30-10-2008 - How do you react?

My mood while writing this blog: A little confused

Hmmm, where do I start? Two of my closest friends called me about an hour ago, they're dating, and they said they needed to come over and have a chat with me. I was a bit concerned - I thought I'd done something to upset them. Anyway, when they arrived, they assured me I hadn't done anything wrong, promptly sat themselves down at the kitchen table and told me they were having a baby, and they were roughly two months pregnant! Just to give you an idea, while she is committed to him and loves him very much (I believe), she is very young at heart and wanted to travel etc before she settled down and started a family. He has been quite clucky for some time, and loves playing with his mates kids (including my own), but he was also well aware that a family was not on her agenda just yet.

And now, the two of them have come to me and told me all this, and whilst I would be, or I am very excited for them, I can't really be, because they're not sure if they want it. What a position. I'm a bit old fashioned too, and don't really believe in abortion, especially considering they're both very healthy, have few financial commitments and quite good jobs, I don't see they have a defining reason to get one. And if they still don't want the baby, they can always put it up for adoption - give it to somebody who would really love and cherish it.

I am so judgemental, I think that's my problem. So narrow-minded. Anyway, he was asking me all about what she can and can't do, what's good for the baby and what's not. So I tried to give them a bit of an idea, lent them a couple of books, but told them that ultimately, they had to decide what they wanted first. Before they worry about their parents reactions, before they stress about what time off work she'll need, they have to sit down and figure out what THEY want. I just hope that it helped - even if it was just a little bit.

Of course Dave and I haven't told anybody that I'm pregnant, so my other big problem is that I'm secretly excited that we'll be pregnant together. That'd be so much fun I think. You see, I have a hidden agenda - I just want them to keep it, so I have somebody else to whinge to and feel my pain!