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14-7-2009 - I think I HATE him!!

My mood while writing this blog:
its crazy

Ok first I PRAY that my husband never reads this!!!!!!!!! Ok as most of you know that my husband and I have this problem with his BABY MOMMA!(read prior blog His baby momma my drama) But since that blog things are different but really has not changed. Ok this women is really breaking my house DOWNNN! I don't know if I should love the fact that my husband wants to be included in his son's lfe, but I dont think that my husband understands that there are going to be things that he can't be apart of being that him and his son's mother are not together. Ok let me know if Im over thinking this but she(the baby momma) called and told my husband that he(his son) needed to get his shots done remember he is 6 and she needed him to go with her to the doctor. (BULLSHID). So they can look like one happy family in the waiting room!! She tries everything in her power to get my hubby to come to this, go to that, And my hubby see's it as though he is doing it for his son and not for her. She called and said that she needed him to go with her to aparent teacher conference for him, But the boy is in DAYCARE... what kind of conference is needed in DAYCARE???But Im a women so I know what she is up to. And the problem now is that I think I dislike her so much and the drama that comes with him being there is that I don't want him over my house anymore. My skin crawls when I know it's our time to get him, because I know the drama that comes with him.. Am I wrong for feeling this way?? and what can I do about it???? Its getting really bad in my house and I know sooner or later I will leave because of this. She has had some type of impact on everything that we try to do that means something to us, She ruined our fisrt Christmas, because she wouldnt let his son come over, on our wedding day she was the first to call my husband 6:00.a.m talking about they needed to talk, on Valentine she texted him his ex girlfriends number talking about "guess who I bumped into". My baby shower he spent the whole time arguing with her about why she wont let his son come to the shower. Just anything that ment something to me she has had her hand in it... I think what also gets me is because she gets 1,000 a month and here we are going thru financial problems and when her son is over our house Im buying sneakers and clothes and he wants for nothing over our house. And she sometimes calls and yells, curses, and screaming at my hubby and he just sits there. And if he gets nasty with her she says 'Oh your wife must hae told you to say that" What should I do. I love my husband, but I want to be happy and I CANT deal with this!!!! HHHEEELLLPP!!!

13 Comments on I think I HATE him!!

yazzmin-16yrsapart - Friday, 28 May
I know I'm way behind on your blog but I just came across your page. MISERY LOVES COMPANY (I'm sure you already know). Hopefully everything is better but if not, DO NOT leave your man or home & allow this heffa to win. Her goal is to try to create madness in your home. She might not even really want him but just the fact that you guys are happy is driving her ass crazy. So she's gonna try to destroy that. My honey is the same way when it comes to putting his foot down because he tries to avoid drama but his baby momma is not as bad because they deal with one another through her grandmother now (thank god).

dezmar123 - Monday, 20 Jul
Honey, If you leave your home that woman will have achieved wht she wanted, is to break you guys up.u need to sit your husband down and tell him, you will deal with his baby momma and not him. that will piss her off good, have him change his cell number. This is the number one reason why, i would NEVER get with a man who has a baby mama, the drama neaver ends!!!

tasha1977 - Friday, 17 Jul
Your husband's baby mother knows exactly what she's doing. But I would kill that whore with kindness. She tries everything in her power to make you unhappy. She thinks this is a game. Misery definitely loves company, but she needs to get over the fact that they are not together anymore and move on with her life. Your husband did not need to go to the Dr or the daycare conference, she just wanted him to be there to cause problems. And she knows you are unhappy about that situation so any chance she get, she will have him attend anything. Your husband will have to shut her down, that's the only way she's going to stop with her bull.

