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07-7-2008 - \The foul husband....

My mood while writing this blog: unhappy

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Well, 3.30 am we depart for 2 weeks overseas with our children during their school holidays. A long planned trip to Australia (from NZ) out of winter and also to see family and deal with our property over there.

I've done all the planning, by the way. And this is the only time I can get away from work.

Then a few days ago hubby's sailing race was postponed due to bad weather. Unfortunately it is now rescheduled to a weekend when we're away on our family trip.

He told me today that he wants to come home from the family holiday early in order to do the race. I say "no" - I want you to be part of this holiday and to not put pressure on us by returning early. He said: "You're so unsupportive of my sailing".

Well - I lost it. Such a hurtful thing to say. He sails every second weekend leaving me at home with the boys. I work full time - more than full time actually - so this impinges on my space significantly. That is supportive!

But the real reason that I am SO UPSET is because last year my twins died - second trimester. He seemed to me at the time to be far more concerned about how the timing of everything that needed to happen would impact on a major sailing race he had lined up. He didn't really join me in my journey of grief.

I delivered them in the hospital and the day after that he went sailing FOR FIVE DAYS AND NIGHTS. I supported him in this - even though at that point in my life it was I that needed support.

I pointed this out to him today only to be told that I didn't understand how important this race (first of a series of 3) was to him.

I'm crying as I write this. I'm probably over-reacting but it feels like such a deal breaker to me. I've never been this close to leaving him!!!!!

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1 Comments on \The foul husband....


mommy to boys - Monday, 7 Jul
Sweetie, I understand your frustration. I wrote this whole thing to you and decided to erase it because I am like you and me getting upset does not help your situation. That being said I believe you have the right to be upset about him going sailing after you delivered your boys and him wanting to leave the family holiday early is just the straw that breaks the camels back, I know how these things can build up. But I think for a man once a nights sleep goes by they think it is done. I really hope you and him can resolve this and you can stay strong. Take care and have lots of fun with your family.