23-7-2009 - Regular Visitation??! (advice pleeeease!)

My mood while writing this blog: thoughtful

So Jayde got back from her visit at her grandmother's. I def called every 4 hours like i said i would and grandma or Rol actually picked up and updated me every time i called. Yall i even texted Rol's phone at 4:30AM! LOL, i jus couldn't sleep and knew it was probably b/c she was awake. I was right! Rol texted back and said yes, she had jus woken up and was eating and he was bout to change her diaper. That was Tues. night...Wed. i called and grandma said she was gonna bring Jayde back to me by 4:30pm...Rol called at 4pm and said it would be more like 6pm...well, it ended up being 6:35pm. It was fine tho...they took good care of her it seems. Rol even bought TWO cans of formula!!! Wow, is he starting to change??! Only thing, Jayde has been fussy all day. I've asked them not to hold her too much and not to have her in the car all day. However, i think they did the latter and prolly the former too. This si exactly how she acts after being in the car and spoiled for a couple days. It's so hard on me cuz i'm here by myself and can't get a whole lot done.

On top of that, the grandma texted me and wants Jayde to visit on a regular basis, like spend the night over there once a week. I'm not sure about all that cuz idk if they follow all my directions. For instance she obviously didn't get to nap yesterday so she slept later and was off her schedule today (she jus went to bed at 7:15! which means she'll be up around 6 or 7am and off schedule again!). Another thing, why is there some brown stain on Jayde's bib? I mean thats jus nasty if it's poop and it's wrong if they fed her anything brown cuz i told them all she eats is formula and rice cereal. Also, i think they might have some hand-me-down clothes and other items they use when she's there. Nothing wrong with hand-me-downs (i use them myself), but i don't think they wash and sanatize them. Clothes, i always wash in the baby detergent the first time and i sterilize bottles and stuff in clorox. And clearly i send her there with stuff i've worked to get so why not just use it?? I don't wanna seem mean, but they need to follow my rules for my daughter cuz i have her the majority of the time and i'm not willing to deal with the fussiness and being spoiled and wondering if she's coming back healthy and clean...

What should i do?? Should i give them another chance to do right by what i say? Or, should i only let her do short visits until i feel more comfy? I mean, that is her fam (her dad lives with grandma so it's nice that he's spending that time with her too). Please give advice ladies.