25-2-2009 - What would you do?

My mood while writing this blog: Mad, Annoyed, Hurt

Okay, so I am showing big time, I am almost at 20 weeks and showing as if I am 30 weeks. I also have gained a lot of weight for this point, but I did with my daughter and was able to lose it and I am trying to be active and am not eating after 9PM (most of the time), so I am not really worried about it anymore.

Anyway, I work with a woman who is due a week before me. She is also having a girl and it is her third child. This particular person is not very nice and I typically only talk to her if it is work-related, and even then, she is just not a friendly person. (She is a one word answer type of person who never smiles) When I found out we were due around the same time, I thought maybe I would see a different side of her.

Well- she has only reinforced her b***h status in my eyes- she acted like I was a freak show right at 3 months, asking me if I was having twins, if they moved up my due date, if I started showing this early with my daughter, etc. I get the same series of questions from her everytime I see her- and she is never, ever nice about it. Last month she literally said "Wow" as she walked away. Yes, she sure did!

Luckily I only have to see her every once in a while because she works on a different floor in a different department. Well today we were passing each other in the hall, she literally gawked at my stomach and gasped! Then she asked me again if they changed my due date and how much weight I have gained, what I am eating, etc. She is barely showing- her stomach looks like mine did in December.

Now I understand that all women are different, that we all have different genetics and have accepted that I am showing a little more than most would at this point and she is not showing enough. But this woman is so rude and self-rightous, I can barely stand it. I am known as a very friendly person everywhere, especially work, so if I am rude back it will be very obvious. I am trying to stay away from her but I am just soooo mad right now.

I am trying to think of a tactful way to tell her to keep her thoughts to herself next time this happens. She is really hurting my feelings everytime I see her. Even though I am one of those people who has a tough time being rude to people, I really think I would have said something back by now if she was not a co-worker. I know she is the one with the problem, but oooohhhh I am sooo mad!!! Any advice for the next time I have to work with or see this mean girl? And I keep thinking, I just hope she is nice to her kids! Can anyone help me with a nice way to tell her to shut up, because I can only think of mean ways right now. LOL