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19-11-2008 - Oh how friends change...

My mood while writing this blog: Pissy and Hurt

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It's so funny how friends change once you have a baby. And the funny thing is, it's my oldest friend who has two children who has changed the most. We've been BF's since 7th grade. She had her son at 16 then her daughter 7 years later. Right after I had Garrett she decided to tell me she has been hurt over the years because I didn't do enough or include her enough when I did things. I was a single girl in college. Sorry but I didn't have a kid and I wasn't going to spend every weekend hanging out at her house with a toddler. And I did invite her to things, went to every birthday party, bought christmas and birthday gifts every year, etc... I gave her money for her rent when she was a single mom. My parents bought her son clothes...etc. Well, now that I've had Garrett, she has seen him a whopping TWO times. Ya, two! It's as if she is "paying me back" for the terrible friend she thinks I was. There are so many things I could throw back in her face of instances where I did go out of my way for her. I drove myself to Prom so I could stop by her house because she wanted to see me in my dress for crying out loud! She of all people should know how busy life is with a child. It hurts me that she doesn't care enough to even call to ask how Garrett is doing or anything. I am astounded actually at the way she has been through this. I have another friend who lives an hour away who has never made it to town to see him. Yet, Monday she called to see if I wanted to come see her and go out to see a band. Uh Yeah Right Jack ass! I don't freaking think so. I've just been holding this in for all of these months and after seeing some of their myspace comments I am just done. I want to tell them to screw off. I hate it when people are so narrow minded that they can never see how their actions or lack thereof can make others feel.

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3 Comments on Oh how friends change...


newbaby1 - Wednesday, 19 Nov
Oh....and I forgot to mention that she has not seen my baby since he was 1 1/2 months old and he is now 8 months!

newbaby1 - Wednesday, 19 Nov
I am in your shoes......my best friend had a baby about one year before Bryght was born.....I lived in Dallas at the time...but I always called and would stop in and see her on the week-ends I was home....I even gave her baby shower.....Well....I get pregant and I don't hear from her for months.....her husband told my husband she was a little hurt that I was not as involved with the prenancy as much as she wanted me to be. THEN....she does NOT even show up to my shower.....and I GAVE hers!!!! The nerve of some people. I was kind of like.....what more could I have done.......I could have been stuck up her a$$ the whole pregnancy and I still would have not pleased her. I finally got over it. DON"T sweat it.....your friend knows everything you did......some people you just can't please....they always turn out to be the ones that don't give any effort themselves. Sorry for the novel! LOL

Baby1one - Wednesday, 19 Nov
It honestly does not sound as though they are true friends to begin with. A true friend is there for you through thick or thin. Does not judge you. Will not turn any words you say around to look good on them. Will tell you how they feel but will take into account your feelings.
Will be there for you and not hurt you intentionally.
I am sure you know these things though! There are good people out there and true friends do exist. Life seems to happen the way it does for a reason.
Your son is adorable and it really is their loss :-)