17-10-2009 - Preggo Again!!!

My mood while writing this blog: Sick

It's been almost a year since I last blogged. I ended up being consumed with work soon after baby was born and it has been a busy time. Well DH and I have been busy. Obviously busy in more ways than one.

Can you imagine the shock? I really didn't have a clue. Usually, I am critical about women who say they didn't know they were pregnant. My first thought is "How could you not know, DUH!" Well I am the Pot calling the kettle black and I am having my DUH moment.

I had baby Jamai on October 25th 2008 and breastfed him until September 15th or so of 2009 (no menstural cycle).

Because I had baby weight plus more, I started working out and going to the gym almost daily the 1st week in August. My favorite class was Cardio Kickboxing 45 minutes of cardio, sweat and just pure craziness. 15 minutes of intense abs. I lost 20 lbs. from August 1st until September 15th. I couldn't lose my belly and just started trying to figure out a way to lose the belly fat.

Sunday, September 20th 2009 I was at a family birthday party and was conversing with my MIL. When I felt a urge to push and felt a couple of large passages pass. I also felt a gush of fluid. I gave my husband the signal and we loaded up and headed home. Once home, I took a shower only to pass a large blod clot that would not even go down the drain. It was large enough that I had to go back after showering to retrieve it and flush (sorry if TMI). At this time I figured it was my cycle coming in with a vengence due to me not having one for over 1 1/2 years. The following days, just included a little brown spotting and that was it.

Sunday, September 27th, 2009 I was walking through Target. Immediately sharp pain developed in my vaginal area as if I had to push I was not able to swiftly walk back to the front of the store. My husband was waiting in the car outside for me. When I got in the car, he noticed I was not feeling well. I asked him to take me home. Once home and standng over my sink, I felt the urge to push a little and again a large gush and passage went through me. I painfully went up the stairs to the bathroom. In quite a bit of pain and pushing as if I was in a small labor. My husband concerned, asked if we should go to the hospital and I stated no. I took a pain pill and continued with my day.

Monday, September 28th, 2009 I made an appointment to see my OB ASAP. I went in and was told based on my urine I was pregnant. Once I explained my symptoms over the last week, the NP stated as I had already believed "It sounds like you have miscarried". Unsure of how far along I "was" she ordered me to do blood test HCG. I was to return on Friday (unsure why not Wednesday or Thursday) to measure the levels and compare.

Friday, October 2nd, 2009 I had an early morning blood draw and informed the Medical Assistant that I would appreciate a phone call before the close of business to know the levels and the comparison. I informed her that I did not appreciate not having a phone call through the week to know what the levels were on Monday. She told me that she will remind the nurse and that they close at 3pm and if i do not receive a call I can call. I informed her that this was not acceptable and someone needs to make it a point to call me before the close of business.

I got busy at work and when I thought to call at 2:45pm time just passed. My phone rang at 3:05 and I was informed by the NP that I was pregnant. I was annoyed, because of course I knew this. She stated my levels were 163,000 and I asked her to give me the other numbers as well so that I could know if levels have risen or dropped or just maitained. She proceeded to tell me that they do not know what happent o the HCG from Monday and that I would need to make it by 4pm to the other side of the city, in rush hour traffic for an urgent Ultrasound and 48 ounces of water in my bladder was needed. She stated, "Can you make it." My response is, I am going to have to. She was faxing over the order right away.

My worry was that if there was tissue remaining from the miscarriage and I was in need of a D&C then I did not want to have this wait for the weekend and reschedule an ultrasound for Monday. Just ridiculous that the numbers were lost in my opinion. I knew it was time to make an OB/GYN change.

I was given the address and the suite number. Called my husband and asked him to grab the kids and meet me at the address. I got a jug of water hopped in my car and drove through rush hour traffic to just baely make it to the building at 4:01pm. I rushed in to find out that I was directed to a Dialysis center. Could you imagine my disgust. I looked at the directory in the building and found Sinomed Radiology and went up to the 2nd floor. I figured I just had the incorrect suite number. Once arrived, the young lady looked at her records and was not able to obtain anything with my name on it. I explained her as sweet as I could, my circumstance. The lost numbers, the 45 minute drive, the full bladder, and my entire family scouring the building looking for me.

I called the after hours service for the OB and asked to be connected directly to whomever was on call. Well it was a nice suprise to hear Dr. Rathee (my OB) who I have seen 3 times on the other end. I informed him I did not have time for updates. My bladder was full and I need to know who was going to go to the office and send over the orders as I wait to get my urgent ultrasound. He could tell I was upset. The young lady in the office was so sweet. She was on the phone calling another radiology comapany across the street, to see if that's where I should have been. I asked her about the suite number and what a suprise..The suite number matched exactly. I high tailed it out of the office after grabbing a freshly baked cookie and thanking her for her help.

