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| 04-4-2011 - Head vs Heart |  My mood while writing this blog:tired of stressing |
I am blessed and fortunate to have 2 gorgeous, healthy children. DH and I have an outstanding relationship and our family unit is stronger than ever. We're at a point where our bills are paid and we're able to put a bit in savings, and I'm still able to stay home with the kids full time. So how could I possibly want anything else?
But I do. DH and I have decided we're finished having kids and our family is complete. Logically, I completely agree. But when I see my 2 year old, and how fast he's growing and how quickly he's becoming less of a baby... I get so depressed! I realize life changes, and I like that. But I love children, and I especially love babies! I miss being pregnant... I even miss those first 3 months when it seems like you haven't slept in 10 years! And I feel like... I have so much love for these 2, I want even more babies to share it with! Our family is so great- I want it to grow! I don't want to be "finished" having children! Then my logical side starts questioning if maybe I don't want to get older, and this is my outlet. But I don't think that's it- I think about being pregnant and having another one EVERY DAY. And it's getting worse! (I should probably stay off this site lol) DH really doesn't want any more- his logical side is always so much stronger than his heart side- mine just isn't. So will it get better? Am I just dealing with my internal ticking clock? How do you KNOW when your family is complete??? AAHHHH!!! THank goodness for blogs to vent on lol
3 Comments on Head vs Heart
canadababy - Monday, 4 Apr
We always said we'll have 2 and talk about a third, well now that we have two we're 99% sure we'll have another one next year :) Sounds to me like you REALLY want another and hopefully DH will come around! I think when you're done, you know you're done...just like we know we're 'probably' not done yet :) Good luck, I hope you get your third!!
angie2008 - Monday, 4 Apr
Hi there, our family is complete! We like you have two children. Ours are pretty young still 2 and 1. I am only 24 years old and do not think I will want more. I do share the feeling with you about the missing of being pregnant and having that little newborn to snuggle with and watch sleep but at the same time I don't want to go back to that stage. My fiance is much older than me so it doesn't make sense logically for us to continue to have children. We both want him to be around and be active and able to do things with our kids especially while they are young. I am content with this. My fiance did have a vascectomy after our 2nd child was born and I was torn about him getting it. I almost didn't want him too just incase we wanted a third. Both of our logical sides agreed to make this change because it's what is best for us. Have you talked to your dh about your feelings?? What does he say about your "heart"?? Your family may not be compete especially if you are feeling like it isn't. I feel like my family is complete, it just feels like this is how it is supposed to be for us. GOod luck with talking with him and your decision. HOpe I helped you at least a little. :) It is a hard decision
angie2008 - Monday, 4 Apr
Hi there, our family is complete! We like you have two children. Ours are pretty young still 2 and 1. I am only 24 years old and do not think I will want more. I do share the feeling with you about the missing of being pregnant and having that little newborn to snuggle with and watch sleep but at the same time I don't want to go back to that stage. My fiance is much older than me so it doesn't make sense logically for us to continue to have children. We both want him to be around and be active and able to do things with our kids especially while they are young. I am content with this. My fiance did have a vascectomy after our 2nd child was born and I was torn about him getting it. I almost didn't want him too just incase we wanted a third. Both of our logical sides agreed to make this change because it's what is best for us. Have you talked to your dh about your feelings?? What does he say about your "heart"?? Your family may not be compete especially if you are feeling like it isn't. I feel like my family is complete, it just feels like this is how it is supposed to be for us. GOod luck with talking with him and your decision. HOpe I helped you at least a little. :) It is a hard decision
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