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28-10-2009 - Mad at hubby!!!

My mood while writing this blog: Disapionted

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Last night we had a romantic time together in front of the fireplace. I got hungry and started eating this gluten free, xylitol sweetened spice cake I made. It was so good,healthy and sugar free. I only made a half batch of the cake recipe have in mind. I was laughing at myself and I said . I just finished of half that cake I made. It was so yummy. My husband said gosh gorging are you. Those aren't that healthy, it's still carbs and eggs. Your a lot bigger than you were last pregnancy. I said it's because I just look bigger cause it's my second pregnancy and my stomach/uterus sticks out more. He said no it's your butt and hips too. I could tell when we were having sex. He said soon your going to look like Christy Alley!!!!! I am so pissed. I told him it's normal to gain 15 lbs at this point and last time I was at the doc about a month ago i only gained 9lbs. I haven't weighed myself since. I'm sure I didn't go over 15lbs. He said he was just joking about the Christy Alley! That's not funny and all jokes have some truth to them. Plus this is the second time this pregnancy that he told me I look bigger than the last time. Saying sorry doesn't cut it anymore. I told him he needs to work out and get some muscles. He's too skinny. He's always had a high metabolism. He said Do you want me to go lift weights when I get home instead of spending time w/ you guys. That's not the point!! I only said that to hurt him like he hurt me. I'm so mad at him. I had bad dreams all last night about being fat and my husband was being mean to me and letting some other girl give him a shoulder massage. He would never do that in real life. But I told him about my bad dream this morning and he's like, I already said I'm sorry. I would never let another girl give me a massage. I said I know that. That's not the point. You really hurt my feelings. You can't say stuff like that to a pregnant women. Why is he so mean about weight. Why can't he see how much he's hurting me. Next time he's gonna want to be romantic. I'm not going to want to. He's making my self esteem go down. Today I was looking in mirror at my butt because of him. I'm so mad!!!!

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8 Comments on Mad at hubby!!!


kristab41 - Tuesday, 3 Nov
Smack him up beside his head !! both of them ! LOLWhat a brat !! I'd say cut him off - my hubby tells me everyday how beautiful I am and we aren't having sex as I cramp way too easy with twins. He understands and is willing to wait til the babies get here.

marchbabies - Wednesday, 28 Oct
You look great! I would be mad too... but men just don't get it sometimes. My husband made the remark once a few weeks ago about how I'm definitely bigger this time but he just blames it on we are having a chubbier baby ;) They will never understand what we go thru in pregnancy and the sacrifices we make with our bodies to have babies. Maybe if you let him see less of how angry you are and more of how hurt you really were, he will truly feel sorry instead of defensive.. I'm sure he loves you and really never would want to hurt you. But I get snappy with my hubby sometimes while prego about things and he's less likely to be sorry unless he can tell he genuinely hurt my feelings. I wouldn't feel self-conscious though.... you look FAB!

mammaamy - Wednesday, 28 Oct
Your so not fat. You have a beautiful pregnant body, plus it's normal to get a bit bigger your second pregnancy and depends how where baby is, but you still are NOT fat. I have aldready gained a lot of weight and it's my first ;(, but i try to not dwell on it, i eat really healthy ( ost the time). Thank god my BF is so kind to me if he said something like that I'd cry and cry and oh my.. He's just a man and oviously doesn't understand hormones and how horrible they can be.. I hope you feel better, just try to focus on the fact that your body is perfect for baby. :)

Twomarchbebes - Wednesday, 28 Oct
Oh thats awful - tell him you are going to eat another donut for every look, hint or implication that you're getting chubby lol.. I am chubby and my husband still tells me I'm beautiful everyday so there is no excuse for his rudeness!

NinaBo-Bina - Wednesday, 28 Oct
OMG I know how you feel. My honey is such a fitness finatic and he makes me feel big. I know he doesn't mean to and I have gotten to the point where I don't care what he thinks of it as I know I am elastic Puerto Rician woman who can snap back like a rubber band. He says things while we are having sex like that fat $%#@&. I kinda like it, turns me on..lol I on the otherhand have gained like 20 lbs already but it's mostly in my belly. I love my preggers body and I won't let him take the enjoyment away.

MyAngelTwins - Wednesday, 28 Oct
OMG!!! I cant believe that! I would never want to undress in front on him again while pregnant! I have gained 22lbs already and I dont really care. My husband and I joke around about it together how much weight I have gained. He understands that is part of it. Now he said IF I wasn't pregnant then we might have a problem. BUT he was laughing still about it. You look so great! I am sorry that he said those things to you. They dont understand how hurtful it is. We are growing a life inside and whatever your body tells you it wants then eat it! Anyways you do look amazing doll!

lil.pigz - Wednesday, 28 Oct
Men can be such pigs,lol. I hear the same jokes and teasing from my hubby. I don't know if it is because they are jealous of the whole pregnancy? Don't let it bother you too much. You are beautiful AND pregnant:-)

fruitful - Wednesday, 28 Oct
That was not a nice thing for him to say.