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9 Comments on His Baby Momma My Drama!!
drod - Thursday, 16 Apr
I think it's your husband who need to set the limits and see to it that this woman doesn't cross them. Maybe you can have a no cellphone policy in the house. I know people who turn their cell phones off after certain hours when they are at home. We leave our cells in the hall when we go to bed so if it's an emergency, the caller will call the home phone.
dinahmite425 - Saturday, 7 Mar
i know your tired of me. LOL but i just saw how long you have been married!!! hunny do not let go of your man,, you are a newly wed and honest to god i really did not like my husband that much in the first few months it wasnt until after a year we started to get better.. you think about it,, your newly married , new roles as husband and wife, new stepkids to learn to love and treat equally, old exs to deal with, paying bills together, who is going to handle the finaces, whos the planner whos the organizer, who's the forgiving one im telling you every time you guys get sometihing establihed and on the same accord, guess what there is something else you guys have to work out and bam you worked it out.. ,, you better not dare let this women and your husbands in ability to lead, lead you away... you know how many women probably want your man, being married is a blessing a true blessing, god will make it right for you and him, give a little time to figure out on his own how bad its hurting you and your relationship... remember one thing about men!!! when we the wives nag the Shit out of them they really are listening... they just dont respond right away so say today your argue about the ex and he walks away slams a door and tells you to shut up... well hes only walking away because he knows it is the truth but he doesnt know yet how to respond to the truth give him sometime to resond to the truth of what is happening... he will gradually make small adjustments,,, after all he married you and not her!!
its like owning your first buesiness, do you think that the first year of a new business is easy, you learn that your cost the company this much money for using these kind of approach... he will learn the approach.
dinahmite425 - Saturday, 7 Mar
I swear if i were to close my eyes i would be the one who wrote this.... My husband has a son who is 7. his mother is CRAZY!!!!! she is so jealous of our relationship its so sad.. My Husband had joint custody 50% time and pays 700 a month!!!! he was his baseball couch and everything... My stepsons mom would call my house actually once at 5:30 am!!! can you believe that shit!! and my husband answered and did not even get mad!! i tested him one day and i called the house at 3 am from work and he got so mad at me!!!!!!!! When they were together it was never for a long period of time.. so for example 3 months they are together she is very selfisha and needy meaning she needed him to pay for everything... so then they broke up for 6 months got back to gether for 2 months and it kept on this way for 4-5 years... when i met him i was the second women to ever meet my husbands son, the first lived out of sate so when she found out about her she probably didnt worry because she was so far away,,, then came me!! when we finally met she acted as if she was cool and nice but please her and her MOMMA were out to pull my man back in her arms!!! he not only took care of her ass but the momma too. so she would do everything in her power to have control... calling 7 am 11 am 3pm all damn day she would tell my husband things like "we need to meet to talk about Nico my stepson" like they cant talk on the phone, then she would always leave messages but never say what she wanted .. " can you call me back asap i need to talk to you" but never stating what the hell she wants" My step son has a bad behavioural problem she trys to make excuses for my step son and say its our relationship that is causing this well me and my husband have never broken up in 4 years we are more stable relationship wise then they ever were even when she was pregnant he had another girlfriend then they got back together there was never no real true cometment from either of them... so when this B......! found out we are serious, ie my husband and i bought a house and sold his old house she got enraged she tried to hold on to the little control she could!! she went up to his daycare yelling at the staf that im not allowed to pick him up from school everyday she would go up there and ask for the sign in/out sheets to see if i had picked him upthe school refused to follow her instructions because i was on my husbands emergency list, her ask took it to court and they put in writing only family members could pick up,, little did she know we were set to be married like one month later!! ha ha!! and i was back to picking him up.. i have a daughter she told my stepson she was not his sister and that he was not allowed to call her sister she drilled my stepson everyday about what is happening at our house if im pregnant etc... well when she found out we were married it got worse she figured she couldnt get rid of me so she was trying to do anything to get my stepson out of our house.... let me back up the following would have never happend in my opion if my man would have put her in her place even before i came along, when she called excessively and asked personal questions, parks in our driveway etc etc talks to my husband like a child blames him for everything when her own dad and her brother do drugs and my husband hs been a damn good dad... my husband should have put her ask in check... my husband and yours are beong tested by these women!!! these womens ultimate goal is for us to break up but until that could happen there next best goal is to test our men to see how much respect and love they still share...so when she calls all the time and our men answer and hold 20-30 min conversations even if it is an argument it gives them hope in the future!!! it gives them HOPE when are men answer all there crazy questions that have nothing to do with them it gives them hope ...she's thinking maybe he still loves me maybe if she was gone he would tell me he loves me again.. You have the power honey you need to put your foot down... for like 3 months my husbands baby momma was not allowed to speak to my husband.. i was the only one to speak to her!!! so when she called my step son new not to give the phone to his dad , he would say mom your not allowed to talk to daddy, my husband was the one who actually wanted it this way becaue she was really stressing him out so , when she called she spoke to me!! and there was no more runningv over or calling early in the am... 3 months i put her ass back in check, when she called for no reason i would say nicely what is the reason you are calling,, she finally got the picture and called when it was appropriate. ii remember one time she got made and demanded to speak to my man and i said who di u think your talking to im in charge here your not he lives in my house with me and your not running shit, she new her power was going down and down by the day... these women use there children to make our men feel so bad as fathers my husband would look like a little kid with his head down when he would speak of what kind of dad he was she made him believe he was horrible, if he didnt come running ahd 5 years of that he beleived it, i had to reprogram him and let him know you are a wonderful dad, very good father!!!
