many different ways and they still don't listen, it is just tough. All part of the job I know but still stressful. So then a parent shows up at the end of the day to pick up his son and with him in a carrier is his 2-3 month old daughter. So who runs up with a little more than a pat but not hard enough to be a real hit? My son. Oh wonderful. I go to my son and take his hands and tell him that she is little and we don't hit anyone, and that if we are going to touch a little baby then first we need to make sure our hands our clean and that it's ok with the baby's parents. So my son reluctantly backs off, he hasn't been around many babies but he does know there is one in Mommy's belly, so he is curious. Well a few minutes later he walks over to the parent and baby again, the dad was like back off, you only get to hit my kid once before I hit you back. Well, now I am angry bc even if he is joking, I am tired, pregnant and my son is three. He doesn't get it and he didn't intend to hurt the child. I am nearing a degree in Early Childhood Education and have completed the full course in Child Development, Child Guidance, and even dealing with behavior issues. I have worked with children of all ages for the past two years and I understand kids. I know that three year olds are not malicious, and not just because he is mine, but because I understand his mental capacity. He was so curious and I don't think he was going to hit the baby, I mean the older brother is his friend. I know that I will choose my words and think on it tonight bc I do that, I let things get to me and then politely apologize to the parent in a way that tends to make them feel bad for making me feel bad. And I don't do it to be manipulative, I do it because I am not the type of parent that over looks her child's behavior. I have a son that hits and is rowdy and hyper and yes many days I want to pull my hair out. But as a parent and a child care provider I know that all children have their "bad" days and that even the "rotten" ones have hearts of gold. I see the things in my son, as well as the other spirited children that most don't. I see the love and passion they have. I spend 10 hours a day with other people's children (including my own) at my job, 7 children in my class right now that are all going through the same phase at the same time. It's tough sometimes, and I guess when a parent makes a comment like that, it bugs me. I have already had a long and tiring day. I am 7 months pregnant and my job doesn't end when they pick up their kids, I am a caregiver 24 hours a day. I love my job, I do, but I have come to find that is likely to be one the most underappreciated professions out there. So what do I do? Quit? No. I will continue to do this bc inside I really do love it and I am capable of shaking the comments off and moving on. My pregnancy hormones will wear off in the next couple months and I too will be the parent glaring at the kids trying to hit, touch, etc my newborn. But today, I am a mom of that grubby handed little boy, the bully and my hormones led me angrily to his defense. I guess it takes some time to understand the other side of the fence. Oh well, I do feel better after writing this and I hope you enjoyed the read, lengthy I know but it helped to vent. I have a doctor appointment tomorrow so I will fill you all in then.
1 Comments on Grrrr.....
JoJoUK - Sunday, 25 May
this was a great read for me, as i'm sure i'm going to be in this situation when i have my little bundle of joy for starters as my sister has an adorable 4 year old little boy and 2 year old daughter but when i have the baby things will happen that i have to try and understand from both points of view! x
| 21-5-2008 - Grrrr..... |  My mood while writing this blog:angry |
Have you ever had a day where you felt like no one spoke the same language as you? That's how I feel today. I mean when you teach a group of three year olds there is bound to me times when you feel like they are just all ganging up on you. That I can deal with, but when you say things over and over many different ways and they still don't listen, it is just tough. All part of the job I know but still stressful. So then a parent shows up at the end of the day to pick up his son and with him in a carrier is his 2-3 month old daughter. So who runs up with a little more than a pat but not hard enough to be a real hit? My son. Oh wonderful. I go to my son and take his hands and tell him that she is little and we don't hit anyone, and that if we are going to touch a little baby then first we need to make sure our hands our clean and that it's ok with the baby's parents. So my son reluctantly backs off, he hasn't been around many babies but he does know there is one in Mommy's belly, so he is curious. Well a few minutes later he walks over to the parent and baby again, the dad was like back off, you only get to hit my kid once before I hit you back. Well, now I am angry bc even if he is joking, I am tired, pregnant and my son is three. He doesn't get it and he didn't intend to hurt the child. I am nearing a degree in Early Childhood Education and have completed the full course in Child Development, Child Guidance, and even dealing with behavior issues. I have worked with children of all ages for the past two years and I understand kids. I know that three year olds are not malicious, and not just because he is mine, but because I understand his mental capacity. He was so curious and I don't think he was going to hit the baby, I mean the older brother is his friend. I know that I will choose my words and think on it tonight bc I do that, I let things get to me and then politely apologize to the parent in a way that tends to make them feel bad for making me feel bad. And I don't do it to be manipulative, I do it because I am not the type of parent that over looks her child's behavior. I have a son that hits and is rowdy and hyper and yes many days I want to pull my hair out. But as a parent and a child care provider I know that all children have their "bad" days and that even the "rotten" ones have hearts of gold. I see the things in my son, as well as the other spirited children that most don't. I see the love and passion they have. I spend 10 hours a day with other people's children (including my own) at my job, 7 children in my class right now that are all going through the same phase at the same time. It's tough sometimes, and I guess when a parent makes a comment like that, it bugs me. I have already had a long and tiring day. I am 7 months pregnant and my job doesn't end when they pick up their kids, I am a caregiver 24 hours a day. I love my job, I do, but I have come to find that is likely to be one the most underappreciated professions out there. So what do I do? Quit? No. I will continue to do this bc inside I really do love it and I am capable of shaking the comments off and moving on. My pregnancy hormones will wear off in the next couple months and I too will be the parent glaring at the kids trying to hit, touch, etc my newborn. But today, I am a mom of that grubby handed little boy, the bully and my hormones led me angrily to his defense. I guess it takes some time to understand the other side of the fence. Oh well, I do feel better after writing this and I hope you enjoyed the read, lengthy I know but it helped to vent. I have a doctor appointment tomorrow so I will fill you all in then.
1 Comments on Grrrr.....
JoJoUK - Sunday, 25 May
this was a great read for me, as i'm sure i'm going to be in this situation when i have my little bundle of joy for starters as my sister has an adorable 4 year old little boy and 2 year old daughter but when i have the baby things will happen that i have to try and understand from both points of view! x
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