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25-1-2009 - to breastfeed or not to breastfeed

My mood while writing this blog:
unsure

Thanks to all you ladies who commented on my last blog. Ashlynn's jaundice levels went back down and she is now off the billa light.

question: do any of you ladies feel bad for not breastfeeding or trying to wean your baby off? I started out just breastfeeding then it seemed over whelming to me especially with another kid who needs attention. She is always on my breast especially at night. I would love this any other time and I feel great giving her what is best. NOW I am breastfeeding and bottle feeding. I feel guilty everytime I give her a bottle. The thought of doing it in public, leaking, not being able to be with my son as much is also bothering me. So what am I to do? Continue breastfeeding for the benefit of her? Or... Do the bottles because it's more convienent for me and the rest of the family? I just can't get over the guily feeling. I breastfeed my son for 2 wks then switched him over and never had these feelings and I keep telling myself he is just fine so will she.

What are your thoughts and experiences?

8 Comments on to breastfeed or not to breastfeed

mommytobeof2 - Tuesday, 27 Jan
hi, well i only brestfed my 2 yr old son for 1 month and hes the smartest little guy ever. i think if you just brestfeed your baby to the best of wht you can do she will be just fine, i have a 3 week old baby girl and i am stopping with her too cuz my tatas are killing me and just once in a while i feed her on the tatas. so whatever you give your child is always good enough. they will love you at whatever you choose to do. i hope this helps with your anxiety n fear off bresteeding.

barunka05 - Monday, 26 Jan
I would say try to keep i t up it really gets much more easier once u turn the magis 6 weeks mark. I have a three year old and she always seems to wait when i'am bf to missbehave but i try to keep her occupied and she is getting much better. Usually she sits next to me and talk to me now so..
But like everybody said the final decision is yours.
I felt bad about bf at public but i get use to it already.
I was leaking milk but i'am using the lansinoh breast pads and they are great.

Megan - Monday, 26 Jan
i have been going through a similar situation with my son also. only mine was compounded by his dr telling me i wasnt making enough milk cuz he wasnt gaining weight fast enough. so i was told to feed him every hour around the clock. thats next to impossible with an almost 2 year old as well to take care of. i was about to give up but my friend told me to just hold on til 6 weeks had past. she said it gets soo much easier at that point. she's had and nursed 4 kiddos... her last she nursed for 2 years. so i trust her, and that's what i plan on doing. i have decided if my milk supply doesnt hold up (last time around i lost my milk at 4 months) then i will at least pump all that i can get out and give it to him through a bottle so he can get as much of the best as is possible. like the other girls said though... in the end you have to do what you feel is best. only you can decide that for yourself and your baby. good luck making this decision. whatever you choose will be the right choice im sure.

arkansastechmommy - Monday, 26 Jan
I haven't even had my little one yet, but I'm already stressing out over this! I would say follow your heart.... And, don't let what other people say bother you. In the end, it is YOUR decesion. I know this is easier said than done... But I'm going to try to use my own advice when making my decesion also. Good luck with your decesion:)

andriette and christians mummy liz - Monday, 26 Jan
HUN IM IN ALMOST THE SAME SITUATION EXEPCT IM PUMPING.ID SAY GO WITH WHAT IS EASIER FOR U AND UR FAMILY.DONT FEEL BAD ABOUT WHAT U DECIDE.AND DONT LET OTHER PEOPLE TELL U WHAT TO DO.BEST OF LUCK:-)

bezzi44 - Monday, 26 Jan
That's a tough one... I am so sick of pumping already, and my nipples hurt like $#%#!!! b/c she is not latching on so I feel like giving up too. We just went to my BIL's house and it was right in the middle of feeding. It was feed here or travel home for 45 mins with over full breasts... I ended up feeding her. I put a blanket over my shoulder. Also, had to feed her in the ped's office b/c we had to wait so long.

It's a difficult decision. But I will supplement with a bottle of expressed milk when necessary and I am not opposed to supplementing with formula either. I'm not some die hard-must use my milk- mom. I want my daughter to have the best that she can get for at least a few months.

Is it possible for you to feed at home (like evenings) and use bottles at other times? That way you can continue to get the bennefits of both? Your milk supply should adjust according (supposedly anyway).

Good luck!!!

1Byfaith - Monday, 26 Jan
It seems like you are stressing out b/c you know breastfeeding is the right thing to do for your baby. That could be why you feel guilty everytime you feed her a bottle. I would say follow your heart. We already know that breastmilk is the best milk so why not give her your best. She will only be a baby for a very short time. You can always be thankful that your son is fine. You did bf him for two week and they say the colostrum is good for our little ones. But really you cant compare what you did for each baby. Maybe that is only a way of making you feel justified. One option could be to plan things out better so that it does work well for your entire family. I hope everything works out for you, no matter what decision you make. Take care :0)

cowgirlygirl28 - Monday, 26 Jan
If it stresses you out too much, I would say stop breastfeeding......A stressed out mamma means stressed out baby and family ......A happy momma= happy baby and family.

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