Well, when she saw here power struggle start to go away she started to use the legal system she called child services saying we were unfit parents!!! she called the police on my daughter who was 9 at the time saying she molests my stepson, all this in an attempt to gain control somehow, the courts new she was making things up and actually treated her if she made false statements again my step son would be placed with us for good... then last feb 2008 my husband spanked my stepson one day for throwing rocks out side at the kids and my daughter... well can you believe that she called the police on my husband and told them that he commited child cruelity , well she worked her magic this time becuase we had to go to court to fight her statements, my husband had to pay 4,000 for a lawyer until the court stuff is complete he is to have no contact with the child!!!!! so 1 year we have not seen his son or talked to him, so sad, that she is ruining this little boys life like this over poer struggles and jealiousness. can you believe everytime we go to court she always late and sits as close to us as possible. she stares my husband down if he gets up to use the bathroom her eyes follow him out the court room and her eyes follow him back to his seat!! can you believe that 3 months ago she called my husband out the blue when there is supposed to be no contact at all on both sides and spoke to him so nice as if nothing were going on asking him to pay a medical bill that she got in the mail after taking my stepson to the ER!!! can you beleive that shit she like" Oh hey Dereck how are you i was wondering if you could send me a copy of your insurance card etc etc... my husband just hung up in her face...
My husband had finally realized how determined she is to ruin his life and how he helped her take so much power from him... it took loosing his son for him to realize what kind of person she was... it took aqll this drama!!! if years ago he would of not answered her calls when he new it was not important, when he didnt jump when she said jump when she asked him personal stuff if he would have cussed her ass out she would have knew not to ask that kind of stuff again he would not have her hoping that one day they will be back together... you must break this cycle of what your husband is doing... you dont leave your husband first of all you are in charge, and from now on you have to act like it.. she is being disrespectful let her ass know you are running shit dont call after such and such time , make him change his cell number if she calls alot dont return her calls unless she leaves a convincing message as to why she should be called back... if they have joint custody make her follow the court documents... if she refuses to give the son to you guys on your husbands day you simply call the police have your court docs with you and i promise they will cite her and make her give the kid to you guys she does it again she goes to jai.
i remember that the court docs said that on holidays they were to meet up at the daycare to exchange the child from each other, she never in 7 years followed these instructions, she would tell my husbnad im not going there pick him up from my house!! and he did it,,, hell no when i can into the pick i simply picked up my husands cell phone sent a text like 3 days before easter and said just wanted to remind you we will be at the daycare at 7pm sharp, if you are not there by 7:15 we will go home and alert the police that you have abandoned nico... we showed up at 7pm on sun and guess what her ass was there by 7:05 my husband always did what her ass wanted but when it was made clear that we are not playing any games with her she did what she was asked do do on the court docs... i know your husband should be the one fixing this problem, but hey you are married now and you have to let this women know in a respectful manner you are not playing with her ass. never cuss at her just speak very stern and serious and let her know the consiquences if she doesnt follow the plan
i remeber during the 3 months there was no contact with her and my husband she would think she was sneaky and call my husband during the day when he was at work and leave him messages to call her its so important, my husband would forwarf these messages to me and i would call her up and say yes you left a message what do you need!!! she would me so taken back , like how did she know i just called... this put her in check... i hope your husband will let you take control and when you start take control in a womenly manner it will teach him how easy it is to set some bonderies with her and then he will start to do the same but like my husband i think your husband has been so broken down by her she has no respect for him and you will have to do it and he will gradually take the lead when he sees her calm her ass down...
