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12 Comments on Am I wrong
JazzysLittleBlessing - Thursday, 26 Mar
I know that I am so very late on commenting on your blog... but I am going through the exact same thing! My BD wanted me to name my son after his father whom is deceased and when I told him no to that he wanted him to have the middle name. I was only seeing him like once every 4-6 weeks but now I see him about once every two months and I am perfectly ok with that. He is acting so brand new! His loss... girl don't do it. If he isnt around then he has no say! Period!
mizzkeisha - Friday, 20 Mar
Nope, you definitely aren't wrong. I'm kinda doing the same thing. I have 2 children and both of their initials are M.J.R. and BD has 2 children and their initials are B.D.S. He wanted my son's name to have the same initials as his and I wanted them to have the same initials as mine. We were going to compromise and name him something totally different from both of them. But he gets on my nerves so bad and isn't really around that I'm keeping with the M.J.R and he told me well at least let him have my last name and I'm not doing that either because I have been with him for a year and a half and he has only seen his children once. If that's any indication of the type of father he's going to be to mine, then that tells you what my son has in store. SO NO, you definitely are not wrong. Name him as you please!!!!
AllyCat62683 - Friday, 20 Mar
I had given my son his bio dad's last name and let him pick out a middle name thinking we were going to end up married and happily ever after and now of course he is a low life and has nothing to do with us. I hate the fact that my son has his name and definitely plan on changing it asap. If you have 2nd thoughts now I would say do not give him a name you might regret later. Name him what you think suits him best. He is your boy and you get to choose.
shena777 - Friday, 20 Mar
I think youshould name your son whatever you want to name him. When he wants to step up and really take a part in being there for you while you are pregnant then he can start offering opinions!!!!!!
mickeychelle30 - Thursday, 19 Mar
Girl....name that boy what "you" want his name to be...u r in no way wrong at all...
kelly5150rn - Thursday, 19 Mar
I guess it would depend on how much you think he will be in your son's life... my 17 year old has his dad's middle & last name. Spencer Demetrius Scoby. At first when he was involved it was real nice. He was very proud to say "thats my boy, he's got my name" As my son grew up his father & him drifted apart. For a while he hated his last name & wanted to change it. We never did. This year after christmas his dad was found dead. he had been living on the streets & they think he froze to death. My son hasn't really talked about how he feels, but since then he hasn't once said anything about wanting to change his name. He was the only Scoby, & although his father & I did not have a good relationship, it is a legacy that will live on. After all, good or bad, he was his father.
Anesha - Thursday, 19 Mar
SInce he is not on the scene like he should be you have every right to name your son to your liking. Your son will be with you for life and I hear it sucks to have a child named after a man that you haven't seen in forever. I mean you never know. What if he gets even worse and even more distant? I don't wish that on you but apparently this guy is not a stable part of your life.
Southernbell3 - Thursday, 19 Mar
I agree with you, especially if he is not really there for you what makes him think he deserves that right ha. You do whatever you feel is best for your son
indigocream - Thursday, 19 Mar
All of my sons (2) are named after their father.... we were married and then we divorced shortly after.... So do what makes you happy.... Naming a child after their father does not bring the father closer.... I like the name you picked... I will never name my child after the dad again because it is you and always mom that is in the sugar or the shit. Both are easier if you start out with what you want...
hbankich - Thursday, 19 Mar
Yeah if he is not there for you then no. Do not give him the satisfaction of naming that baby what he wants when he is not even there for you.
mamalvs4 - Thursday, 19 Mar
i totally agree, he obviosouly doesnt deserve to have your son as his namesake.....unfortunatly i have learned if it walks and talks like a duck.....its prob a freaking duck!!! and if he isnt being supportive and baby isnt here yet, you can prob expect he isnt going to do some great turn around when the baby is here....i named my son with his dad's family name for a middle name, and my son hasnt seen him in a year, hes a total deadbeat who hasnt supported his son EVER! i feel bad for my son that he carries the name of a boy who wasnt man enough to take his responsibility and doesnt even care about what a great kid he is missing out on
shatandrea - Thursday, 19 Mar
I did that with my son's dad. His name is Deon Dewayne and I changed my sons name to Da'Veion Dewayne. He was not there for me at all and still is not so i say do what you want to do because he should have been there from day one. You will be the one doing everything for your son not him. You have the say so. O WELL IF HE DOES NOT LIKE IT. THATS NOT YOUR PROBLEM.........
| 19-3-2009 - Am I wrong |  My mood while writing this blog:I dunno |
Am I wrong for not wanting to give my son my child's father middle name? I mean he really hasn't been there for me...In the beginning he was and he wanted Junior then it was his middle name...but since I only probably see him once a month and he's totally changed...should I really give him the honor of his son having part of his name? I really don't think so...just wanted an opinion....baby boy name was Kaeson Darnell now I changed it to Kaeson Jacere ( like sincere) with my last name of course :-) ... I haven't even told him I changed my mind on it either...and I really don't think I should...he'll probably say its an emotional/hormonal thing....his favorite phrase........
