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25-9-2009 - Cant believe this is happening right now

My mood while writing this blog: sick to my stomach

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So basically I have been BAWLING for the last hour. My hubby got home from work today and told me something that I was halfway expecting but halfway hoping would not happen. He is going to be getting laid off from his job next week. Talk about BAD timing. We have known there was a chance because his company is doing massive layoffs and he is the newest supervisor in his position. It just makes me sooooo angry because he is SUCH a hard worker and I know how hard he has worked to get to where he is at. I know that has nothing to do with the whole process of deciding who gets laid off but it is just making me sick to my stomach. The thing is that he kind of thought this may happen so he has been applying for other jobs these past few weeks and he has a job offer (but making around $12,000/yr less) so he wanted to let me know. He didnt want to upset me (he knew for a few days) and I tried to play like I wasnt crushed but I am beyond upset.

This will really change our lives. Basically I have been out of work because of bedrest for a bit now so money is already tight. I get money from the government but its only 60% of what I make annually and it will basically be gone by the time the baby gets here. I was really hoping to work only part time after but I dont think this is going to happen now. I am grateful that he has this other job offer but there are other things that I worry about like our insurance that is through his work so we have to figure out all that stuff. Plus the job market is SO competitive right now. There are thousands of people laid off just in our community that are trying for these same jobs.

Ugh. Why is this happening when Im nine months pregnant and WHY does this economy suck so bad. It cant stay like this forever right? I feel so hopeless. Im even worried that this job he has an offer for will fall through and he will have nothing. Sorry for venting but this isnt something I can easily talk about to other people.

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17 Comments on Cant believe this is happening right now


byrdi - Saturday, 26 Sep
wow, that sucks that you are going through that....we had a similar scare a few weeks ago, as the prov govt has pulled critical funding from the school districts and my fiance works for one...he was fairly sure he'd be ok but you never know. turns out he was but there were some with less seniority that lost their positions.....i hope everything works out for the best for you :)

aileenc0 - Saturday, 26 Sep
I know it seems like such a blow just now especially at what shuld be a happy and exciting time for you I always say nothing good lasts forever but neither does anything bad. I hope this works out for the best for you guys and that all sorts out soon. take care of each other for now.

BBsMommy - Saturday, 26 Sep
Hunny, I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. I know the heartache it must be causing. Less than a month ago, my husband also lost his job. The harder part for me was that it wasn't a lay off.. that would have been easier.. he got fired.. from a church! he was the youth pastor there and the church decided that they wanted someone a little more tradtional and that he was too unconventional.. talk about timing.. they could have waited a few more months till we got settled and on our feet.. So like I say, I can feel your pain. I am so sorry that you are going through this now. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and I hope something works out sooner rather than later for you!

excitedmisty (misty) - Friday, 25 Sep
that's awful :0( i'm so sorry he lost his job...but at least here is always unemployment, and even though it doesn't give a lot...it means he can spend some time with you and the baby until he finds a job he wants...maybe it's a blessing in disguise...hang in there!!!!

high-lee (Lisa) - Friday, 25 Sep
That really sucks, im sorry. We are almost dealing with the same thing my fiance is very close to losing his job, I have no idea what we would do since I won't be going back to work till January. good luck though try not to stress yourself out .

DOLLface- 1st Time Mama - Friday, 25 Sep
omgosh.. hah sorry it was sooo long!! felt so good tho to vent. I usually keep things to myself! ahhhh! xoxooo

DOLLface- 1st Time Mama - Friday, 25 Sep
Pallen.. I totally feel for u and know exactly what ur going through right now. My hubby was laid off for 8 months, went to school to upgrade his tickets for 3 of those months, and was able to collect EI which was better than nothing and I was working at the time so it wasnt a huge deal. Still, if he had been working we could have saved soo much money but instead we havent saved much and our money is soo tight too. in those 8 months he applied everywhere, hes a welder and the welding sucks right now(thanx to the economy) so he started looking else where but he and I really felt like crap about him working at a job such as a grocery store, stocking shelves or whatever making less than what he could on EI to sit at home. We decided that he would wait and keep applying at welding shops while waiting for his old job to call him back. Everything was ok, like I said couldnt save much. But when I went on medical leave Aug 22 we knew that I wouldnt get a govrnment check for a month so he went and looked else where. It turns out that week when he gets his EI check, its his last one.. Soo we paniced, omg! I was devastated. That ment no money for a month. not evenn possible for us to live off off! Luckily, He came across this job that was production work so he didnt mind so much, however at that point he didnt have a choice. So, Aug 30 he started back to work, working for possibly 12-15 dollars an hr, which is soo much less than he makes as a welder but more than what made on EI and he got hired that day, started the following mon as it was a friday. Well, his old welding job calls him on the Tues asking him if he'd be wanting to come back there and of course he did, makes more money,plus benefits, not to mention its his career. But his boss tells it may not be until the following wk or possibly 2 wks, so hubby says he landed a job and that will hold him over. Hubby decides to tell his boss at the new production place that his welding job called him back and they will be ready for him to work within 2 wks, I guess his boss was pretty mad. The thing was, was that when he did reference checks he spoke to hubbys old welding boss and he told this guy that derek(hubby) was on a short list and may be called back, they just didnt know when. So on Friday, after their done work, derek gets told not to bother coming in on Mon and he can pick up a wk check on Monday tho. How rude was that?! derek could have not said anything and just not shown up when he started back at the old job and gotten 2-3 wk pay check, but he is too sweet and respectable of a guy! Just as we thought thigs were looking up, we were back in panic mood. Not something1st time parents nor a 8 month preg woman needs! Hubby ened up getting called back to the welding job a wk later, so thankfully he was off for a wk. But he just started last Monday and doesnt recieve a paycheck until Oct 1 and I got my government EI Check but it was for one wk only and I also only get 60% of what i made which is a huge difference. By the time we payed our bill and did some grocerys, were back to broke for almost 3 wks. UGHHH! After being broke from the end of Aug, it totally sucks. So I do know what ur going through! BUT... to top this off, Hubby tells me the other day that there may obly be another months worth of work left and there will be lay offs AGAIN! Which absolutely can not happen to us. WE WILL be SCREWED!!! He wont be able to collect EI again and jobs are soo tough to land right now. I dont make enough on EI for all our bills. Ooooh what a headache! SUCH BAD TIMING! Im soo stressed out about but Im trying to stay calm and positive. That what he wants me to do, and he keeps reminding me that it may pick up. Keep ur fingers crossed for me that it doesnt happen. And Im hoping and keeping mine crossed for best of luck with u's!! Also, i really dont want to go back to work too early and he doesnt want me to either. I was looking forward to a yr off with our little girl! You see my friend, I totally relate to what youre saying and feel for you! Best of luck darling and you/we'll get through this!! HUG HUGG!!!