to end my story, we only argued about her too, when my stepson was taken away while we go to court we did not have to deal with her anymore and i think it has made us so much stronger!!! in a way it is a blessing he has been taken away because his mother is so horrible and made us argue all the time but then its so terrible that my husband son has been taken like this!!! if you diont get control over this situation im telling you something extreme will happen like in our case... my stepson does not even know im pregnant with his little baby sister,,, that is so sad to me, i pray that court is complete before she is born so he can meet her as a newborn... take control
i wrote a lot... but this is a seroius topic and i wanted you to know what has happened in my case/
let me know how everything is for you
prettybrowngirl - Wednesday, 25 Feb
I have gone thru the same thing believe it or not.....u cant let it phase u - u have to let ur husband know how you feel, after a while she will get bored with her antics good luck ok
kenyanmama - Tuesday, 24 Feb
seems like this woman is actually getting in the middle of your marriage. and you cannot let her. Already if that's all you guyz argue about with your husband- it is bound to bring problems later on.
you need to let this woman know that you are HIS WIFE. you will not take SHIT from her. and the fact that she has his child doesnt mean much really. He is taking care of his son, he is spending time with him. and that is enough.
But one thing is true. if she sees how united you are with your husband she will get tired of trying to mess u guyz up. but if she even gets a hint that she is getting onto your nerves like this, oh men!! you will be in for a very long ride.
Your husband seems like a decent man and not many men would do all that he is doing. so already baby, you have a keeper. if he is however, too scared of that woman to put her in her place, thats your job now. the day you got married is the day you chose to share in his baggage and luggage.
tasha1977 - Tuesday, 24 Feb
I know exactly how you feel. But your husband needs to man up. He needs to put that bytch in her place. If his son is at his house, he can ignore her calls and his son can call her when he feels like it. She's bored and miserable. Misery loves company. She doesn't have anything else to do, so she is trying to ruin your family. But she will only do what your husband allows her to do. If he told her to call the house phone and she keeps calling the cell phone, then he needs to not answer it. She will get tired of calling the cell phone and call the house phone. He needs to put his foot down. If she tries to take his son away from him, all he has to do is go to court for joint custody. That's why there is a legal system when people can't agree. He's paying child support so there is no way that they won't allow him to have court ordered visits. And if she starts playing games not being available when you husband is scheduled to have visits with his son, then call the courts and she will be in contempt of court. There is ways around this situation. I know it's hard, but who wants to keep living like this when she is dictating what goes on. You have to stop her now, it will only get worse. Good Luck Girl!
tianaamor - Monday, 23 Feb
Honey, stop stressing he married you and that means that you win! So you need to be the bigger woman and let her little side bullstuff not get to you that is what she wants! To cause problems in your household and when she does, she is achieveing her goal of trying to get your man but guess what he does not want her if he did he would be with her so put the jealousy away, trust me men know what they want and what what they don't want so don't second guess him let it go don't even flinch when she starts her stuff and watch how this will affect your guy he will full even more in love with you than he already is. So take this time and enjoy the last few weeks we have being prego cuddle with you man! Sweety you could be in my boat and be ALONE. Breath baby, breath and hang on to your man!!!!!!!!!
rosebud - Monday, 23 Feb
Ok I don't know what to tell you. It would seem to me that this baby momma is not happy-therefore she is ensuring that your hubby isn't happy either-even if it kills her.
You have women like that. The ones who say if I can not have you then no one will. Then they do one of two things. They either try to kill you or they make your life a living hell.
Your husband needs to stand up like a man. Nobody but nobody should be allowed to disrespect you or your home. Discuss it with him and see how it goes.
One more thing, if you know that your man is a good man do not leave him. Maybe that is what miss baby-momma wants. She ain't happy, so why should you be happy - you know the types.
Stand up with your man and take charge where necessary. That may mean calling the lady and setting her straight.
However, if you have tried everything and everything fails, you must protect #1, and #1 is you. Now this is the tough part, but it is one that you must consider because things may get to a point where you are forced to cut your loses and run.
