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27-6-2009 - Irritations(so many!)

My mood while writing this blog: irritable, of course

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I am sick of people finding out I'm prego and saying "I thought you knew what causes this?"

I'm 33 years old, can I not make my own choices? Do you think if I had gotten an abortion you'd even know? NO! I made up my mind what I wanted, and that negates the fact of it being unplanned! So shut the F up! It makes me feel so small. And then angry!

Sure, I'm old enough, been through enough, and educated enough to prevent mistakes, but I didn't, so I'm dealing with it. In the way I CHOOSE. Therefore, making it my NEW plan. I wonder how many people who say that to me were planned from before conception?

I own my own home, two cars, and work full time as a nurse. I think I'm allowed to live my life how I please without having to deal with other's belittling my choices with jokes that are offensive.

Another person asks me "Do you really want it?" and I'm gonna scream! If I didn't would you EVEN know I was preggo? If I didn't would I be HAVING it? And it's so rude!

I'm not gonna start telling you how much I wish I could have an abortion in front of everyone and cry and say how stupid I am like some talk show! What are they thinking? I'm sick of these fools! Of course I want the baby! There's lots of things in life that we don't plan but want. How many people go 'just looking' at the mall and buy a top spur of the moment. Do you ask them if they really wanted it just because they didn't know they wanted it until they had it?

I've had a few of the good responses, the kind where people are just happy and ask questions about the baby. What names, do you want a girl or boy, those kinds. But not many until the jokes and questions are over first!

And I'm tired of the guys at work laughing at me like it's funny. Sure, I might deserve it, it is sort of funny, but I'm not in a funny mood. I'm taking it personal. I'm hormonal. And those kinds of things actually hurt. Like my life is a big joke. Did I laugh at them when they had their kids? Instead I congratulated them!

I know some of this is just being hormonal, but honestly, would any of these people welcome these questions themselves in the same position? Probably about as much as I have. And that's to be polite as I can, and let people know that I knew my choices and made mine, and now I'm living my choices, and making the best of it, as I have always done in my life. But inside I'm offended.

Ok, rant over...

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2 Comments on Irritations(so many!)


Naaster - Sunday, 28 Jun
Thanks! And your so right. I did want to wait, but Ron, baby daddy, was so excited he started telling people at 4 weeks! My friends have mostly only been finding out for the past two weeks because I was dreading this. I feel a lot better now that I've got it out, though! And I'll probably say something to the next person who gives me negativity! I'm not usually a quiet person, but when something is very sensitive to me, it's hard for me to say so.

mrsscorpio - Saturday, 27 Jun
Hi, I can definately relate to your post. I waited until I was about 12 weeks to tell my family and I told a few people at work when I was about 16 weeks but not everyone knows yet... and thats because I don't want to hear any negativity. But I dare anybody to say something out of line to me because people in glass houses can't through stones. So when they talk shit about my situation, I go for blood and I talk shit about thier decisions. People need to learn to keep their opinions to themselves. My pregnancy was also not planned but so what...what do people expect for you to do, have an abortion? I agree with you, who says everyone who has an unplanned pregnancy must have an abortion. People just need to mind thier own damn business. The proper response to a woman saying she is pregnant is "congratulations".