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LailasMommy has 70 days to go and is now in week 30
	Age: 21 Country: USA Province/region: Texas City: Private Partner: My wonderful hubby Dimas Children: Yes, 1 Pregnant: Yes Due date: 27 Apr ,2012 Occupation: stay at home mommy & wife:)
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25-11-2008 - Should i be Mad, irritated, and frustrated about this.....please read && answer???

My mood while writing this blog:
Irittated, Frustrated, Mad, Upset, UGHH

Okayy my babygirl isn't even born yet and i feel like there are already going to be sooooo many problems once she is born.....ughh:(

Well to start off Dimas' family they are really cool and i love everyone of them....Anyway right now i feel like they act like his mom is the only grandma which i have a mom too and i feel like she acts as if she is the only one who is entitled to watch Laila and also like she thinks she'll have her ALL the time which ummmm hell no that's what i'm for....that's why i'm not working for a while, or starting college to stay home and take care of MINE && DIMAS' baby.....and i'm sorry but I'M the one who is going to be pregnant for nine months....dimas and i are the ones who should take care of her and have bonding time with her right??? I just feel as if her grandma wants to be her mom....which also brings me to dimas' mom acting like my mom can't watch our baby or take care of her like she is the ONLY grandma which is not right at all and dimas has already told her she isn't which anyways she knows i have a mom too it just doesn't make any sense to me??? Which also brings me to Dimas mom is one of those types of women who is going to want to help me out after Laila is born which is perfectly fine if i want help but i've had plenty experience with taking care of babies i know what the hell i'm doing and even dimas knows his mom is going to act like i have no clue what to do and like she knows everything so she should take over....for one it's OUR baby once again and i know what the hell i'm doing i'm not fucking stupid....we just know she'll basically try to TAKE OVER and COMPLETELY try to take care of our baby once again like Laila's hers!!! So should i be mad and let this irritate me??? I mean i don't mind having help like i said but only if i WANT it ya know....i feel like she's questioning my ability to take care of my baby and be a parent by trying to take over our baby....idkkk all i know is it does make me mad!!!

Also i understand that EVERYONE is going to want to see OUR baby after she's born which is perfectly fine.....i'll post pics on her too for the ppl who can't come see her.....but dimas' family are also the type of ppl to come over and have a BIG party to celebrate Laila coming home which once again i HONESTLY don't mind i love his family....just i mean after i've been in the hospital for 3 days and i'm tired and frustrated all i'm going to want to do is come home, take a shower, rest, and take care of my little girl not have a coming home party i think everyone should either come to the hospital to see her and/or wait until I'M READY for them to come over and welcome her home. I mean don't you see where i'm coming from??? All having everyone come over will do is irritate me and frustrated me....i really won't need all that so i wish they would just understant but idkk dimas tells them but, i don't think they listen. Even he agrees with everthing i'm saying soo idkk. Should i let it bother me so much, should i be mad about this??

Please answer and help me out!!! Thanks.....

Love, Ariel && Laila

7 Comments on Should i be Mad, irritated, and frustrated about this.....please read && answer???

debdaz85 - Friday, 5 Dec
i would wait and see what happend once Laila does arrive, in regards to Dimas' mum, she may not turn out to be as bad as you think, she is probably super excited and doesnt even think about what she is saying/doing, then if she is overbearing once Laila arrives say something to her then..... i would however make it clear that you dont want a coming home party as you need recovery time....perhaps suggest they have it at their place a couple of weeks after the birth, that way your not stuck with all the preparation and cleanup involved as you can just turn up, and leave again when you have had enough

yummymummy1990 - Tuesday, 2 Dec
hiya i know exactly what you are going thru i had the same with my partners nan...she coud never have boys and when she found out that we were having a son all hell broke loose, see caused me serious post natal depression because i thought see was going to take my baby away from me as i was only 17 at the time when i was pregnant with Leon. i didnt let her see Leon fot the first 3 months after that she got the message! i hope it all works out for you okay my lovely...chin up and lots of love and baby dust xxx

