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15-8-2008 - FRIENDS/SISTERS

My mood while writing this blog: Ok

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Im sorry ladies but I just want to know if Im being petty by feeling this way or am I just emotional right now. Ok so I was on my way to work this AM and it dawned on me that Im 7months pregnant and I have only gotten a visit from my friends/sisters twice and that was because I had a cookout or something going on at my house. I just dont understand what the problem is, granted yes I was int he hospital once or twice due to Hyperemesis and I could barely talk I really felt like I was fading away but I didnt get any visits from them there either. They only talk to me on the phone or unless I ride my fat ass across town to see them well see one of them. The other one is always busy doing something she is always out and about and thats fine she does have a life but when my girls were pregnant I was always with them getting them out the house or driving them some where that they needed to go. Now that Im pregnant I only see one of them and thats only once in a blue moon she doesnt have a car but she finds ways to get around but never find a way to my house. She did take me out for my birthday I drove us out to a restaurant and I did appreciate it but the other girl she has a car and never once came by my house just to a cookout. Dont get it twisted I dont feel left out or anything like that I just feel like damn am I not even worth a quick stop to say hey whats up not over no damn text and not over no email or hey do you want to come with me here or there. I think I try to hard to be a comforter and dont really get it back in return. I mean I stuck by them thru alot atleast I tried too. Being pregnant and with my man all the time is cool too Im glad that he does try to get me out the house but I still would like to get away from him and just hang with my girls yeah I cant hit up the club, drink, and all that but shit there was a point where they couldnt either but I still made time for them ok enough cause now im getting pissed. Well sorry for boring some of you but this really did bother me.

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3 Comments on FRIENDS/SISTERS


mom4 - Monday, 18 Aug
I have realized that sometimes your friends/sister whoever are not going give back what you have given to them. It will always be like that. Some people just don't think like that...you just have a gift of exhorting. So just keep doing what you doing what do God will bless you for that!

fparalegal - Monday, 18 Aug
This the lesson my husband always tells me. Friends and people are not going to treat you the way you treat them. It is sad but true. So, you are just going to have to man up and deal with your friends for who they are. Of course, sisters are different tell them. That is what they are there for, they are not going anywhere. Thank God for them. My sisters make me mad all the time, we talk about it and argue all the time, but they are still my sisters. In the end, none of them probably know how you are feeling and will probably try to change once you confront them. But, if you are the planner in the situation, that is why you have not saw them. Because you have not planned anything. I'm always the planner with my friends and family. This has been a lonely pregnancy and I'm glad. I haven't wanted to clean and cook after people. It requires too much work, especially being pregnant. So, I see them at church or if someone is having a birthday, or holiday. That is fine. Once, I'm my old self, they can come over. But, I'm too emotional to even want to be brothered with them right now or their kids. lol

Cher1108 - Friday, 15 Aug
I don't think that you're wrong. For some reason we can gain or lose friends when we become pregnant. I kind of lost a friend. When I told her I was pregnant (before I told my family) she made a comment like all of her other friends were pregnant, I was her only friend without children, and now I'm not going to be able to do things because I'll be so tired. Then she said, "I wouldn't want to be pregnant at the same time as everybody else." I was like how could you say that? I never mentioned it to her. Well, about 3 months later, SHE GOT PREGNANT. At first I was like karma is a bitch. But then I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Luckly for me when I told my fiance I was pregnant, we expected it to happen. We weren't preventing it so he was like, "Yeah babe, that sounds about right." (lol) At first I a mess because I had to adjust to sharing my body with another human. But my pregnancy hasn't been as hard as hers. When she told her boyfriend of 7 years, he acted like he wanted to leave her, just before she found out she told me he was giving his number out to "new friends", she's had to move in with her mom because she had hyperemesis and has been very sick and isn't working. So I don't wish that on anyone.