That's the last resort though. Do not allow this lady to use a cell phone and run your house. Let her know her place. I don't care if she has a thousand babies for him, YOU ARE HIS WIFE!!! I believe that as long as your man is a good man you should stand by him. BUT REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE THE MINISTER OF HOME AFFAIRS. Whether you are a working mom or a stay at home mom, you are the queen of the MANOR. Start deligating some authority.......DO NOT LET HER RUN YOUR HOUSE. And if your husband allows it to continue, then make him choose. a happy home with a wife who loves him and is there for him.......OR A TYRANT WILL USE HIS OWN SON TO DESTROY HIM, YOU, YOUR MARRIAGE AND EVEN THE LITTLE BOY IN THE END. Money is not her problem, it is your husband's happiness that she is after - and yours while she is at it.
If you leave your husband tomorrow and he turns out to be a sorry ass, she will dump him and move on to her next victim.
Stand up like the wife you are and manage your home!
Remember, when he wanted her he simply said i want you and she was there. When he wanted to leave her all he had to say was "Its over" , and then leave, no issues. When he wanted you he had to come with a ring , then take you to church before God and man. If he wants to leave you he will have to go throught the courts.
Now what does that tell you about her?
A hint: She can't walk in your shoes girl. They are too big, she can' t manage. That is why SHE is the BABY-MOMMA ; and you ,darling, have a rock on your finger and is referred to as HIS WIFE.
SAHM-with-children - Monday, 23 Feb
I am not sure what to tell you hun, I mean having a husband with a child and an ex involved is a big issue especially when they are like that, I went through the same thing with my ex-husband and I had to cut ends because he would curse in front of the kids and tell them to call me by name because the woman that he was with was now there mom and all this crap, and tell that when they came back to my house they didn't have to listen to me at all and that they were to do what they wanted we were in and out of court so many times and yet nothing changed so I had no choice but to sign off my kids because the trauma that he was putting them through was crazy they were getting bad not that I didn't love my kids but he wasn't willing to give an inch anywhere no way no how and so I had to make a ruff decsion and that was to sign off of my children that I had with him because there was no end just all I saw seeing happening was my kids being put through hell day in and day out, So I signed off of them and told them why I was doing it and that when they turned 18 years old they can come find me and they would be welcome to my house anyday, I just couldn't handle them hitting me, biting me and cursing at me and calling me names and such because of him......I did what I had to do, and thats what I am telling you hun I don't know what to tell you to do because it is a very hard situation to be in, and there will never be an end to it all, unless your husband steps up and even then it may get worse so go with your gut and talk with your husband about this and whats bothering you see what you both as a loving married couple can come up with to try, because if thats all you guys have fought about and everything else in your marriage is going great then I would give it your all, you seem tuff girl, but you need to talk to your hubby get his full attention and make him see what you are going through, and what you feel it's doing to your family and the 2 of you......good luck sorry I couldn't tell you yeah if you do this this will stop it all cause no matter what I say or tell you to do is just my opion and no matter which way you look at it it all boils down to that you need to involve your husband and talk to him tell him how you feel and what you feel from your heart not ours on here what you think needs to go on or this is what is going to wind up happening and see what happens....Good luck hun this is just one of GOD's closed doors in our lives that he places with us all.....Be strong and keep me posted
| 23-2-2009 - His Baby Momma My Drama!! |  My mood while writing this blog:pissed the hell off ..tired |
Ok ladies..
