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15-4-2008 - writing "lo que me da la gana...."

My mood while writing this blog: Ok

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Ok, so as I looked at all the profiles I noticed younger & younger girls pregnant. Like 15,16,17 etc. Really it makes me sad that these poor babies are being brought into(i'm pretty sure of) a broken family b/c i can gurantee the majority are not married. Guys that age or any age at all if they're not committed to you, will probably leave shortly after the baby is born, I think we've all seen it. Even more so, i can really gurantee these girls don't have stable jobs to support their baby financially. I see them writing oh i'd love to have something that'll be mines forever & i'd love to have a baby..blah blah blah... but really all it looks like to me is a selfish act on their part. they want to get pregnant b/c they want to. Not because they've thought everything that comes with having a baby. I just had to get that out of me. It was really bugging me because they have no clue whats lying ahead of them and in the many years to come to raise that child.

p.s.

i know i may be young (4 months from being 21) but I have a bachelors in health management & an actual stable job, live on our own, married to my son's father(that i'm absolutely in love with) who is a medical assistant for an ENT and is also a licensed health insurance agent selling insurance from our office in our house , and are expecting our 2nd baby in november this year. i think we are financially able to support our babies. THANK U VERY MUCH!!

ADDING ON...

to clarify a little more on this matter. It's really in regards to teens who are 15,16,17..etc.... TTC.... THATS A COMPLETE SHAME. Yes, there are ACCIDENTS but baby daddy BETTER stay with the mom & work out the relationship if it's not up to par. Poor child doesn't need a broken family. as for TTC, NOT married, NOT even done with high school, NOT EVEN in college yet, NO job, LIVING at home w/mom & dad... PLEASE little girls, think about the innocent child FIRST before yourself.

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5 Comments on writing "lo que me da la gana...."


Elizabeth Carrie - Wednesday, 23 Jul
OMG i completely agree. ill be 21 in a month and the fact of having a son already and another on the way in jauary im scared shitless! those way younger then me WANTING a kis is out of control! they think being pregnant is cool and sure it is but the resposiblity afterwards is way more then what they are in for!

Also had to add to your blog here! those 15 16 17 year old girls that PRETEND they are pregnant cause its so cool! those that have pictures of their bellys at "30" weeks all pushed out as far as they can go. no even lookin 20 weeks. have no ultrasounds nothing! its sad that pregnancy has become such a cool thing that such young kids what to be involved with it! its rude to say but poeple should stop being happy for young moms and setting out a wrong vibe.
I mean i know im young but my fiance is 26 with a steady construction job. we can afford to pay bills and support our child. granit i lived on my own sense i was 16 but i know what im resposible for and was ready for what was coming!

really sad for them but someone needs to tell them what its really like in the outcome!

BoyStruckX2 - Wednesday, 14 May
I am just writing to say I was 19 when I got pregnant with my first, but turned 20 before he was born. I just a month ago had my second child. I may not be married yet . . . (engaged) but we have steady stable jobs, a house, and my children have all they need. You can still be young and provide what needs to be provided. :) Good blog

marissam - Sunday, 11 May
yeh its one thing if its an accident caz obviously there was some other plan from above... but the 14-16 year olds TTC... wtf. shouldnt be trying to get preg. when ur a little kid. it upsets me too. and some of them write how there bf's would leave but they dont care. obviously they dont care about there baby

-newnaam - Friday, 9 May
Wow, I must say when I first started reading this I was really upset. I was a 17 year old pregnant teen. But the thing is though, like you I made something of myself. I have a degree in Human & Social Services - making a very stable income for myself, my husband has a degree as well, and makes enough to support us and my wants to be a SAHM and we share a home that we purchased when I was just 19 years old.

I agree with you when it comes to these 15 & 16 year old girls out their TRYING to conceive or having babies just to have someone to love or because they didn't want to use contraception.

My daughter is the result of the condom failing us. Or believe me I would've never pictured myself a senior in high school 9 months pregnant. Raising a baby is HARD WORK and it takes a lot out of you. There were times that I cried bc I just thought my life was over. Luckily I had a ton of support from family and friends and even though my daughters father and I are not together, I met my husabnd shortly after her birth and he's been there every step of the way. I worked two jobs, finished high school and walked the stage 1 day and a half before giving birth with a 4.0 GPA. After hs, I continued my two jobs to get me through college with a newborn. I did full time college at night and busted my butt to make sure my daughter and I were not living off the system and having everything she needed.

I'm very proud of myself and any other teenage mother that has beat the odds and the statistics. It's a lot of work, but as long as you are not giving up and just milking the system for whats it worth or getting pregnant just because -- I think a teenage mother can become a wondeful mother.

Thank you for writing this blog... it really made me think about this subject, something I usually just want to put behind me. :0)

KittenAsACat - Wednesday, 16 Apr
I definitely agree with you on this one. Ha, even though I am a teen myself. I didn't plan to get pregnant, but the contraception failed. It's going to be hard, but me and the baby's father are working hard at it and have immense support from the family. I believe everything happens for a reason, so I'm doing everything I can for my unborn son, but I definitely agree these young girls trying to get pregnant are making a huge mistake.