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14-4-2009 - Feeling Hurt @ week 15

My mood while writing this blog:
unsupported

I am so glad I have you all -my hubby just flipped out at me because "all I talk about is my belly, or my weight, or what I think the baby is, or baby names.." SO-RRY, I thought that was his job to listen to me.
I have to reschedule my anatomy scan b/c my boss is taking the day off and I have to work all day alone 5/22 (so much for that). It was so taxing trying to schedule that dang appointment (phone tag for days!). I am going to call my OB tomorrow b/c she said its OK to scan at 19 weeks...I want her to tell the hospital that. I am also willing to go to another hospital. This is ridiculous.
Anyways, I was talking to my husband about rescheduling it and he says I am getting "annoying" and stop talking about the scan - just schedule it whenever they let me and shut up about it.
He just doesn't get it...I want to KNOW who is in my belly for the sole fact I can start buying things for my baby and start calling s/he by name, you know?
I am so upset, I am sure its the hormones and I know you all will know where I am coming from. Why can't he just be supportive? He says - "what wrong with you? One day you are worried you are not gaining weight, then one day you say you are fat, and you are obsessed with the babys gender and scans and wives tales....just STOP, you are getting annoying." Um, thanks alot. I told him this morning that I want my linea nigra to appear and he said "ew, why would you WANT that?" Sigh...
i swear I am not saying another word about my pregnancy to him unless HE brings it up.
I also feel very unsexy at the moment - I am feeling fat (I am up 8 lbs at the moment) and pale, and zitty with greasy hair. I need help. Anyone else feeling this way?
Sorry, just had to vent....thanks for listening to those who read this entire whiny rant.

8 Comments on Feeling Hurt @ week 15

thalya - Sunday, 26 Apr
damn i feel like i talk about the baby too much but i think its just us girls that we are so xcited i am even though my bf gets annoyed i try not to talk about it but i know he wont say nothin mean hes also xcited just hang in there grl i also feel pale and zitty and ugly at this point

1st baby on the way-411 - Monday, 20 Apr
I had to make a comment about the pale and zitty part of that blog...that's defiantly how I'm feeling, I use to tan before getting pregnant so now I'm white as a ghost AND my chest and back has broken out in zitts Ewww it's so gross! I have a dermatology appointment then end of this month so I hope I can get some relief!!!

allmommywantedwasabackrub - Wednesday, 15 Apr
Hey Girly,

It was hard for my babes to get excited inthe very beggining too. When he came with me to the US things changed, he saw the little one, heard the heart beat and began to watch my tummy grow and I think that made everything more real for him. There are days that I think the baby doesn't even cross his mind but for us moms it is a constant, we watch the way we move, sit, sneeze and sleep.

I am with you on the feeling "not so HOT" my complexition is horrible, my hair is so greasy and I am starting to feel the weight. Don't let the weight bother you, you and I are of the same build and although 8lbs to us is alot, to the baby it isn't, we need to eat healthy for the wee one to grow big and strong. Just wait for the weight to enter your breasts - think you aren't getting attention from DH now - just wait, you will want him to leave you alone :-)

Keep your chin up hun, you are a proud mommy and no one can rain on that parade!!

jamie79 - Wednesday, 15 Apr
i had a patient tell me that she thought every pregnant woman was beautiful! so just remember that when you dont feel good.

MommyLove09 - Wednesday, 15 Apr
Thank you all so much for your comments. You make excellent points and I feel a lot better.
When something new happens to me, I read about it and research it like crazy (I have 6 books on pregnancy and baby care by my bed), sometimes it takes over me...like when I got a puppy at 21, I was the SAME way (I was incapable of talking about anything else).
Pregnancy is huge and its the most exciting thing in the world for me, but you're all so right....my hubby needs his wifey back. I will be a mommy in 6 months and then the wifey will be gone for good, poor hubby. I am going to cool it for awhile and let him bring it up from now on. I have the girls at work and you guys to talk with. I am going to try to be just me again when I am home.

KittenMuffin - Tuesday, 14 Apr
I was just filling up my time with this site and I ran into your blog. I just wanted to say that I can relate. My bf does not seem as excited as I am about the baby. I don't think he understands how it is to have someone growing inside you, and how it could be the number one thing on your mind. My bf just seems stressed when I bring up the baby due to financal reasons and how it will take up a lot of his time. He's not a horrible person and will be a good and dedicated father, but it seems harder for him to just get excited.
I think everyone here summed it up very well that men sometimes just don't understand how we feel. You should be excited about your baby and finding out new information is one of the best things in the world.
I feel very unsexy too..I just want to show instead of feeling fat. I thought I was the only one in the world to want linea nigra to show too!!! It's just like another exciting step into pregnancy.
I hope everything goes well for you and your husband. Just try to remember he is just a guy and all the awesome things he did over the upsetting.

nadz31 - Tuesday, 14 Apr
I know your feeling upset right now, but I realized that men dont feel the way that we do, they dont understand because it is not happening to them, well it is but not physically like us. I really dont speak much about it because I know we still have so many weeks to go it will feel like it is taking forever lol. My bf and I get into stupid arguments but I know its all dumb stuff, its ok to be excited about your little one and its ok to talk about it, but maybe he is just wanting some of his wife back, before baby. Give him a little of that and you will see it will change. I know that I get caught up with all the fun stuff, but men are not the same, they are afraid of change and he is probably feeling that its changing too fast. Remember they are like babies one day at a time lol. Good luck, you will see it will all work out.

cdra - Tuesday, 14 Apr
I feel your pain. I'm going through the exact same thing with my bf. He gets annoyed by me just talking about baby stuff and being impatient when it comes to finding out the sex. We've argued about it a couple of times. I told him if i have to carry his kid for 9 months and its coming out of my vagina the least he can do is hear what ever I have to say about any of it. I have a tendency to snap when I feel he's being unsporting. I mean, listening and coming to a few appointments is the least they can do. But at the same time I do realize it can be overwhelming when it's all you talk about. I did tone it down a bit but I also explained to him how exciting all this is and how being pregnant takes over your life so in a way it is all you can talk about. He did understand when I broke it down for him and is now much more supportive. Just wanted to let you know a bunch of us are all going through the same thing. It'll get better!!!

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