Please Read it all.. I know it's long (sorry).Ok let me get to the point.. My husband had a child before we were together and I understood that because so did I. But I knew from when I first met him that his baby momma was going to be an issue. He used to give her 1,000 a month not court ordered and she started wanting more. So we took it to court and now she only gets 879.00 a month wow!!! what a big difference! The point is she is still not satisfied. My husband loves his son so much that he feels if he says no then he is not a good father. I told him he could give him 2 million a month and that does not make him a good dad.. Ladies he loves his son sooooo much till its crazy.She knows that she can get him to do any and everything by taking his son from him so she uses that as a crutch.She used to call for a pair of sneakers and if she didnt get them she would keep him ayway for 2 months. She has a job, lives with her mother (she's 26) and gets all that money and still is not satisfied. Now to be honest when I met her I thought she was all about their son and thats it, but oh no she still wants him. She thinks she can call anytime she wants, she texts him 8:30 in the morning about things that can wait till after 5:00 p.m.,make changes to the court ordered schdule when she wants and guess what he lets her. He says that he is tired of yelling and screaming with her so he lets her do him any kind of way. She calls and curses him out, calls him all kinds of names, and just has no respect for him at all. I tell him if I don't treat you or talk to you like that what makes it right for the next chick? I can't take it for real. It's been so serious in our house that 1 week after we got married I was ready to leave because of this. When his son is over for the weekend she calls him when he gets up, again in the afternoon, and then before he goes to bed.. If you don't trust us with him then don't send him!!!! To make matter worst she got married like a year before we did and her husband passed away on our wedding day. So now it seems as though she is giving us more hell. Im going to be honest and this might sound crazy but my husband and I have never had an argument about ANYTHING else in our relationship, but her. I just don't like the fact that she feels as though she is running my house and my husband. I have had enough!!!!! When we bought our house we made sure his son had a fully decorated room, painted and all name on the door, when he comes over she doesn't have to send anything he has a full stocked closet and dresser down to his underware. My husband does not have to do anything I take care of it all. So I guess thats what pisses me off. But this chick only calls his cell phone when I tell him she should be calling the house and the house only. Cell phone in case of an emergency. He tells her and then guess what she still does what she wants to do.. Ladies I LOVE MY HUSBAND but I also love being a women of my castle and I feel if he can't get her to respect OUR house I have to go. So I dont know what else to do. Is it my husbands fault or mine?? What more can I do???? I just want respect in my house. And I pray for this feelling to be taken away but this gets me so bad sometimes that I wish I would have never met them. (all 3 of them) Ladies please give me some advise!!!I know its a bit all over the place... Sorry!!
9 Comments on His Baby Momma My Drama!!
drod - Thursday, 16 Apr
I think it's your husband who need to set the limits and see to it that this woman doesn't cross them. Maybe you can have a no cellphone policy in the house. I know people who turn their cell phones off after certain hours when they are at home. We leave our cells in the hall when we go to bed so if it's an emergency, the caller will call the home phone.
dinahmite425 - Saturday, 7 Mar
i know your tired of me. LOL but i just saw how long you have been married!!! hunny do not let go of your man,, you are a newly wed and honest to god i really did not like my husband that much in the first few months it wasnt until after a year we started to get better.. you think about it,, your newly married , new roles as husband and wife, new stepkids to learn to love and treat equally, old exs to deal with, paying bills together, who is going to handle the finaces, whos the planner whos the organizer, who's the forgiving one im telling you every time you guys get sometihing establihed and on the same accord, guess what there is something else you guys have to work out and bam you worked it out.. ,, you better not dare let this women and your husbands in ability to lead, lead you away... you know how many women probably want your man, being married is a blessing a true blessing, god will make it right for you and him, give a little time to figure out on his own how bad its hurting you and your relationship... remember one thing about men!!! when we the wives nag the Shit out of them they really are listening... they just dont respond right away so say today your argue about the ex and he walks away slams a door and tells you to shut up... well hes only walking away because he knows it is the truth but he doesnt know yet how to respond to the truth give him sometime to resond to the truth of what is happening... he will gradually make small adjustments,,, after all he married you and not her!!
its like owning your first buesiness, do you think that the first year of a new business is easy, you learn that your cost the company this much money for using these kind of approach... he will learn the approach.
dinahmite425 - Saturday, 7 Mar
