05-1-2009 - Her Reply to previous blog

My mood while writing this blog: I can\'t even describe my mood right now!

Ok..I can't resist posting her reply then my reply back to her again...this time I probably wasn't so nice...might actually come off as rude this time....hers in Pink...mind in burgandy (couldn't see burgandy fixed it now in a better color). See Below:

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From: C--
Date: Jan 5, 2009 7:42 PM

Well, we were planning on renting your mom's house since you were supposed to be moving out with your tax money. Not real sure what we will be doing now. Since I have to be out of here by the end of the month, I guess we are really pressed for time in finding somewhere. I do wish I had known this earlier, then I would have postponed giving notice here. Boy....what a wrinkle in our plans. But, if that is the way it has to be since you are going to have to pay your trustee with your tax money, then that is the way it will have to be. This will be our first test as a couple with problem solving. God works in mysterious ways....

I am really sorry if my smoking was bothering you so much. I was not aware that it was THAT bad. I will definetely take your allergies into account when I am there and by all means will smoke outside. It will be awful that I will have to do that, but the safety of little Benjaman is important and I would feel just awful if you were to be sick with allergies when you went into labor. It is tough enough when you are not feeling a bit under the weather. I could not imagine feeling ill and being in labor.

I had absolutely no qualms whatsoever about breastfeeding.....God gave me these things to nourish my child with, and I was gonna do it. Heck, I practically lived naked from the waist up for the first 6 weeks. Then again, I was not quite as endowed as you....LOL. I can understand your qualms about Clif being there. It could be a bit strange having your brother watch your baby get nourishment from what God deemed the best process available. I never had a brother, so flashing around the house was never an issue. I guess we better get busy on finding a place before Benjamin gets here so that Clif does not have to go to his room every two hours or so.

I personally did not fall for all of the jibberish about not taking Caleb out until he was a month old. His pediatrician had his first appointment scheduled for when he was a week old. We went to her office and everything. I think that we even went to Burlington Coat Factory after. When I asked her about that, she said that unless Caleb was already compromised, such as being a preemie; 4 weeks or more premature, or having been ill before leaving the hospital, that taking him places would actually benefit him. She also was not a big proponent of antibacterial everything. She thought that babifes and people in general needed to be exposed to bacteria so that they could build up antibodies to fight them. I was reading today that antibacterial everything is being found to be more harmful than helpful. Looks like she was pretty much on the mark with that one.

Well, let me know if you still want me to be in the room with you when Benjaman is born. I am looking forward to hopefully being there and participating in the birth of the newest addition to our family.

C--

Well originally I said I would try to move out with income tax and if someone had told me sooner that ya'll were planning on renting this house then I could have said much sooner that I didn't have the means to go anywhere else. Don't think anyone knew you were planning on quitting your job or giving up your apartment this soon either. This has all happened so fast and not sure how anyone expected me to be moving out that soon after the baby was born anyway. I will be taking care of him and me not trying to move. When the offer was given to Wayne and I to rent this house I told mom it wasn't a good time and thought about Clif and asked her where he would go...at that time he had a place he planned on going and we could have waited until mom got the apartment she has talked about getting before he moved in, so I kinda wish ya'll had taken me into consideration the same way I did Clif when mom offered it to me. Plus I didn't want to feel like I was kicking my mom out of her own house even though she offered. Kinda felt like I was being kicked out of this house by my brother and girlfriend without even being told it was happening. I kinda caught on when you said something about where would your computer go and I kinda laughed it off thinking there is no more room for anything here but I didn't think much about it at the time until later when you said something about giving up your apartment..that is when I was like whoa what's happening here. I don't get my tax returns til March anyway so that is still way after your apartment would have been gone...then I would have had to try to find a place and that would have taken time too. I guess I plan ahead...I don't leave jobs or plan to move until I have somewhere to go. Maybe that is why I spent the majority of my life right here in this house but I always had another job to go to if I left one, except for the two times I had to move with Donnie but that was already established marriage and he already had the place for us to live when I quit. My brother doesn't have to go to his room every two hours when I feed Benjaman...I said it's a good thing he stays in his room...he is never in here except for dinner anyway so him being here isn't that big of a deal he never comes out of his room but if he does happen to come out when I'm feeding that will be weird and I will try to cover. But he lives in his room and he's not in the living room ever except when walking through.

Just let me add to this that when she is here, her and her son stay in the living room with me...she ain't here to see me and I don't care to see them and he still stays locked up in his room most of the time when she is here...so why be in the living room with that lil boy annoying the hell out of me??

I still can't believe how inconsiderate of me they were being...they just assumed I was still moving out when that was only said once back in like October and my mom and brother both know my financial bind at the moment and they both know I can't afford to go anywhere else. OMG I could go on and on about this whole situation this has pissed me off soooo much...and I know part of it is selfishness on my part but how in hell could they expect me to move out right after giving birth.