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25-6-2009 - HELP!!! Major Decisions to be made ASAP!!!!!

My mood while writing this blog: Deep Thought

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Here is the situation..... My daughter is 9wks today and I have some serious decisions to be made. I have been offered an opportunity to get back into real estate full time (or part time) with the top producing team in my area. I would be a wonderful business move for me.

Now the flip side of that situation is my baby! She is still very young. I didn't go back to work with my son until he was 4mths old. My daughter is very attached to me. She will let my husband and her grand parents hold her for a little while, but she always looks for me. As of right now, I am the only one that can soothe her when she is really upset or doesn't feel well.

So my question has been this.... Will she feel like I have abandone her? Will she not trust me for leaving her with perfect strangers all day while I work? Will that damage our relationship? I just don't know....

Finacially it would help if I went to work now, but my husband is supportive of whatever I choose to do. I found a daycare facility that is faith based that I feel really comfortable with, but I know my baby. My husband says to listen to your gut, but my gut is all messed up and confused. :(

I would love to hear some advice from you other mommy's.....

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4 Comments on HELP!!! Major Decisions to be made ASAP!!!!!


RileyJaydensMom - Saturday, 27 Jun
Thank you for the comment on my page and I kind of know how you feel. I went back to work after six weeks and hated leaving my son. He also seems to be more attached to me but has adjusted well to being with his grandparents and of course my husband. I am currently full time but will be dropping down to part time to be with our son more. I think if you go back she will adjust just fine. Eventually she will have to be away from you so if it is something you really want to do go for it. At least part time if it is such a great opportunity. Good luck though with whatever you decide.

jennymomof3 - Thursday, 25 Jun
I would do it because of the great opportunity. The baby will adjust and be ok and when you get home from work you'll get to see how excited she is to see you and spend quality time with her. Babies adjust well you'll be surprised. I'm glad you found a daycare your comfortable with.

mamalvs4 - Thursday, 25 Jun
i think all mommies struggle with leaving their child for work, vacations etc. i went on vacation in Feb and struggled with leaving my 4 year old for a week. LOL. when i had my son i went back to work after 5 weeks, definitly not because i wanted to but it was something i HAD to do. i was lucky to find a great babysitter that i trusted completly and that definitly made my transistion much easier. today my son is 4 1/2 and we have a great relationship. he still perfers me when he is upset and sick but he has great social skills and has learned to be comfortable in lots of diffrent situations. i dont think your bond will suffer at all. good luck with your decision

monstamama - Thursday, 25 Jun
Hmmm...that is a dilemma. I don't know how helpful this will be to you but it is the question I ask myself whenever I find myself at a fork in the road: How will this effect my life in a year? 5 years? 10 years? IMO, I don't think your daughter will be negatively impacted by this. After all, humans are very adaptable...the real question is: how will you cope? And is going back to work worth the price of childcare and the guilt you may feel of not being with your daughter (not that you should feel guilt, but naturally will as any mother would)?