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11-5-2009 - rambling at almost 35 weeks

My mood while writing this blog: ok

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Not sure if it is the hormones, or if I am truly a spoiled bitch. I get along well with my mother-in-law, although I don't know her very well. My DH and I dated less than a year before getting married 2 years ago, and we live an hour away from her. She has been supportive all along, and really has done nothing to upset me or even try to step on my toes. BUT..... I don't know why her excitement over our baby is driving me crazy. She already has a pack and play set up for the baby, (we are only there 2-3 times a year, due to our schedules and theirs) and keeps buying clothes. This is the first baby in the family since my SIL was born 21 years ago, and I had fertility issues, so when we told her we were getting married, we also told her that she was most likely not going to be given a grandchild by us. Our baby is our miracle, and I want everyone to love her, but I feel so stingy with his family! At first I said I wanted everyone at the hospital, but now I am dreading the thought of them all being there annoying me. (Yet for some reason my family is ok, so I can't tell DH this, because I want my family there). I don't know if it is because I don't know them as well as I do my family or what. I feel like a total bitch, but I can't help these feelings! And if they say one more time......Hurry up and have this baby, we are ready!.....I swear I am going to knock them out. My family is excited, threw my shower, bought our crib and other furniture, but are not pushing me. I don't know, maybe I am just going crazy.
My FIL is a different story althogether. They are no longer married, and he lives close to us. However, he will never be left alone with our child. He can not take care of himself, let alone a kid. My DH is in agreement, so there is no issue there. Although DH has already said he has to call him when we go to the hospital, so he will be there driving me crazy also. He makes me insane not pregnant, so I can only imagine what it will be like when I am in labor. He means well, but is just not "parent material". He is so inappropriate with comments he makes to and about my DH, and if he thinks he is going to act like this around my daughter he has another thing coming. There are parts of his family that DH has not seen or associated with in over 10 years. They are insisiting on thowing us a shower this weekend with his cousin who is also pregnant. Just want we want, a joint shower with people I have never met in my life. They don't know where I am registered, and I am very picky about what gets given to my baby. I am afraid of what we will get, if anything. I keep joking that DH and I got on a plane and went to Las Vegas to get married to avoid all of their drama, and we will do it to have this baby too!!!!!!
Wow, after reading this I do feel like an ungrateful spoiled brat. I really am not, but just had to write it all out because I am driving myself crazy.

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3 Comments on rambling at almost 35 weeks


Christine G - Monday, 11 May
hehe your MIL sounds like mine LOL She was looking at buying a CRIB! I would not go sleeping over there with a baby well at lease not for a long time after the baby's born. She is a compulsive shopper so we have tones of clothes and stuff. My FIL told me that she purposely didn't give me everything at the baby shower so that others wouldn't feel bad. So I have more coming, wow! I have a fear that my in-laws will be constantly at my house. They have a house here in town so they'll most likely want to stay down here for the first couple weeks.

LouOZ - Monday, 11 May
for the first year and a half my partners family gave me a hard time for no reason, simply cause i went to a private school, my parents are well off and i've been given a lot of opportunity in my life so they naturally felt inferior i spose. as soon as we told them i was pregnant they snapped and now are all in my face and i hate them. i cant get over the fact that they judged me for no reason and now because they want a piece of the pie i have to just forget all the horrible things they did and said to me... My partner cant understand why i dont want his mother in the room while im in labour or why im not particulalry fussed about going to their family lunches etc... i really dont know them very well at all cause they refused to make the effort with me and now they want to act like we are all chummy... i dont think so!! Dont worry, i know how you feel..

ChinaPeach - Monday, 11 May
i know the frustration.. wanting control over whats going to happen in the next few weeks cause it's kinda scary with the baby comming soon and the best way to face it is to try and have as much control over your life right now.

I wouldn't worry about people at the hospital.. ( the nurses can kick them out nicely, and you don't have to deal with it too much) if you wait till you get home and they all come then you gotta kick them out!.. If you get baby things you don't want at the shower.. donate them.. I never had a shower for my first this time a bunch of work people i worked with for 3 months had one for me.. I'm not close to them but i was thankful for the experience ( Just got small things) .. My mom isn't excited at all it's her eigth grandchild.. She keeps telling me to not buy things and waste my money.. She's not going to buy us anything, plus she had a new grandchild in Jan to Goo goo over , so this babies already old news to her.. My MIL on the other hand.. super excited , but doesn't speak english and lives in China. I wish i had someone around me to share the excitement with, even my husbands still in CHina.. I know my MIL will drive me nuts once i go back to CHina though lol.. Sometimes though having these things to complain about is soo much better then not having them at all... it's like being care for too much it's annoying.. Imagine no one caring at all.. It's way more of a stab.. So complain, but atleast let their thoughts warm you up a little..