BlackRussian - Tuesday, 14 Jul
GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL, i FEEL you. The only problem me and my man have at all in our relationship is his baby mama. He has a 10 yr old son and 8 yr old daughter by this woman and she is the definition of the devil. First she asked the kids where we live at our last house and came and busted out my windows in my car AND in my house. My man goes to pick up his kids and she chases him down the street with a bat, she comes down the street where i park at and tries to scratch up the car. When i was pregnant last time she divebombed at me thru my sunroof (IN FRONT OF THE KIDS) tryin to punch me in the stomach. Girl, she tells the kids their dad aint shit, that he's a crackhead and a cracker lover and that russians rape children and not to talk to me and the craziest most outlandish things you could ever think of. My man is the best father ever, he does EVERYTHING for his kids, anything they need. She has had days where she calls his phone back2back2back literally over 200 times in a row. For nothing. There was a time we went to pick up his son, and we get there and hes not there, then she told us somewhere else so we went there and hes not there, this bitch had us on a 5 hour chase to get his son, im sayin she is the most EVIL woman in the continental united states. She has run my mans name, my name and our baby on the ways name thru the dirt so many times its insane. There will be times when he stands up to her, and puts her in her place and then she lays off for a week or two then she'll call after that perios of time and he'll answer becuase he wants to talk to his kids so bad. When we first got together and the kids didnt know me that well she used to tell them things to say to him, and they'd call and ask him 'Daddy why do you love your girlfriend more then us' and 'Daddy why do you love crackers?' and crazy shit like that. Now that we've been together for so long, they love me, and they know never to tell her where we stay at or anything about us becuase they know about the windows, they know about her crazy antics, and theyre only 10 and 8 its not fair to them to be caught up in all that shit. Its now to the point where if shes on that shit she be on texting him over and over again he just gives his phone to me so i can ignore it or write back, whatever i choose to do, just so i dont feel like he is doind anything to provoke it. It took me years and MULTIPLE breakdowns with him for him to realize how much it hurts me to go thru this, and it for me to realize that he is a GOOD man, just unfortunately has the craziest babys mom one could ever imagine. I used to blame him over and over again but now i know that he is powerless against her bullshit and he doesnt be getting involved in any of her shit anymore, he'll just hang up in her face. She has even gone as far as saying she put the kids up for adoption and given him a date and a place where he can come say goodbye and all kinds of outrageous shit like that. so i feel you. The way it is right now is his 10 year old son started resenting her so much and kept telling her i want to live with my dad i want to live with my dad and started acting so bad that she called and said she packed up all his stuff and its on the porch and he can come get it, so we went and got him and have had him for about 6 months now and since I am having a girl she told him she never wants his daughter to meet her sister and so we'll see how that all plays out. But she still be calling on that crazy shit every so often, he dont talk to her, he lets her talk to her son and if she insists on talking to him which she sometimes does he'll hear her out if its about his daughter and if its not he just hangs up. As bad as he has it, as bad as i have it, the kids have it the worst and thats the saddest part. Man, i think i wrote alot, but man, touchy subject for real, im here ANY time you need to talk mama, just know that you are not alone. I have had to break down into tears with this man just to come to an understanding that we are not going to let anybody especially this crazy bitch come between us. And keep your head up and dont give up on YOUR man, even though I KNOW at times you just want to scream and pull your hair out but you guys will get thru it together, and bottom line he just wants to be a good father. Take care mama, xoxo.

mizzkeisha - Tuesday, 14 Jul
Mommyof2Kiddos just said exactly what I wanted to say!!! So ditto to what she said. And also remember, while you two(you and your hubby) are over there arguing about her and all her drama, she's somewhere stress free enjoying all the havoc she is causing!!

Mommyof2kidos - Tuesday, 14 Jul
I want to be very positive and realistic when I leave my comment. I understand where you are coming from. When I moved on with my life, my sons dad would call at all times of the night and he even popped up at my house unannounced! Good thing my fiance at the time was not there, because things could have gotten very ugly.

You must #1 pray about it. #2 Never get so mad at your husband that you two stop communicating because that gives women like that the opportunity to look appealing again. I'm not saying that your husband would ever do anything to disrespect you. All I'm saying is never let her come between the 2 of you. #3 You and the mother have to have a woman to woman, mom to mom conversation. I would recommend doing it in person without your husband around so he's not a distraction. I'm only suggesting this if both parties can control themselves and their tempers and emotions. The purpose is for you to hear her out and she can hear you out. Over the phone people can hang up and you can read the body language.

During this meeting you must lay down the rules. In a very straight forward manner. Let her know that you are not the enemy, and you aren't going anywhere so why don't y'all just get along. Explain the means of communication from this point on. Let her decide at that time if she wants to deal with those boundaries. If she decides that she doesn't than you and your husband will have to discuss how you can go about this legally so he still gets to spend time with his son.