Peachy09 (Ashlyn) - Friday, 25 Sep
I'm so sorry hun! You're right - it's horrible timing too! Not that it's easy, but try to look for the silver lining...as corny as it sounds I too believe things happen for a reason & although it seems bad right now, it's often something that will turn into something SOOOO much better down the road.

expecting-2b-patient (Cheryl) - Friday, 25 Sep
Oh, my lovely Pamela! I am so sorry to hear this news of your husband! How awful and yes what timing! If your husband does get this new job offer at least it is something and he can continue to look until something better comes along. You've had your tears, now you have to try and collect yourself or you'll be having that baby girl tonight, lol- just playing with you hun! Oh, I wish there was something I could say, but I know there is nothing I can say to change things or make them better. Just know that I'm think of you and your little family right now! If you need anything PLEASE let me know! I know you and your husband are close and will make it through this hiccup in lifes journey! ((HUG)) OXXO

kickboxerbaby - Friday, 25 Sep
Oh honey, I know this is really hard for you. First I must try to remind you that you have to stay calm. You have had a rough time of things and don't want to aggrivate it. Second I would ask if as part of the layoff the company will be giving a layoff package like 3 months of benefits or see if your hubby can some how talk with management to secure your insurance through the birth of your little one. I know it's been hard on you not working but you have to stay strong. Maybe you can work part time when hubby is home or weekends to cover additional hours needed. You will figure this out. You have been so strong through all of this. I know how disheartening this all is but have faith in both yourself and your husband. You will get through this together. I believe in you.

chevychic96 - Friday, 25 Sep
Sorry to hear this, my husband got laid off August 28th and I feel your pain. I still have my job, but everything is just so stressful.....I cried a lot too. I just prayed and tried to support my husband as much as possible.....I just keep telling myself that everything happens for a reason! I wish you luck and try not to stress too much!

twinsandmore77 - Friday, 25 Sep
I am sorry, we have been lucky and Billy has not been laid off but they have stopped giving raises and things are very tight. We have had to go on WIC to help with the food bill but so far have stayed off food stamps but with as tight as things are I wouldn't be surprised if we eventually have to go that route for a bit. We were both raised that taking any kind of help from the govt is the worst possible thing you can do but we have come to terms with it. We don't abuse the programs just use them to stay afloat. We don't go out and buy anything frivolous but let's face it times are hard and we have to find a way to survive. Hang in there, luckily little babies don't need a lot of things. Love is the most important thing and by the time you need money for activities and things I bet you guys will be in a whole different situation! Keep your chin up and realize there are a lot of people in the same situation as you and you two are strong enough to make it through.

Tandbabythree - Friday, 25 Sep
Oh PAllen I am so so sorry... I know all about living paycheck to paycheck.... I dont even know yet if I have qualified for Maternity beniefits... Try to stay strong and remember everything happens for a reason.. Maybe this is the start of something great to come...try to stay positive and dont let this get you too down just think you are going to have a beautiful baby soon try to focus on that and not the $$ issues I know its not easy but believe me once a daddy holds his little one he will go to the ends of the earth to just to provide for that child!!! Head up young person!!

KaylasBabyBoy - Friday, 25 Sep
I am so sorry hun, i really feel your pain. I feel like we are having to go through a lot of the same crap lately, unfortunately :( . My husband Got laid off on Feb 6, the day after we found out we were expecting. he is an electrician and construction jobs are so scarce right now. he had no job at all for 3 months, and then in may found a job making less. we looked at it as a blessing because at least he had SOMETHING..but we had tried to plan the pregnancy around him getting his journeyman's card (big raise) so i could just work part time too. it set him back 3 months for that, and then with this new job he is down to working 3 days a week. we are struggling pretty bad too, and the worst part is they told him he will not get a raise when he becomes a journeyman next month because of the lack of work. I don't know if you pray but that is something that really helped me and the only thing keeping me sane really knowing that i won't even have a stress free maternity leave..if you need someone to talk to i am here for you..it is a horrible and stressful situation, but just remember even things like this can be blessings in disguise. maybe at the new company he will end up moving up fast, or have more room for growth even :) . try not to stress yourself and that precious baby girl (who is coming at exactly the right time, regardless of situations) out too much and trust that your husband will find any way he can to support his family

stelabela0507 - Friday, 25 Sep
Sorry to hear that!!! But you guys will be fine. Be strong and have faith!!! I'll be praying for you guys!! Things have a way of working out... and remember everything happens for a reason.

mistyfire77 - Friday, 25 Sep
That is sooo sad, I'm sorry Pallen. I can't even imagine what you are going through right now.

shelby85 - Friday, 25 Sep
awe i'm sorry hun.