I swear if i were to close my eyes i would be the one who wrote this.... My husband has a son who is 7. his mother is CRAZY!!!!! she is so jealous of our relationship its so sad.. My Husband had joint custody 50% time and pays 700 a month!!!! he was his baseball couch and everything... My stepsons mom would call my house actually once at 5:30 am!!! can you believe that shit!! and my husband answered and did not even get mad!! i tested him one day and i called the house at 3 am from work and he got so mad at me!!!!!!!! When they were together it was never for a long period of time.. so for example 3 months they are together she is very selfisha and needy meaning she needed him to pay for everything... so then they broke up for 6 months got back to gether for 2 months and it kept on this way for 4-5 years... when i met him i was the second women to ever meet my husbands son, the first lived out of sate so when she found out about her she probably didnt worry because she was so far away,,, then came me!! when we finally met she acted as if she was cool and nice but please her and her MOMMA were out to pull my man back in her arms!!! he not only took care of her ass but the momma too. so she would do everything in her power to have control... calling 7 am 11 am 3pm all damn day she would tell my husband things like "we need to meet to talk about Nico my stepson" like they cant talk on the phone, then she would always leave messages but never say what she wanted .. " can you call me back asap i need to talk to you" but never stating what the hell she wants" My step son has a bad behavioural problem she trys to make excuses for my step son and say its our relationship that is causing this well me and my husband have never broken up in 4 years we are more stable relationship wise then they ever were even when she was pregnant he had another girlfriend then they got back together there was never no real true cometment from either of them... so when this B......! found out we are serious, ie my husband and i bought a house and sold his old house she got enraged she tried to hold on to the little control she could!! she went up to his daycare yelling at the staf that im not allowed to pick him up from school everyday she would go up there and ask for the sign in/out sheets to see if i had picked him upthe school refused to follow her instructions because i was on my husbands emergency list, her ask took it to court and they put in writing only family members could pick up,, little did she know we were set to be married like one month later!! ha ha!! and i was back to picking him up.. i have a daughter she told my stepson she was not his sister and that he was not allowed to call her sister she drilled my stepson everyday about what is happening at our house if im pregnant etc... well when she found out we were married it got worse she figured she couldnt get rid of me so she was trying to do anything to get my stepson out of our house.... let me back up the following would have never happend in my opion if my man would have put her in her place even before i came along, when she called excessively and asked personal questions, parks in our driveway etc etc talks to my husband like a child blames him for everything when her own dad and her brother do drugs and my husband hs been a damn good dad... my husband should have put her ask in check... my husband and yours are beong tested by these women!!! these womens ultimate goal is for us to break up but until that could happen there next best goal is to test our men to see how much respect and love they still share...so when she calls all the time and our men answer and hold 20-30 min conversations even if it is an argument it gives them hope in the future!!! it gives them HOPE when are men answer all there crazy questions that have nothing to do with them it gives them hope ...she's thinking maybe he still loves me maybe if she was gone he would tell me he loves me again.. You have the power honey you need to put your foot down... for like 3 months my husbands baby momma was not allowed to speak to my husband.. i was the only one to speak to her!!! so when she called my step son new not to give the phone to his dad , he would say mom your not allowed to talk to daddy, my husband was the one who actually wanted it this way becaue she was really stressing him out so , when she called she spoke to me!! and there was no more runningv over or calling early in the am... 3 months i put her ass back in check, when she called for no reason i would say nicely what is the reason you are calling,, she finally got the picture and called when it was appropriate. ii remember one time she got made and demanded to speak to my man and i said who di u think your talking to im in charge here your not he lives in my house with me and your not running shit, she new her power was going down and down by the day... these women use there children to make our men feel so bad as fathers my husband would look like a little kid with his head down when he would speak of what kind of dad he was she made him believe he was horrible, if he didnt come running ahd 5 years of that he beleived it, i had to reprogram him and let him know you are a wonderful dad, very good father!!!
Well, when she saw here power struggle start to go away she started to use the legal system she called child services saying we were unfit parents!!! she called the police on my daughter who was 9 at the time saying she molests my stepson, all this in an attempt to gain control somehow, the courts new she was making things up and actually treated her if she made false statements again my step son would be placed with us for good... then last feb 2008 my husband spanked my stepson one day for throwing rocks out side at the kids and my daughter... well can you believe that she called the police on my husband and told them that he commited child cruelity , well she worked her magic this time becuase we had to go to court to fight her statements, my husband had to pay 4,000 for a lawyer until the court stuff is complete he is to have no contact with the child!!!!! so 1 year we have not seen his son or talked to him, so sad, that she is ruining this little boys life like this over poer struggles and jealiousness. can you believe everytime we go to court she always late and sits as close to us as possible. she stares my husband down if he gets up to use the bathroom her eyes follow him out the court room and her eyes follow him back to his seat!! can you believe that 3 months ago she called my husband out the blue when there is supposed to be no contact at all on both sides and spoke to him so nice as if nothing were going on asking him to pay a medical bill that she got in the mail after taking my stepson to the ER!!! can you beleive that shit she like" Oh hey Dereck how are you i was wondering if you could send me a copy of your insurance card etc etc... my husband just hung up in her face...