It's sad that things have to be this way, but I promise you prayer changes things. I will definitely keep you and your family in my prayers.

dinahmite425 - Tuesday, 14 Jul
well i truly am in your situation,, or i was... dereck my hubby has an ex they were never married they have a son who is 8 i came into the picture when he was 4 yrs old she created so much drama in me and his relationship i mean major drama and yes my hubby or boyfriend slash fiance at the time just sat there and let her act a fool and run all over him.. i think they (our men) are some what scared of them which i dont know why your man and my man or big dudes my hubby is 6ft 4 260lbs and your hubby is also a big dude but they are scared of these bitches!!! can you beleieve it ... she began to be so jealous of our relationship when he sold his house and bought one with me she started to accuse my family of very serious stuff to get her son to not come over anymore.. so first she accused my daughter who was 9 at the time of MOLESTING my stepson!!! OUTRAGOUS can you beleive it ,.,, then a year ago she accused my husband of CHILD CRULETY because he spanked him for throwing rocks at my duaghter and some kids in the neighborhood!!!! OUTRAGOUS she called DFASC and everthing so now my husband has not seen his son since she said he abused him he has a jury trial AUG 3rd to prove he simply disciplinhed his son not abused him in any way!!!! she is a true bitch... so since we have not seen his son since she claimed he abused him are life has been drama free.. there is to be no contact between him or her until the court case is over.... so i started to forget how horrible it was when we had contact with her.....

now, next i want to tell you it is time for YOU TO TAKE CHARGE!!!!! you dont let family or anyone else tell you or even the baby mom tell you that it is none of your business.... hell yea it is....so please take my advice on this .... when she calls you start answering the phone and be blunt with her let her know she is to call between certain hours etc etc... that if it is not important do not call the house.... if she asks the dad to go to fuctions YOU TAKE YOUR SELF ALONG!!! NO QUESTIONS ASKED!!! YOU GO.... you need to become the dictator.... if she calls for example and says can i speak to LARRY, then you say you can speak to me!!! in a nice voice and half the time these baby mamas have nothing truly important to say at all!!! they just want to talk to there ex...; about nothing/... there was a point that she called my husband at 6 am 7 am 10 am 1pm 3 5pm etc at least 3-4 times a day!!!!!! for what!!!! nothing just to see how he treated her on the phone to see if he could still have feelings... she gets a high when she gets her way because it gives her hope that maybe he will be with her some how in the future... AT this point you have a child with him!!!! your his wife!!!! so you need to do two things.... either call her now lay down the rules dont ask larry for permission because he did not ask you for permission to do all this catering to her!!!! or you can wait until she gets out of like take the phone from larry and let her know that deal and in private let larry know you are the wife and if he is going to give her more respect then he can go over to her house and he can start paying you the 1000 a month!!!

this is scaring me a little because like i said my husband has a court date aug 3rd after that date we will be able to see his son again and i so dont want all the drama again...

my husband let her run things so long that when he tried to have a private life with me she could not handle the rejection and went this far to place false charges on him from her rage!!!
I remember there was a time that for 6 months if she called I WAS THE ONLY ONE TO SPEAK TO HER ONLY!!!! she WAS literally banned from talking to my hubby!!! she was so upset but it put her in check!!!! there is no court order saying that larry has to speak to her!!!! if she is calling to check on her son you have the right to anwer YOUR PHONE and TELL her about yourSTEPSON!!!! it does not have to be done by LARRY!!!! i know you dont want to talk to her but you have to show her that she cant call and just make up reasons to speak to larry.... as time goes on she will see that when she calls she ONly reaches YOU and NOt him and her calls will start to decrease
!!!! again if he has a conference as much as you may not want to go.... you must go with your hubby you must !!!! even if you hubby cant make an event... you go!!!! she will be so upset but he is your stepson and you have the right to take interest in his school activites etc...when you start to do this YOU GET THE CONTROL!!!!! not her i took my stepson to football practice, to baseball practice and i did not give a damn if she was there or not i came and supported him and it pissed her off because she truly couldnt do anything about it... i wish you could call me and talk to my hubby... i just got off the phone with him and i asked him this " Dereck why is it that you let or used to let your ex run you? were you scared or something"
his answer was he thinks that he and larry feel compeled to there child so if they dont do what the mom of there child asked then it is kinda like you are disapointing there child...." then i said but your married and so is larry, you have to know you cant be mr nice guy when you choice to marry the next lady" he said he knows that his wife comes first but a women will never understand!!!! but he has learned that it causes alot of drama when he did not stand up for his new family....

