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22-7-2008 - The delivery room

My mood while writing this blog:
sleepy

So I've been trying to figure out who I want in the delivery room, I know it's pretty early to consider this but being 29 weeks I feel like I need to prepare and make some decisions so that I'm not over stressed at the time of delivery!

I am thinking that I just want my husband and I in there, partially because I am young and I want us to do this on our own, so that I know we can do this! I adore my mother, she's truly my best friend and if I did have anyone else in there it would be her! I know it would mean the world to her to be in there with us and to witness her first granddaughter come into this world! However, I feel like if I ask her to come in than I have to as my MIL, and that woman seriously gets on my LAST nerve! This entire pregnancy she's made it about her, she won't even come to the baby shower my mom is throwing because she says she wants to have her own baby shower for her family and friends AFTER the baby gets here...she wants to do this like 2 weeks after the baby is born which is just NOT gonna happen, I will put my foot down! I try to be nice to her but this is MY baby, mine & my husband's, not her's! She lives over an hour away and wants us to come all the way up there in November when it's getting cold outside, then she says that she wants to "show off" her new grandbaby to her friends, umm I'm NOT handing my baby around to a bunch of people I've never even met! My mother wouldn't even do this! And I know all of her friends, I just think that she can show her friends pictures of the baby! It's not her baby to SHOW OFF and I HATE that she says it like that! Also, we need a baby shower before the baby gets here because this is our first, there are soo many things we are going to need! My mom can't do it all, I don't have a father in my life and I don't have grandparents! My husband has both parents and both sets of grandparents and this is all their first grand/great grand child!

Ugh- sorry I got off on a tangent lol! But really I can't have her in the room, I'd end up stressing out and cussing her out or something lol! The birth of our baby girl is suppose to be precious and beautiful, not me being in a bad mood because someone was already telling me how to raise my baby!

I just don't know what to do, I think I'll end up having it just be my husband and I, however I don't want to leave my mom out! I want her there so badly, should I feel bad asking one grandma to come in and not the other? Really, I don't care..she knows she gets on my nerves and she pisses me off on purpose so I really shouldn't feel bad not asking her to come in! My husband really doesn't care- he says it's my vagina I have every right to say that I don't want people in there staring me down! lol

All I know is, I can't wait for her to be here & for my husband and I to share this precious moment of our lives together! October HURRRRRY UP! haha

6 Comments on The delivery room

ashleyt - Tuesday, 22 Jul
OOOOOOOOoooo girl, Im in the same perdicament...my MIL drives me bonkers. My husband is thinking about moving in with her until the winter is over when he gets back and I dont wanna!!! I know that she will be telling me what to do all the time...which is okay if its said in a certain way, ya know...?? But it wouldnt be, it would be said in that way that makes you feel like you dont know anything and like you dont have the capacity to learn yourself. I would say, just like your husband, its YOUR verginer, lol. Im thinking that Im only having my husband in the room with me too, even though I owuld love to have MY mother, my MIL would take it all wrong.
Do what YOU want to!! Especially if your husband is being supportive of your decision, maybe he can talk to her and get her to understand.

cantwaittoseemybaby - Tuesday, 22 Jul
You have the same dilemma that I have. My dilemma is my mother not my mother in law. Like everyone has told me this is your baby and you have whoever you want in the room that will make the environment as comfortable as possible. I will be calling my mother once everything is over whether she likes it or not. She will get over it.

babypeytonsmommy - Tuesday, 22 Jul
oh gosh that woman sounds like a nightmare. i'd have my mom and husband in the room. if your mil doesn't like it than oh well. you can't tell me she doesn't know that she stresses you out that much. maybe she's just seeing how much she can get away with. it's not worth it to have her in the delivery room just to satisfy her and get you even more stressed. i wouldnt have a 2nd baby shower with a lot of strangers either. geez. especially considering she wants you to go to her in november w. the baby being so tiny. and you're right it's not her baby to 'show off'. if she wanted to show one off maybe she should have another one of her own lol.

barbarac - Tuesday, 22 Jul
I think that your MIL should try harder to be a part of your family. Its not about her at this point. You and your husband have your own family and now she is a part of it instead of the mother and boss of it. She doesn't see that obviously.
I come from a large family with five siblings. I had one of my two sisters with me and my husband when I gave birth to my sons. This time, he and I want to do it alone and she is upset. I think its hard no matter what or who you pick there is a risk even when you don't want to hurt family and make it worse to deal with.

takia24 - Tuesday, 22 Jul
Your MIL really sounds like a big headache and I don't blame you for not wanting her in the delivery room it's your baby and your moment to share with whom ever you choose to and F*** what everybody else thinks and as far as her not attending the baby shower that your mom is throwing you is very rude of her why can't she just try and work with you mom and mzaybe she can help out and just invite some people if that'sd ok with your mom. Anyways she need to get a life fast and stop trying to run you good luck.

Anesha - Tuesday, 22 Jul
Lol! If your MIL will make your birth experience even more stressful then you definitely should not feel bad. Let her know that the max allowable people in the room is 2. You would naturally choose your mother over her. If she has any daughters she should understand that. Loved your rant. lol

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