baileymama - Wednesday, 26 Nov
you know, while i was reading this it reminded me of myself with my first child. My mother n law gave alot of "advice" that she thought i should know and etc. For a long time we had a strained relationship because i would not be very nice on how i addressed the issue. now that it has been 14 years our communication has been soo much better in the last 8 years or so, i found that if you just talk to the ones that are doing things you dont care for then sometimes things will work out better in the end. But, by doing this if things don't improve than yes you need to put your foot down. i wish you the best of luck, you dont need that added stress now

Chocolate-LEO - Wednesday, 26 Nov
You what, your not alone. Sometimes I get that vibe from my mother but honestly you just have to put your foot down and let her know how you about the way she's been acting when the topic of baby comes up, but do it in a respectable way! Let her know that when you need her help you will call upon her when needed. Like you said this is your baby and she's not the only grandmother. Your mother has just as big of a right to have her as much as his mother. Dont stress over it, it will all work out and everyone will know their place in due time. Just let all that B.S go and finish enjoying your baby. its not time for the drama yet, so dont let it in. LOL

so am I - Wednesday, 26 Nov
i know what you are feeling because my MIL is going to be the same way i just know it nothing has been said but i know its coming my bf will tell her to but out .the only thing is that she knows i know what i am doing but she has her way she lets kids do what they want eat what they want and it create a big problem i watched her do it with her 2 granddaughters.so you are just going to have to tell her nicely to but out i am going to do it when the time is right!! so good luck with that .

Anesha - Tuesday, 25 Nov
I completely understand how you feel and the worst part will come when the baby is here and they make comments that can make you feel insecure. You will be changing your daughters diaper under the grandmas scrutiny and one of them will completely come over and take over and have the ordacity to say That is not how you handle a baby! This will burn you up. I am not even 18 and in the beginning my mom treated me like that. It is so offensive. I can tell you are stressing because this blog is long and you really needed to get all that out. The main part that you need to focus on is what you have said YOU ARE THE MOTHER. THIS IS YOUR BABY. You need to express your feelings in a respectiveful sensitive manner to both grandmothers just like you wrote in the blog. You seem to have pent up strong feelings about this so you have most likely been trying to be nice and not hurt anyones feelings. You have got to speak up though. Now. In the end if you do not make it clear you will be the only one hurting. There is a way to politely state that I may be 18 but this is my child. I respect your opinions but any and all decisions that regard my daughter will be made by me. I know that you love her too and that she is your granddaughter and I appreciate that. However I will take 100% care of my child. Whenever either of them happen to mention what they are gonna do you respond how you feel about that right then. Keep doing it until they get the point. It may be easier to talk to your mom than your BF's mom so start with her. When either of them mention I am watching my grandbaby everyday speak up and say No that will not be necessary. I am taking care of my own child. I promise you that if you don't speak up when she gets here it will be even worse. The only reason I know is because I went through this. If you live on your own and someone does a pop up. Kindly say Next time please call me and I will let you know if it is ok at this time to come over. Put your foot down. It may be uncomfortable at the start but trust me it will be worth it in the end. Don't make the mistake I did and be silent. It is hard trying to set some ground rules when the baby is already 1 years old and they are used to setting the rules! Every woman is different. Some people don't mind other people taking over or running their household but if you are like me you have an issue with this.

joscelyn - Tuesday, 25 Nov
I totally feel you! His whole family is coming to Texas to visit us for a good 2 weeks after the baby is born and guess who is ALL staying in our 2 bed. apartment?? Oh yes... ALL OF THEM. Its nice for the help but seriously, I get irritated really easily and don't want people in my house eating my food and making it messy, I jsut want me my husbnad and my baby boy. So yes, I feel your pain, I guess the only thing to do is take a deep breath and wait it out. Hopefully all will calm down after a week or two and your soon to be mil will calm down after then too. Best of luck :)

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