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6 Comments on What do ur Husbands Do?
KyMMie MuMMy - Thursday, 11 Dec
I completely sympathise with you. My first partner (and biological father to my eldest child, my daughter) used to go out drinking and get back in the early hours of the morning. He wouldnt take me with him and he would switch off his phone. He wouldnt spend time with me and our daughter on w/e and leave the entire responsibility of taking care of her on me.
Finally i grew up and took a stand. I left him when my daughter was just over one and i've never looked back.
Today i am married to a handsome, smart man who loves me and our daughter and more recently our son :) My husband [Never] goes anywhere without me and i [Never] go anywhere without him. We are bestfriends. We sit and talk and have beers on our veranda. I think an important part of a relationship is actually enjoying the person you are with..you should want to spend time with them.
In any case (i hope im not over-stepping boundaries here but...) you're partner is being very disrespectful.I'm not against men and women going out by themselves but it shouldnt be at the expense of their partners feelings. He should not isolate you like this, especially now.
I hope things are better and that your partner wises up and gives you the support you need and deserve.
I didnt mean to offend or be rude or nosy. If i came across this way please forgive me. I just hate to see women suffer in anyway especially since i know exactly what it feels like!
All the best :)
kathy=^.^= - Tuesday, 9 Dec
im sorry that ur hubby acts like that! i can understand 1 night a week but 3 times! when i was pregnant me and hubby did everything together and he wouldnt go out without me! maybe you shoould tell him how you feel it might work out better for you
waitin4mymiricle - Tuesday, 9 Dec
Well me Im not maried but me n my m have been together for 3 yrs n it seems like forever.. Buways me n him used to go out alot n ever where.. Once I got pregnant hardly went out any where.. He has gone out on me a couple of times befor I got pegnant but that was it.. Once I got pregnant he wanteto go out all da time.. He was always drinkig n wanting to go out with out me uz I couldnt do any thing.. went though alot of stress with him cuz my home girls be calling me telling me they saw him at da club n all... But sucked alot cuz I couldnt go out. But now that my lil boy is here dats all I need right now...
daranbabymama - Tuesday, 9 Dec
i know exactly what you are going through because my fiance those the same... i tried talking to him but we are still young and this is our first baby, he use to take me out all the time but now he wants to go to the club and he doesn't want to take me because he say it's dangerous plus i am pregnant and he say i complain a lot. I cant drink so it makes no sense going, Dancing takes me a while and i don't want to get my self too tired. We still stay home some days and watch tv together or go out some where relaxing.
allih8 - Tuesday, 9 Dec
My husband has never even drank in his whole life! So no, we definitely don't have that problem, since I haven't either in over 4 years. We're nerds and stay at home and watch x-files dvds. (wow, that really sounds nerdy when I read it, haha)
I get worried for you tho, b/c it sounds like you have this problem a lot. I agree with the other girl that you should talk about it soon. Maybe he is trying to get it out of his system, but it's not your 1st baby so that's not a real good excuse. You're only 24, how old is he? Maybe he's feeling like he doesn't want to grow up? I wonder what the attraction is to that lifesyle now that he's a family man. I don't know. If you talk to him, do you think he'll be open to telling you why or will he just think you're nagging? I would try at least, but not when you're mad b/c then if you're like me you'll just cry and then he might not want to talk. I wish I could be more help, I feel really bad, b/c being pregnancy emotional is no fun normally, so add this on top. And you already have two kids! You're amazing!
~ I luv my boyz ~ - Tuesday, 9 Dec
Hi there,For starters Congrats on a third healthy pregnancy!!
When I was pregnant with my boys my hubby did the same thing he started partying more and more often,in the end he admitted that he felt as if he had to get it outta his system,I just explained to him that we were pregnant not just that I was pregnant and I needed him for support he got better towards the end and once baby came well lets just say im still kinda like go out! Leave me alone a bit lol!
Now im trying to convince him to go out more often with or without me.
Three times a week thats unfair he needs to spend more time pleasing you and comfortiing you in this delicate stage (married man at the bar while pregnant wife is at home with the kids alone not fair honey...)Just my opinion.....By thye way do you know what your having?I have two handsome boys as well and hope for a girl next time!
| 08-12-2008 - What do ur Husbands Do? |  My mood while writing this blog:Ok |
I was wondering if any of you girls experience the same things with your husbands/partners. Well me and my husband used to do EVERYTHING together!! We don't go out together anymore. Well lets put it this way I don't ever get out. My husband never used to go out without me unless it was a football night or something. Well lately he goes out 3 times a week on average! I have tried to talk to him about this. He explains that when I go w. him I just complain. Ahhh... yeah J bars aren't fun when your pregnant and everyone else is drunk!! It seems like he makes no efford to do anything fun 1 on 1 w. me. He has new "friends" at the bar too. I like them...it just feels weird because I feel so apart from my husband. Its like he is this big partier now. Don't get me wrong he is great in the day and around 9 he claims he is bored. The thing is I never get invited anymore and Its not like im sleeping. I have a hard time talking to my husband about stuff like this. He makes me sound crazy and blames everything on the pregnancy! I was wondering if you guys experience the same thing? I was thinking maybe he was nervous about the new baby... and that was his way of dealing with it. Also instead of saying something and causing a BIG blow out should I suck it up for 12 more weeks. However, 12 weeks of misery is a loooonnnnnnggggg time!m Thanks to anyone that gives me advise... you guys really do help me alot!!
