29-12-2009 - FYI to relatives, when mom gives birth

My mood while writing this blog: serious

Here are some helpful hints to relatives to make things smoother for the mom giving birth.

Don't call and talk about everything thats going on in your life and act uninterested in the pregnancy.

Don't invite yourself to be in the delivery room.

Don't invite yourself to come and vist or stay at the expecting parents home.

IF you are invited limit your stay to just a couple days unless the new mom requests that you stay longer.

Don't bring your animals with you, unless they are invited.

Show just as much attenton to the siblings as you do to the baby.

Ask before taking the baby or better yet wait for the parents to offer for to hold the baby.

Make yourself useful while staying or visting the home you should leave the home cleaner than when you arrive.

Make or bring a meal, if you make a meal clean up the mess.

Ask what is needed or will be used, before buying groceries or stocking the pantry.

Don't offer opinions about the parents choices for baby, or other children.

Don't offer advice unless it is asked for.

It is offensive to give parents parenting books or news paper clippings, tips, advice,ETC..

If you are a grandparent be a grandparent, and don't tell expecting parents that you are grandparents not babysitters.

Instead of taking a cruise every vacation you get, plan to vist your grandchildren who you only get to see when they vist you.( the road works both ways)

Feel free to add anything I might have forgotten.