i think that this chlid cruelty charge was the only time my husband really opened his eyes to how evil his ex is and how she only wants to see him suffer...., until this happened to him he was still doing what your husband is doing with one exception he did make sure i came along... he did not care what she said
I was his wife so if something is happening for his son I came along!!!! girl i wish you could call me and i would love to let you talk to my husband he is nice and i think from a mans perspective he can really help you understand what larry is thinking.....

you can not be PASSIVE anymore because she can end up bringing extreme drama and police type things into the equation....

ukalin - Tuesday, 14 Jul
you are giving this B*tch to much power what ever you do don't let her know this is getting to you! becuase it will get worse...also YOU MUST TALK with you hubby he has to know the toll this is taking on you becasue sometime men are stupid to things like this belive don't just think he should know you feel talk to him and be totally honest!

happyforest - Tuesday, 14 Jul
maybe you SHOULD let him read it!! he needs to see how you feel, and sometimes its easier to write a letter or write it on a blog and let him read, bc when you try to 'discuss' things, it can escalate easily into a yelling match. i hope he is not naive enough to think she 'needs' him there 'for her son' at daycare and doc appts! thats ridiculous, is he wanting to hang out with her, or is he REALY falling for this? he needs to step up and be a MAN both for his other son and for your son together! he shouldnt take this crap from his ex, not only is it hurting you, but it will eventually hurt both of his children.

NEITHA - Tuesday, 14 Jul
Girl honestly you better get on your face before the Lord and pray for your marriage all this mess that is going on is the trick of the devil and you cant let him win. God honors marriage and whatever God loves the devil hates and this also is a test of your faith god wants to know how you are going to handle this, so what you need to do is call on the lord and ask him to fix it. His baby momma is jealous and thats all thats too it so she is going to do the best she can to mess up your marriage. tell your hubby to be there for important things only not no crap. As, far as the son dont be mad at him its not his fault its his mothers fault and sooner or later if your hubby dosent do it you might have to put her in her place but i want you to pray about it first. I had baby momma drama for a while but i keep it pushin i got kids to take care of and i aint got time to be thinking about no baby momma and neither do you, your children are more important.

cartermommy7 - Tuesday, 14 Jul
I hear ya me n my fiance broke up he sleep with smbdy else she ended up pregnant n they dnt talk but his mama try to include us whn ever she calls her n d shit really pisses me off i want 2 beat her n my mother n law ass smtimes so ya i knw hw u feel bt just be glad that u met urs with a child ths one poped up 2 years later n i hate lookn at him n i dnt care if thy knw or nt

gwendalyne - Tuesday, 14 Jul
I'm really sorry to hear that you are going thru all of this. my situation is similar but we don't have any drama. My daughter father is very active in her life, he comes to any event that she is in, I call and talk to him about anything that concerns her b/c he's her father...however, I am never disrespectful to my husband...the great part is that my husband and her dad get along great b/c my hubby made an effort to get to know him b/c he will always be in our life b/c of my daughter...Her father can bring his girlfriend to any event if he wants to. The important thing is being respectful to one another...I believe that you and your hsuband should seek marriage counseling b/c that is what she wants you to do, is leave your husband...Don't give her the satisfaction...put God first in your marriage and He will bless it...that is what makes my marriage and my situation w/my daughter's dad work out b/c of GOD

mamalvs4 - Tuesday, 14 Jul
oh honey i KNOW how you feel, i deal with this myself only my DH kids are older, but yes as a woman WE know what these "baby mommas" are up to.
First off i would NOT be allowing my DH to go to dr appts with her. no need to look like one big happy family bc they ARENT. if she doesnt want to take him then you and your DH can offer but no need WHATSOEVER to go together??????? the parent teacher confrence is a strech to say the least, its obviously a ploy but if i were you i would call his daycare and schedule a seperate time for you and your DH to go to discuss his son, no need to go together this is what split familes are all about and she is obviously trying to EXCLUDE you. which i would NOT tolerate. Good luck!

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