6 Comments on What do ur Husbands Do?
KyMMie MuMMy - Thursday, 11 Dec
I completely sympathise with you. My first partner (and biological father to my eldest child, my daughter) used to go out drinking and get back in the early hours of the morning. He wouldnt take me with him and he would switch off his phone. He wouldnt spend time with me and our daughter on w/e and leave the entire responsibility of taking care of her on me.
Finally i grew up and took a stand. I left him when my daughter was just over one and i've never looked back.
Today i am married to a handsome, smart man who loves me and our daughter and more recently our son :) My husband [Never] goes anywhere without me and i [Never] go anywhere without him. We are bestfriends. We sit and talk and have beers on our veranda. I think an important part of a relationship is actually enjoying the person you are with..you should want to spend time with them.
In any case (i hope im not over-stepping boundaries here but...) you're partner is being very disrespectful.I'm not against men and women going out by themselves but it shouldnt be at the expense of their partners feelings. He should not isolate you like this, especially now.
I hope things are better and that your partner wises up and gives you the support you need and deserve.
I didnt mean to offend or be rude or nosy. If i came across this way please forgive me. I just hate to see women suffer in anyway especially since i know exactly what it feels like!
All the best :)
kathy=^.^= - Tuesday, 9 Dec
im sorry that ur hubby acts like that! i can understand 1 night a week but 3 times! when i was pregnant me and hubby did everything together and he wouldnt go out without me! maybe you shoould tell him how you feel it might work out better for you
waitin4mymiricle - Tuesday, 9 Dec
Well me Im not maried but me n my m have been together for 3 yrs n it seems like forever.. Buways me n him used to go out alot n ever where.. Once I got pregnant hardly went out any where.. He has gone out on me a couple of times befor I got pegnant but that was it.. Once I got pregnant he wanteto go out all da time.. He was always drinkig n wanting to go out with out me uz I couldnt do any thing.. went though alot of stress with him cuz my home girls be calling me telling me they saw him at da club n all... But sucked alot cuz I couldnt go out. But now that my lil boy is here dats all I need right now...
daranbabymama - Tuesday, 9 Dec
i know exactly what you are going through because my fiance those the same... i tried talking to him but we are still young and this is our first baby, he use to take me out all the time but now he wants to go to the club and he doesn't want to take me because he say it's dangerous plus i am pregnant and he say i complain a lot. I cant drink so it makes no sense going, Dancing takes me a while and i don't want to get my self too tired. We still stay home some days and watch tv together or go out some where relaxing.
allih8 - Tuesday, 9 Dec
My husband has never even drank in his whole life! So no, we definitely don't have that problem, since I haven't either in over 4 years. We're nerds and stay at home and watch x-files dvds. (wow, that really sounds nerdy when I read it, haha)
I get worried for you tho, b/c it sounds like you have this problem a lot. I agree with the other girl that you should talk about it soon. Maybe he is trying to get it out of his system, but it's not your 1st baby so that's not a real good excuse. You're only 24, how old is he? Maybe he's feeling like he doesn't want to grow up? I wonder what the attraction is to that lifesyle now that he's a family man. I don't know. If you talk to him, do you think he'll be open to telling you why or will he just think you're nagging? I would try at least, but not when you're mad b/c then if you're like me you'll just cry and then he might not want to talk. I wish I could be more help, I feel really bad, b/c being pregnancy emotional is no fun normally, so add this on top. And you already have two kids! You're amazing!
~ I luv my boyz ~ - Tuesday, 9 Dec
Hi there,For starters Congrats on a third healthy pregnancy!!
When I was pregnant with my boys my hubby did the same thing he started partying more and more often,in the end he admitted that he felt as if he had to get it outta his system,I just explained to him that we were pregnant not just that I was pregnant and I needed him for support he got better towards the end and once baby came well lets just say im still kinda like go out! Leave me alone a bit lol!
Now im trying to convince him to go out more often with or without me.
Three times a week thats unfair he needs to spend more time pleasing you and comfortiing you in this delicate stage (married man at the bar while pregnant wife is at home with the kids alone not fair honey...)Just my opinion.....By thye way do you know what your having?I have two handsome boys as well and hope for a girl next time!
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