03-11-2009 - child support court was GOOD to me!

My mood while writing this blog: comfortable

I had my 2nd court date today for child support (the first one ended in continuation b/c he had a doctor's note keeping him out of work). Well, I was kinda PO'd about going cuz I had to take a whole day off work and I used almost all my days for maternity leave last year, so I want to save as many as possible. Anyways I go in (at least Rol was on time today) and wait and wait. Finally, the case worker speaks to us both and Rol does admit he went back to work. I simply stated that everything was the same except childcare was more expensive (b/c I switched babysitters). So we wait some more and she calls us back out to break down what she will present to the judge. This is it: he supposedly makes 8.25 and works 20 hours a week, but she imputed him a part time job at minimum wage for his other 20 hours (basically he needs to be working 40 hrs. a week so she is saying he can find a part time job at minimum wage to make up the other 20 hrs....she includes the part time earnings he needs to go out and find in his income). She looked at my income which is pretty good and also put in that I pay Jayde's health insurance and childcare...his child support came to $354 a month!!!!! I know that might not seem like a while lot to some of you, but yall, I was really only seeking $100-$150 monthly, so I was sooooo shocked!

Anyways, we go in front of the judge and of course Rol speaks his mind b/c he thinks the amount is crazy high (he expects us to believe he doesn't even make that much). Yall, this boy's momma was even in the courtroom trying to speak and the judge shut her up real quick (cuz she's not part of the proceedings). But, the judge told us we couldn't do the imputing part (cuz he hadn't had time to look for a part time job), so his payment is $229 monthly (still more than I expected or even desired). Well, it got signed in and he owes it to me NOW and it's late after Nov. 25. It will be taken directly from his paycheck so there's no funny business that can take place. Tell me why though his mom was asking how to get it lowered once he goes back to school and if he could not be responsible for past medical bills cuz they were incrued before the childsupport order...whatever lady, complain and try to get out of it all you want...i doubt it's gonna work! But yall what kind of WOMAN would help in the hindering of another woman and her child???!!

So, there ya go...I'm happy! And, Jayde and I will be real comfortable in the coming months. We even go back in January cuz the judge says he needs to find a part time job so she can INCREASE the child support order, wow! I just wanna remind all of you that in July before I even went to the child support office I asked Rol and his mom if they could just commit to something like $100 a month or even just material items every month (like diapers, wipes, food, etc.). Well, they refused and laughed and said, "go ahead and take it to court...you won't get that much anyways." Well, GOD DON'T LIKE UGLY!!! I kinda feel bad cuz I know they don't have the best finanacial situation either, but I did try to be reasonable and they wouldn't budge. In the best interest of Jayde I did what I should have.

Well ladies, if you haven't taken things to the legal level, I would say DO IT! Even if you don't REALLY need it, put it in a savings account; none of us will ever be able to fund our child's college education, so think ahead! I know I'm taking $100 of my child support and putting it straight into a savings account. The way I figure it...100 a month for 17 years...that's over $20,000. That's at least 1 or 2 years of college! So, yeah, I'm glad it's done and I can stop asking him for money or materials. Now, the only thing I need to talk to him for is if he wants to see Jayde.

Tomorrow's Hump Day!!! :)