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7 Comments on How do I tell him?
charlihadley - Tuesday, 22 Dec
man, i would just tell him now! because i feel the same way!...well right as we were let out of the hospital, my hubby actually dropped me off for 30 minutes at a baby shower for my best friend!....and he took the baby to his parents where no one was there.....then he and his best friend came and picked me up....and we went to his parents for a few hours.....and just loved on him...then we went to my parents house that night....and spent most of our time alone in the bedroom with the baby....we lived an hour away and didn't feel like making the drive until the next day!....and my hubby knows this time...i want to come either to my parents house again..or just come straight home....no company just us and our son so we can all bond and inclue our son in this expierence!
mcbender3 - Tuesday, 22 Dec
With my first child, minutes after returning home from the hospital, my house was a zoo. I was putting up a front, like enjoying the company but right before they came over I had to make sure everything was clean. I didn't have time to just sit be home. Then with my second it wasn't too bad but my MIL dropped off my son minutes after I returned home and just left. So there I was with a newborn and toddler screaming. Two days after just giving birth. So it's the best of your interest just to tell him how you feel and just hope he is understanding enough.
TraceyL - Tuesday, 22 Dec
i had the same issue. i decided i didn't want family members turning up at my house after i returned from hosptial with my son. i simply told my partner that i wished it just to be us with our son and daughter for the first week. luckily he agreed and everything went smoothly. good luck x
~YummyMummy~ - Tuesday, 22 Dec
Or let him read your blog, your blog is perfectly understanding, I know how you feel hun when I had my boy people came around to visit and I was so tired but they had me making cups of tea etc, NOT AGAIN!! This time I don't know if I'll even tell anyone until my girls a week old LOL. Good luck xoxox
mum to harry and sam - Tuesday, 22 Dec
Don't feel guilty about it, just tell him its too much, that you would feel obligated to cook and clean and entertain and that you would be tired and stressed and busy with 2 other children without worrying about guests. I told my mum flat out to wait a couple of weeks before coming over and I told my hubby to tell his family the same. The other thing is someone told me when you're in hospital , and visiting hours are happening, leave your baby in the bassinet as people are less likely to take the baby out for a cuddle. Just be honest and tell people you need a rest!! Goodluck
lgk616 - Monday, 21 Dec
Straight out tell him! I told my hubby I didn't want anyone visiting at the hospital till the day after and ONLY his parents (my parents live in Canada and we live in Greece). And I didn't have any friends visiting at home till she was 2 months old. Just be honest with him. xox
mrsjmickens1 - Monday, 21 Dec
just tell him straight out! i think my man n i had this conversation at like week 10. just me n him in the delivery rooom and no visitors more than an hour afterward......well call you..dont call u :)
| 21-12-2009 - How do I tell him? |  My mood while writing this blog:stressed |
I am so different this time about not wanting a whole bunch of family members around after I give birth and I feel that there is nothing wrong with it, but I don't know how to tell my husband in a way that he will understand. I think that he has no clue how hard this is on me and I am spending my pregnancy worrying about how things are going to go after the birth rather than enjoying my pregnancy. How do you approach the situation without hurting your spouses feelings. He thinks he has every right to invite everyone to our house and I am afraid that if that ends up happening that I will take the baby and leave go to a hotel I shouldn't have to worry about house guests before or right after delivery, I feel like I am going to explode and whats making the situation worse it that no family members are communicating on how or when they plan on visting and thats just not ok!Please help with suggestions.
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charlihadley - Tuesday, 22 Dec
man, i would just tell him now! because i feel the same way!...well right as we were let out of the hospital, my hubby actually dropped me off for 30 minutes at a baby shower for my best friend!....and he took the baby to his parents where no one was there.....then he and his best friend came and picked me up....and we went to his parents for a few hours.....and just loved on him...then we went to my parents house that night....and spent most of our time alone in the bedroom with the baby....we lived an hour away and didn't feel like making the drive until the next day!....and my hubby knows this time...i want to come either to my parents house again..or just come straight home....no company just us and our son so we can all bond and inclue our son in this expierence!
mcbender3 - Tuesday, 22 Dec
With my first child, minutes after returning home from the hospital, my house was a zoo. I was putting up a front, like enjoying the company but right before they came over I had to make sure everything was clean. I didn't have time to just sit be home. Then with my second it wasn't too bad but my MIL dropped off my son minutes after I returned home and just left. So there I was with a newborn and toddler screaming. Two days after just giving birth. So it's the best of your interest just to tell him how you feel and just hope he is understanding enough.
TraceyL - Tuesday, 22 Dec
i had the same issue. i decided i didn't want family members turning up at my house after i returned from hosptial with my son. i simply told my partner that i wished it just to be us with our son and daughter for the first week. luckily he agreed and everything went smoothly. good luck x
~YummyMummy~ - Tuesday, 22 Dec
Or let him read your blog, your blog is perfectly understanding, I know how you feel hun when I had my boy people came around to visit and I was so tired but they had me making cups of tea etc, NOT AGAIN!! This time I don't know if I'll even tell anyone until my girls a week old LOL. Good luck xoxox
mum to harry and sam - Tuesday, 22 Dec
Don't feel guilty about it, just tell him its too much, that you would feel obligated to cook and clean and entertain and that you would be tired and stressed and busy with 2 other children without worrying about guests. I told my mum flat out to wait a couple of weeks before coming over and I told my hubby to tell his family the same. The other thing is someone told me when you're in hospital , and visiting hours are happening, leave your baby in the bassinet as people are less likely to take the baby out for a cuddle. Just be honest and tell people you need a rest!! Goodluck
lgk616 - Monday, 21 Dec
Straight out tell him! I told my hubby I didn't want anyone visiting at the hospital till the day after and ONLY his parents (my parents live in Canada and we live in Greece). And I didn't have any friends visiting at home till she was 2 months old. Just be honest with him. xox
mrsjmickens1 - Monday, 21 Dec
just tell him straight out! i think my man n i had this conversation at like week 10. just me n him in the delivery rooom and no visitors more than an hour afterward......well call you..dont call u :)
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