My husband had finally realized how determined she is to ruin his life and how he helped her take so much power from him... it took loosing his son for him to realize what kind of person she was... it took aqll this drama!!! if years ago he would of not answered her calls when he new it was not important, when he didnt jump when she said jump when she asked him personal stuff if he would have cussed her ass out she would have knew not to ask that kind of stuff again he would not have her hoping that one day they will be back together... you must break this cycle of what your husband is doing... you dont leave your husband first of all you are in charge, and from now on you have to act like it.. she is being disrespectful let her ass know you are running shit dont call after such and such time , make him change his cell number if she calls alot dont return her calls unless she leaves a convincing message as to why she should be called back... if they have joint custody make her follow the court documents... if she refuses to give the son to you guys on your husbands day you simply call the police have your court docs with you and i promise they will cite her and make her give the kid to you guys she does it again she goes to jai.
i remember that the court docs said that on holidays they were to meet up at the daycare to exchange the child from each other, she never in 7 years followed these instructions, she would tell my husbnad im not going there pick him up from my house!! and he did it,,, hell no when i can into the pick i simply picked up my husands cell phone sent a text like 3 days before easter and said just wanted to remind you we will be at the daycare at 7pm sharp, if you are not there by 7:15 we will go home and alert the police that you have abandoned nico... we showed up at 7pm on sun and guess what her ass was there by 7:05 my husband always did what her ass wanted but when it was made clear that we are not playing any games with her she did what she was asked do do on the court docs... i know your husband should be the one fixing this problem, but hey you are married now and you have to let this women know in a respectful manner you are not playing with her ass. never cuss at her just speak very stern and serious and let her know the consiquences if she doesnt follow the plan
i remeber during the 3 months there was no contact with her and my husband she would think she was sneaky and call my husband during the day when he was at work and leave him messages to call her its so important, my husband would forwarf these messages to me and i would call her up and say yes you left a message what do you need!!! she would me so taken back , like how did she know i just called... this put her in check... i hope your husband will let you take control and when you start take control in a womenly manner it will teach him how easy it is to set some bonderies with her and then he will start to do the same but like my husband i think your husband has been so broken down by her she has no respect for him and you will have to do it and he will gradually take the lead when he sees her calm her ass down...
to end my story, we only argued about her too, when my stepson was taken away while we go to court we did not have to deal with her anymore and i think it has made us so much stronger!!! in a way it is a blessing he has been taken away because his mother is so horrible and made us argue all the time but then its so terrible that my husband son has been taken like this!!! if you diont get control over this situation im telling you something extreme will happen like in our case... my stepson does not even know im pregnant with his little baby sister,,, that is so sad to me, i pray that court is complete before she is born so he can meet her as a newborn... take control
i wrote a lot... but this is a seroius topic and i wanted you to know what has happened in my case/
let me know how everything is for you
prettybrowngirl - Wednesday, 25 Feb
I have gone thru the same thing believe it or not.....u cant let it phase u - u have to let ur husband know how you feel, after a while she will get bored with her antics good luck ok
kenyanmama - Tuesday, 24 Feb
seems like this woman is actually getting in the middle of your marriage. and you cannot let her. Already if that's all you guyz argue about with your husband- it is bound to bring problems later on.
you need to let this woman know that you are HIS WIFE. you will not take SHIT from her. and the fact that she has his child doesnt mean much really. He is taking care of his son, he is spending time with him. and that is enough.
But one thing is true. if she sees how united you are with your husband she will get tired of trying to mess u guyz up. but if she even gets a hint that she is getting onto your nerves like this, oh men!! you will be in for a very long ride.
Your husband seems like a decent man and not many men would do all that he is doing. so already baby, you have a keeper. if he is however, too scared of that woman to put her in her place, thats your job now. the day you got married is the day you chose to share in his baggage and luggage.
tasha1977 - Tuesday, 24 Feb
I know exactly how you feel. But your husband needs to man up. He needs to put that bytch in her place. If his son is at his house, he can ignore her calls and his son can call her when he feels like it. She's bored and miserable. Misery loves company. She doesn't have anything else to do, so she is trying to ruin your family. But she will only do what your husband allows her to do. If he told her to call the house phone and she keeps calling the cell phone, then he needs to not answer it. She will get tired of calling the cell phone and call the house phone. He needs to put his foot down. If she tries to take his son away from him, all he has to do is go to court for joint custody. That's why there is a legal system when people can't agree. He's paying child support so there is no way that they won't allow him to have court ordered visits. And if she starts playing games not being available when you husband is scheduled to have visits with his son, then call the courts and she will be in contempt of court. There is ways around this situation. I know it's hard, but who wants to keep living like this when she is dictating what goes on. You have to stop her now, it will only get worse. Good Luck Girl!
tianaamor - Monday, 23 Feb
Honey, stop stressing he married you and that means that you win! So you need to be the bigger woman and let her little side bullstuff not get to you that is what she wants! To cause problems in your household and when she does, she is achieveing her goal of trying to get your man but guess what he does not want her if he did he would be with her so put the jealousy away, trust me men know what they want and what what they don't want so don't second guess him let it go don't even flinch when she starts her stuff and watch how this will affect your guy he will full even more in love with you than he already is. So take this time and enjoy the last few weeks we have being prego cuddle with you man! Sweety you could be in my boat and be ALONE. Breath baby, breath and hang on to your man!!!!!!!!!
rosebud - Monday, 23 Feb
Ok I don't know what to tell you. It would seem to me that this baby momma is not happy-therefore she is ensuring that your hubby isn't happy either-even if it kills her.
