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6 Comments on Sad News
chips - Monday, 25 Aug
godbless......................sweetie ...............I am trying to catch up.............I am so behind...........hope you are doing okay
bighug
BabyMarshall - Saturday, 21 Jun
I just read your posts and I have to say that I was a little shocked at your experience. It seemed so wrong to me that you had to deliver naturally under the circumstances. But then I started thinking about my own experience last February, and maybe it would've been better for me if I had been allowed to do it that way. I had an ultrasound at 16 weeks and was told that there was no heartbeat and that the baby had died at about 12 weeks. I was sent home to "wait it out". I was hysterical though, I just couldn't function knowing that my child was dead inside of me. It took several trips back to the ER before we found a doctor that decided to do a D&C. I never got to see my daughter, in fact when I asked if I could see her a very rude and heartless nurse told me that during a D&C the fetus is pretty much ripped apart. I was just sickened at the thought.
I think it's wonderful that you got to have a service for your baby. I wish that I could've done that.
I'll be honest with you, I felt like you feel for quite awhile. In fact, I'd say that I was completely useless for at least a whole month after it happened. Everything upset me, I felt as if there were reminders everywhere I looked. I pretty much scared the hell out of everyone who knows me because I think they thought I was suicidal.
I think everyone has to heal in their own time, in their own way.
I don't think I was really living until last week when I found out I'm pregnant again. Here's a shocker, that's also a blessing....I'm 13 weeks and 6 days! I went through the first trimester without knowing.
Just try to remember that when the time is right, it will happen for you again and who knows in what way. And don't let anyone make you feel like it's time for you to stop grieving. I don't think we ever stop completely, we just reach a point of acceptance. Go at your own pace and if anyone criticizes, you can politely tell them to go jump in a lake. Even if that someone has lost a baby too, they didn't lose YOUR baby, so they have no right to compare.
Even though I've been through it, I can't know your pain, only you can.
My thoughts are with you, and I hope it won't be long before you have your own happy ending.
Feel free to write me anytime you want or need to talk
JennyBen - Tuesday, 17 Jun
Oh no - I'm so sorry to hear about this. I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you. Do they know why this happened? I will keep you in my prayers...I'm so sorry for your loss.
themrs - Tuesday, 17 Jun
i am so sorry for your loss. my heart truly hurts for you. i will pray for you. we lost our little creation at 7wks and that was heart wrenching enough. we believe that everything happens for a reason. your time will come, and so will ours. god bless.
sofia - Monday, 16 Jun
I am really soryy for your loss. I lost my baby when I was 20 weeks and I know how unexpected it is to loose your baby in your second trimester. When I lost my baby I found someone who I could talk to, a therapist in grief. Having someone who I could talk about my baby helped me with my grief and all the things I wanted to do to acknowledge and grieve the loss of my baby. Also, it helped my relationship with my husband since I was expecting a lot from him and did not even allow him the time to grieve he needed. Having someone outside my world helped be overcome the pain (At that time I did not know about this site) I will pray for you and your family...
Julianna - Monday, 16 Jun
Oh Hunnie, I am SO SORRY! I will say prayers!
| 16-6-2008 - Sad News |  My mood while writing this blog:Upset |
I just wanted to inform everyone I've met on this webpage of the news I received on Friday. I went to my regular scheduled appt at my OB on Friday at 8am. He told me he had terrible news for me, my baby had no heartbeat. I cried and cried. I had to check in at the hospital at 12noon on Friday. At 6pm I was forced to start labor and I had to deliver my baby at 13 weeks. I seen my perfectly formed baby, the size of my hand. It was mine and Scott's little creation. Now it was with Jesus. It was too early to tell if it was a boy or girl, but it looked perfect. Just pray for me. This honestly has been the worst thing to happen to me in my entire life. I thought I was safe cause I made it to the 2nd semester but from now on, I will never think that again. Sam
6 Comments on Sad News
chips - Monday, 25 Aug
godbless......................sweetie ...............I am trying to catch up.............I am so behind...........hope you are doing okay
bighug
BabyMarshall - Saturday, 21 Jun
I just read your posts and I have to say that I was a little shocked at your experience. It seemed so wrong to me that you had to deliver naturally under the circumstances. But then I started thinking about my own experience last February, and maybe it would've been better for me if I had been allowed to do it that way. I had an ultrasound at 16 weeks and was told that there was no heartbeat and that the baby had died at about 12 weeks. I was sent home to "wait it out". I was hysterical though, I just couldn't function knowing that my child was dead inside of me. It took several trips back to the ER before we found a doctor that decided to do a D&C. I never got to see my daughter, in fact when I asked if I could see her a very rude and heartless nurse told me that during a D&C the fetus is pretty much ripped apart. I was just sickened at the thought.
I think it's wonderful that you got to have a service for your baby. I wish that I could've done that.
I'll be honest with you, I felt like you feel for quite awhile. In fact, I'd say that I was completely useless for at least a whole month after it happened. Everything upset me, I felt as if there were reminders everywhere I looked. I pretty much scared the hell out of everyone who knows me because I think they thought I was suicidal.
I think everyone has to heal in their own time, in their own way.
I don't think I was really living until last week when I found out I'm pregnant again. Here's a shocker, that's also a blessing....I'm 13 weeks and 6 days! I went through the first trimester without knowing.
Just try to remember that when the time is right, it will happen for you again and who knows in what way. And don't let anyone make you feel like it's time for you to stop grieving. I don't think we ever stop completely, we just reach a point of acceptance. Go at your own pace and if anyone criticizes, you can politely tell them to go jump in a lake. Even if that someone has lost a baby too, they didn't lose YOUR baby, so they have no right to compare.
Even though I've been through it, I can't know your pain, only you can.
My thoughts are with you, and I hope it won't be long before you have your own happy ending.
Feel free to write me anytime you want or need to talk
JennyBen - Tuesday, 17 Jun
Oh no - I'm so sorry to hear about this. I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you. Do they know why this happened? I will keep you in my prayers...I'm so sorry for your loss.
themrs - Tuesday, 17 Jun
i am so sorry for your loss. my heart truly hurts for you. i will pray for you. we lost our little creation at 7wks and that was heart wrenching enough. we believe that everything happens for a reason. your time will come, and so will ours. god bless.
sofia - Monday, 16 Jun
I am really soryy for your loss. I lost my baby when I was 20 weeks and I know how unexpected it is to loose your baby in your second trimester. When I lost my baby I found someone who I could talk to, a therapist in grief. Having someone who I could talk about my baby helped me with my grief and all the things I wanted to do to acknowledge and grieve the loss of my baby. Also, it helped my relationship with my husband since I was expecting a lot from him and did not even allow him the time to grieve he needed. Having someone outside my world helped be overcome the pain (At that time I did not know about this site) I will pray for you and your family...
Julianna - Monday, 16 Jun
Oh Hunnie, I am SO SORRY! I will say prayers!
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