Found my family in the lobby and we all jumped in the vehicle and headed across the street. I was annoyed and hot by this point, but asked my husband to pray for me some patience. Thank God he answers. The ultrasound tech came to the front as I was checking in and asked the receptionist to check me in after, because she knew my bladder was full. Additionally, they were discussing the orders and how they were not clear and frustrating. We head back and the tech was very sweet, she asked what brought me to the imaging and I told her my numbers have been lost and I had been bleeding of an on. She was appalled. She asked me to hurry up get on the table and she can get the party started, she was concerned about the full bladder and how uncomfortable I was.

She placed the probe on my stomach and shook her head yes while simeltaneously removing the probe. She stepped back and I asked her if everything was ok. She said, "You are pregnant." I said I know I was. She said hold on...She turned on the monitor. Came back with the probe to the stomach and said, "The baby is waving." My husband who was in a chair was a little preoccuppied with the baby and his attention immediately changed to the screen. He got up and walked dead in between myself and the screen and said to baby boy, "How old is that baby, Look Jamai there is your sister or little brother." I couldn't say anything..I was crazily shocked. I placed my hand over my forehead. Asked my husband to move over so I could see and then as I saw the baby kicking an moving, I placed my hand over my mouth. The tech measured baby at 11 weeks 2 days. I asked her if I could cry, she said yes. So I did. She said there was a small subchorionic bleed.

My husband was estatic, I was in shock and awe. The baby could care less. The tech tried to hand me a picture, but I told her to give it to my husband. Denial is interesting.

We got the oldest boy, Elijah on the way out. My husband says, "You going to tell Elijah or can I." I said, "No, no one tells anything." Elijah immediately, skips to the car and says, "I am going to have a sister." Still shocked and in denial...Mommy mind going a thousand miles a minute.

Sigh.....What a weekend of crazy thoughts...How could I missed all that!

I figured that with me working out, losing weight changing the way I eat and what I ate, I didn't place my body changes in the category of pregnancy, but just changing due to the weight loss. I had all the symptoms:

Headaches, Fatigue, Loss of appetite, cravings for jalepenos and high carb foods, emotional wreck, easily set off, irritable and a belly that would not go away.

I knew at a small instance after the second bleed I was pregnant, but maybe a few weeks. Not almost 3 months!!!!

Monday October 5th 2009, Call from NP midday. "Tanisha (not my name by the way) we got your ultrasound results back. Did they tell you what they found." I wanted to go off on her, first for giving me the wrong address and secondly say "NO dumb dumb they didn't tell me they found an almost 3 month baby in there." I held my tongue. She said well Congratulations. She told me all I need to do is schedule for my 1st OB appointment. I said was there anything else she said No. I then informed her about the noted bleed from the technician and this shoud have been on the report. She then looked at her paperwork again and confirmed what I just told her. She said just take it easy. If I bleed bright red, call or go in to ER. Pelvic rest. OOOOOOO I so couldn't wait to find a new OB. Just ignorant.

I called back to the office and asked copies of my records be available for my retrieval. They could not even get me the correct fax number for the request.

I searched for a new OB and scheduled an appointment.

Thursday, October 8th, 2009 8:30 amd I arrived at the new office. After being placed in a room, Dr. DeSalvo came in and was very very persobable. He told me he had bad news, he had to deliver some twins and if I wouldn't mind coming back in the afternoon and if I am double or triple booked, he will see me first. He was so kind, I could not say no. I was given a lot of samples and a nice tote bag for being a new patient.

3:00pm I retuerned. I was asked my history. Dr. DeSalvo already critical of the information he received from the other office. wondered why I was pushed to be induced..for baby Jamai. I was already loving his practical thinking. He did a pap smear and also a vaginal ultrasound, he questioned why they did not measure the bleed and I told him they said it was small. He measured and infomed me the bleed was not the least bit small. It was quite large and the prognosis was not favorable. 1) Clot can be seen as foreign body and cervix will open up to take out and bring baby with it. 2) Baby growth will be restricted and be still born (Also known as Chaos). 3) Baby will have to be closely monitored to watch growth and if big enough can be taken prematurely. 4) You still can miscarry. Hmmmm!! Not acceptable. He asked me to come back in two weeks.

Friday October 9th, 2009 Nuchal Transluscency Screening. Got to see baby @ 12 weeks. Confirmed bleed was quite large. Baby was active. Heartbeat was 162. The tech asked me about another baby being mentioned, I told her that there was suspiscion of carrying more than one and the misccariage of one. She confirmed that there may have been another sac. WoW!! She coached me on pelvic rest, much rest, lots of rest and be mindful that the bleed may have the potential to want the cervix to reooen. We got more pics. I had to have blood drawn. The poor girl was so nervous, I ended up sticking myself and drawing my own blood.

Tuesday, October 13th 2009, Call from Perinatal Doctor regarding results. Chances of Down Syndrome and Trisomy 18 very low. Yes, some good news....

Later in the evening I began to bleed again...lightly. My body needed rest.

Wednesday, October 14th 2009, Went to work. Busy Busy!

Thursday, October 15th, 2009, Stayed home and worked from home. Less drama.

I have another appointment on October 19th. 2009. Just anticipating what God has in store.