You have women like that. The ones who say if I can not have you then no one will. Then they do one of two things. They either try to kill you or they make your life a living hell.
Your husband needs to stand up like a man. Nobody but nobody should be allowed to disrespect you or your home. Discuss it with him and see how it goes.
One more thing, if you know that your man is a good man do not leave him. Maybe that is what miss baby-momma wants. She ain't happy, so why should you be happy - you know the types.
Stand up with your man and take charge where necessary. That may mean calling the lady and setting her straight.
However, if you have tried everything and everything fails, you must protect #1, and #1 is you. Now this is the tough part, but it is one that you must consider because things may get to a point where you are forced to cut your loses and run.
That's the last resort though. Do not allow this lady to use a cell phone and run your house. Let her know her place. I don't care if she has a thousand babies for him, YOU ARE HIS WIFE!!! I believe that as long as your man is a good man you should stand by him. BUT REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE THE MINISTER OF HOME AFFAIRS. Whether you are a working mom or a stay at home mom, you are the queen of the MANOR. Start deligating some authority.......DO NOT LET HER RUN YOUR HOUSE. And if your husband allows it to continue, then make him choose. a happy home with a wife who loves him and is there for him.......OR A TYRANT WILL USE HIS OWN SON TO DESTROY HIM, YOU, YOUR MARRIAGE AND EVEN THE LITTLE BOY IN THE END. Money is not her problem, it is your husband's happiness that she is after - and yours while she is at it.
If you leave your husband tomorrow and he turns out to be a sorry ass, she will dump him and move on to her next victim.
Stand up like the wife you are and manage your home!
Remember, when he wanted her he simply said i want you and she was there. When he wanted to leave her all he had to say was "Its over" , and then leave, no issues. When he wanted you he had to come with a ring , then take you to church before God and man. If he wants to leave you he will have to go throught the courts.
Now what does that tell you about her?
A hint: She can't walk in your shoes girl. They are too big, she can' t manage. That is why SHE is the BABY-MOMMA ; and you ,darling, have a rock on your finger and is referred to as HIS WIFE.
SAHM-with-children - Monday, 23 Feb
I am not sure what to tell you hun, I mean having a husband with a child and an ex involved is a big issue especially when they are like that, I went through the same thing with my ex-husband and I had to cut ends because he would curse in front of the kids and tell them to call me by name because the woman that he was with was now there mom and all this crap, and tell that when they came back to my house they didn't have to listen to me at all and that they were to do what they wanted we were in and out of court so many times and yet nothing changed so I had no choice but to sign off my kids because the trauma that he was putting them through was crazy they were getting bad not that I didn't love my kids but he wasn't willing to give an inch anywhere no way no how and so I had to make a ruff decsion and that was to sign off of my children that I had with him because there was no end just all I saw seeing happening was my kids being put through hell day in and day out, So I signed off of them and told them why I was doing it and that when they turned 18 years old they can come find me and they would be welcome to my house anyday, I just couldn't handle them hitting me, biting me and cursing at me and calling me names and such because of him......I did what I had to do, and thats what I am telling you hun I don't know what to tell you to do because it is a very hard situation to be in, and there will never be an end to it all, unless your husband steps up and even then it may get worse so go with your gut and talk with your husband about this and whats bothering you see what you both as a loving married couple can come up with to try, because if thats all you guys have fought about and everything else in your marriage is going great then I would give it your all, you seem tuff girl, but you need to talk to your hubby get his full attention and make him see what you are going through, and what you feel it's doing to your family and the 2 of you......good luck sorry I couldn't tell you yeah if you do this this will stop it all cause no matter what I say or tell you to do is just my opion and no matter which way you look at it it all boils down to that you need to involve your husband and talk to him tell him how you feel and what you feel from your heart not ours on here what you think needs to go on or this is what is going to wind up happening and see what happens....Good luck hun this is just one of GOD's closed doors in our lives that he places with us all.....Be strong and keep me posted
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