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15-1-2009 - Old Profile, Florida. Busy.My mood while writing this blog:
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Moving To Florida.
If I can get any opinions on this it is highly appreciated. My husband and I live near Chicago. I have lived here my ENTIRE LIFE. I am near my family, and I am very, VERY close to my mother and sisters. My husband and I just bought this house in May 2007. I love this house, I love this town, and I love being close to my family. I always imagined living here for the rest of my life. However, it seems as if everything is about to change...
I knew, when I married Brandon, that he was going to one day take over his father's company. I married him knowing this and knowing that it would take time and sacrifice for him to learn the trade before he could take over the company himself. In the last few months, Brandon's dad (Larry, for future reference) has been talking to him about learning everything. Brandon is currently running a towing company. He is very good at what he does, but doesn't want to make a living out of it any more. Its terrible hours and, in the terrible winters that Chicago sees, its INSANELY UNSAFE! Now, Larry had initially said that Brandon would be able to do everything from here... as far as learning to take over the company. But now, we have been informed that we would have to move to where Brandon's parents live... in Florida. And this is where this decision should be EASY... but its actually terrible heartbreaking.
If we move to Florida, we would be able to save money for things like Anna's college fund and MY school fund much easier because we would be able to cut back on what we spend. We would have company cars with company fuel cards (so no car payments and no paying for gas) and company cell phones (no cell phone bills) and the company insurance, which is a million times better than our insurance plan now. Brandon's mother knows that the school system in their area isn't the best, so she has offered to help put Anna through private schooling. I mean, can I really pass up an opportunity for Anna to go to one of the BEST ranked schools in the COUNTRY!? And then I could actually go back to school, because Brandon wouldn't be working such terrible hours and would be on a set schedule. So I would be able to take night and weekend classes and get my degree! And then, of course, there is the matter of my husband's happiness. My heart breaks when he has to get up at 3am and then doesn't get home until midnight. And I hate getting calls from him saying that he won't be home for 2 days because he has to go to Texas or Ohio. I just think of him sleeping in the truck and being tired and bored. And then there are the terrible snow storms where I just imagine him being on the side of the road, freezing his behind off, and some car losing control and smashing into him. I've heard too many stories of men getting hurt and killed on the side of the road. I can't deal with those thoughts. In Florida, Brandon would get EVERY WEEKEND off work... like any other regular job. He would be home EVERY NIGHT for dinner. Soo....
Why is this such a hard decision for me to make? A new house... bigger, newer, and just all around BETTER than the one we are in now. A better education for my daughter, an education for me, a better life for my husband... and, of course, much better weather.
I just feel so selfish that I can't decide what to do. Because thats really what this is... me being selfish. I don't adjust to change well. I've never had to leave except when I lived in Iowa for college and for a few years after I dropped out. Even then, I was a 2 hour car ride away. I don't want to be far from my mom and my sisters. They are my support system. My mom also has cancer and I just couldn't imagine what I would do if anything happened while I was far away. Of course, my family thinks moving down there is a bad idea... but I know that this is something that I have to decide. Brandon won't do anything that makes me unhappy. And if I don't want to go, we won't. Even if it means he has to keep this terrible job he has now.
The economy is really bad right now, and Brandon's boss (who is the owner of the company) keeps talking about the business going "belly up" in the next two years if something doesn't change. However, if he takes Larry's offer, Brandon will ALWAYS have a job with a steady income... a VERY GOOD income, if I may add. We would never have to worry about finances ever again.
So why am I being so selfish about this? Any words of advice, encouragement, or just honest opinions is soooo appreciated. I know the decision I should be making... so how can I make it easier?
Thank in advance for anything that anyone has to say. :)


Happy St. Patrick's Day

THANK YOU to everyone to helped me by sharing your advice and opinions. I think I really needed the support and honesty from everyone to really get my behind into gear about moving. Yall are the BEST!!!!!!!!!



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