12 Comments on Am I wrong
JazzysLittleBlessing - Thursday, 26 Mar
I know that I am so very late on commenting on your blog... but I am going through the exact same thing! My BD wanted me to name my son after his father whom is deceased and when I told him no to that he wanted him to have the middle name. I was only seeing him like once every 4-6 weeks but now I see him about once every two months and I am perfectly ok with that. He is acting so brand new! His loss... girl don't do it. If he isnt around then he has no say! Period!
mizzkeisha - Friday, 20 Mar
Nope, you definitely aren't wrong. I'm kinda doing the same thing. I have 2 children and both of their initials are M.J.R. and BD has 2 children and their initials are B.D.S. He wanted my son's name to have the same initials as his and I wanted them to have the same initials as mine. We were going to compromise and name him something totally different from both of them. But he gets on my nerves so bad and isn't really around that I'm keeping with the M.J.R and he told me well at least let him have my last name and I'm not doing that either because I have been with him for a year and a half and he has only seen his children once. If that's any indication of the type of father he's going to be to mine, then that tells you what my son has in store. SO NO, you definitely are not wrong. Name him as you please!!!!
AllyCat62683 - Friday, 20 Mar
I had given my son his bio dad's last name and let him pick out a middle name thinking we were going to end up married and happily ever after and now of course he is a low life and has nothing to do with us. I hate the fact that my son has his name and definitely plan on changing it asap. If you have 2nd thoughts now I would say do not give him a name you might regret later. Name him what you think suits him best. He is your boy and you get to choose.
shena777 - Friday, 20 Mar
I think youshould name your son whatever you want to name him. When he wants to step up and really take a part in being there for you while you are pregnant then he can start offering opinions!!!!!!
mickeychelle30 - Thursday, 19 Mar
Girl....name that boy what "you" want his name to be...u r in no way wrong at all...
kelly5150rn - Thursday, 19 Mar
I guess it would depend on how much you think he will be in your son's life... my 17 year old has his dad's middle & last name. Spencer Demetrius Scoby. At first when he was involved it was real nice. He was very proud to say "thats my boy, he's got my name" As my son grew up his father & him drifted apart. For a while he hated his last name & wanted to change it. We never did. This year after christmas his dad was found dead. he had been living on the streets & they think he froze to death. My son hasn't really talked about how he feels, but since then he hasn't once said anything about wanting to change his name. He was the only Scoby, & although his father & I did not have a good relationship, it is a legacy that will live on. After all, good or bad, he was his father.
Anesha - Thursday, 19 Mar
SInce he is not on the scene like he should be you have every right to name your son to your liking. Your son will be with you for life and I hear it sucks to have a child named after a man that you haven't seen in forever. I mean you never know. What if he gets even worse and even more distant? I don't wish that on you but apparently this guy is not a stable part of your life.
Southernbell3 - Thursday, 19 Mar
I agree with you, especially if he is not really there for you what makes him think he deserves that right ha. You do whatever you feel is best for your son
indigocream - Thursday, 19 Mar
All of my sons (2) are named after their father.... we were married and then we divorced shortly after.... So do what makes you happy.... Naming a child after their father does not bring the father closer.... I like the name you picked... I will never name my child after the dad again because it is you and always mom that is in the sugar or the shit. Both are easier if you start out with what you want...
hbankich - Thursday, 19 Mar
Yeah if he is not there for you then no. Do not give him the satisfaction of naming that baby what he wants when he is not even there for you.
mamalvs4 - Thursday, 19 Mar
i totally agree, he obviosouly doesnt deserve to have your son as his namesake.....unfortunatly i have learned if it walks and talks like a duck.....its prob a freaking duck!!! and if he isnt being supportive and baby isnt here yet, you can prob expect he isnt going to do some great turn around when the baby is here....i named my son with his dad's family name for a middle name, and my son hasnt seen him in a year, hes a total deadbeat who hasnt supported his son EVER! i feel bad for my son that he carries the name of a boy who wasnt man enough to take his responsibility and doesnt even care about what a great kid he is missing out on
shatandrea - Thursday, 19 Mar
I did that with my son's dad. His name is Deon Dewayne and I changed my sons name to Da'Veion Dewayne. He was not there for me at all and still is not so i say do what you want to do because he should have been there from day one. You will be the one doing everything for your son not him. You have the say so. O WELL IF HE DOES NOT LIKE IT. THATS NOT YOUR PROBLEM.........
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