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30-6-2010 - Advice wanted!

My mood while writing this blog: confused

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I have no idea what to do!!! on Sunday my DH and i went to a couples BBQ with a few people from the church. and my SIL and BIL were there as well. The whole time we were there my BIL kept telling my son "no" for everything he done. and i was sitting right there. and he would always beat me to saying no. Their son was being a little brat and Austen would retaliate towards his cousin, and his cousin never got told no once. it drives me insane how often it happens. They NEVER discipline their kid. and hardly tell him no. But they tell my kid no every ten minutes. and they rub stuff in his face constantly. had it been a time and place i would have said something along the lines of "why don't you raise your own damn kid and stop telling mine no." should i say something?

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10 Comments on Advice wanted!


miraclebaby86 - Wednesday, 7 Jul
I think it would be appropriate for you to say something or even talk to your husband so he could say something to his brother. It is bothering you and with us ladies being prego we dont need the extra stress

mamakitty0609 - Friday, 2 Jul
...most cases.They tend to "reciprocate" in a similar way.In essance you are setting the mood.Always try and give someone that chance when possible.In cases where this does not happen,remind them sternly of your position.I would moniter my child if he does play w/his cousin.Do not do the same thing to their child just to prove a point as someone else suggested.Thats like telling someone you dont like violence while punching them.

mamakitty0609 - Friday, 2 Jul
Well, you need to stand up not only for you and your rights as a parent,but for your sons as well.If you don`t look out for your child who will? My philosophy is to always try and reach out in a "calm and respectful" way the first time.Be assertive not aggressive.Get your point accross without making the person feel like you are attacking them.People respond very well to this in.....

janina - Friday, 2 Jul
Its his sisters husband. and He hates it just as much as i do. but we both try to keep peace in the family but lately it seems harder.

faithful - Thursday, 1 Jul
Its your husband's brother right??If you dont feel comfortable saying something then ask your husband to talk to HIS brother about this issue! When your BIL does these things, does your husband agree with them??

numba3 - Thursday, 1 Jul
I would definatly say something, even if they are related to you it gives them no right to try and discipline your child. Tell them if they have a problem the to speak to either you or your husband.

treed - Wednesday, 30 Jun
I finally had to tell everyone in my family that we dont use no unless it is a saftey issue messing with plug in grabbing knifes running in the street ect and that we would appreciate them not using it either allot of our family thinks we are crazy and complain but he is our child respect our parenting we dont criticize them for letting there kids teeth rought out of there mouths from all the candy all of the child development classes I have taken show that if you use no to much all they hear is cut your hair not no dont cut your hair any way i would say something

ammunitionbutterfly - Wednesday, 30 Jun
Do it! Start telling their kid, no. And when they get all pissed off, just turn around and say then stop telling my kid no and take care of your own kid! When it comes too your children, it's okay to be a bitch like that. You're the parent, NOT them. My sister had to learn that quickly when I became a new mom and wanted to do things MY way. It sounds rude, but it's just letting them know where they crossed the parental line.

sha~sha* - Wednesday, 30 Jun
i would say something. b~cus its wrong & not right :~(

overjoyedpregnant2 - Wednesday, 30 Jun
definitly say something I have the exact same problem with my brother and my sil they always want to say that my son is doing something wrong when their child is involved as well...it drives me crazy!But if you don't say something to them it will continue,good luck!