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MelissaJoanne has 101 days to go and is now in week 25
	Age: 32 Country: US Province/region: Illinois City: Chicago Partner: husband - Tony Children: Yes, 1 Pregnant: Yes Due date: 28 May ,2012 Occupation: mama (also opera singer, voice teacher. maker and seller of artistic things, fitness instructor)
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20-1-2009 - Three Months of Baby

My mood while writing this blog:
hopeful, and sleepy

Zemirah is three months old today. It's a fantastic day for us, and historically speaking, though the political reasons for that are taboo on this site. I'll just say, we are very happy that my volunteer work at the official headquarters could help give my daughter a great gift today.

So, here's how things have been as a mama so far...

Month One: Unimaginably horrible. As awful as my pregnancy was wonderful. It was crazy to me that I could love this little person so much and be so glad to have her, and still manage to be so miserable and in such hate with life. She had colic, she had to have surgery, she slept for maybe one hour a day total, she screamed endlessly. I knew that there had to be a happy baby in there somewhere, but I couldn't find her. My time with God was generally spent asking Him why he'd forsaken me (really - I'm not just making it sound more dramatic after the fact). I knew rationally speaking that time would pass and she would get older and things HAD to get better, but I thought I might possibly die before they did get better, but also worried that if I died that no one would take care of Zemirah. Oh yeah, month one sucked.

Month Two: A much needed transition. The beginning was much like the first month, but by the end I had a very different baby. We started giving her a probiotic for her colic, which drastically cut down on the screaming. She started rolling at five weeks, she smiled, played, became much more of a person and less of a screamapiller (as we called her). Starting at month two she began sleeping in bed with us full time... I was paranoid to have her there earlier when she was newborn, as Tony is a 'violent' sleeper. I didn't want her smooshed. So, she began sleeping well at night because she prefers sleeping with me. By the end of month two, things were pretty bareable.

Month Three: Surprisingly deightful. She plays and laughs and naps sometimes (such as right now on my lap) and pets kitties and makes adorable sounds and is so fun to interact with. She actually pauses between eating now, sometimes for a few hours, making it easier to leave the house. I have no problem breastfeeding her in public, but it's better when she doesn't scream as though I haven't fed her in weeks like she used to. In fact, she rarely cries at all now. She cries more often for Tony than me (she definitely prefers the mama). It's still very difficult to get things done, because she must be with me constantly and doesn't like to be in a sling. I'd planned to have her with me all the time, but didn't anticipate her annoyance at being in a sling - she much prefers being carried, leaving me with one hand at a time. I know that she'll be mobile in no time though, and I'll miss the days shen she had to be in my arms all day, so I savour it.

Overall: I'm SO glad that the rough post partum times are gone, and that I have my happy lovely baby. In terms of parenting, I feel just as strongly now (if not more strongly) about the things that I did pre-baby, things that sometimes people would annoyingly tell me 'Oh, you'll change your mind when you have a baby'. Bah. Things that are very important to me are: breastfeeding; environmentally friendly diaper choices (Love the gDiapers, and I also would like to start infant toilet training once it stops being 0 degrees here); never making my baby 'cry it out'; never hitting her for any reason ever; listening to her, and meeting whatever needs she has, whenever she needs me to; eating healthy organic vegetarian things; having her with me and on me almost constantly (with me unless she's with daddy while I shower!) - I had a baby to spend time with her, not to train her to be by herself; and, pouring into her little brain all sorts of words and sounds and sights and smells and touches and tastes (through delicious milk, and in another three months through whole foods that she'll experiment with) to help her develop into an intelligent little person. I'm still a bit intimidated to think that I'll need to go through this two or three more times with subsequent babies. But, we lived through it, and came out fairly unscathed.

Happy Three Month Birthday Zemirah!

3 Comments on Three Months of Baby

waitin4mymiricle - Wednesday, 21 Jan
That is so intresting in how they improve month by month.... My little boy will turn two months on Thursday.. Time flys by sooo fast..

bellajenna - Wednesday, 21 Jan
glad things are looking up n o yeah GO OBAMA MAMA this is a very special day for our children.

lilmissk - Tuesday, 20 Jan
Wow, time is flying! It's seems like just yesterday that you had her. I'm happy everything is going well!

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