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11-7-2009 - support???

My mood while writing this blog: Ok

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I guess it's my turn to rant and rave about my man. He really is amazing in many ways and I understandthat he is allowed to be scared about the baby coming as much as the next person. But lately he has been acting like he really doesn't want a kid anymore. We came up to the Cape to see my parents ( we have a summer home here) and my cousin came up with her husband andtheir two kids, a 6 year old and a two year old boy. Granted I felt tired just watching the two year old run around but i still look forward to that point. He on the other hand at dinner the other day was like "i don't think I have the patients to be a father" I was like your telling me this now? And today my two friends threw us a really sweet small shower here for my friends and driving home he was like " I know i'll be glad that i have kid but it just all seems really daunting, the idea that i'm gonna have to change diapers for the next three years is just sad" I was like yeah but you get use to it. he said " well peole go to jail for three years you never don't mind being in jail". He just keeps saying how the baby shower is making it seem so real and daunting he aso brought up that most people go to the office for ten hours a day but since he works at home we have to figure out a way he can work without having to be bothered by the baby. I was like, thats fine I can watch him all day but thenyou gotta be willing to take the night shift. Whichis already has said to me that he doesn't wantto have to do any of the night shifts. he can't just leave me with the baby all day and all night!!!! I just don't feel he has any excitement for this at all. And it sorta hurts, acuse although i'm scared i'm really excited too. It is life changing and if he was not ready for this type of vhange he should not have proposed and he should not have stayed with me because then at least I would have expected him to be there for half the duties. None of his friends have kids.( one sorta friend does and he loves is daughter so much). I can't picture his friends eve holding a baby. They are still getting hang overs and staying out all night. Or theyare just not even close to a serious relationship. I know I have to let him feel scared and nervous but getting this close I really need support in that we are in this together. I'm hoping he falls in love with the baby as much as he loves his dog. He rather be with the dog than anyone. I don't ven ask which he wuld choose me or the dog because i know he would choose the dog. sad, but true. He is so sweet and caring in so many ways, but will he come around? Or will he be aflaky dad? Or worse just leave me all day and night with the kid? I can only do so much. I want this baby to come into this world feeling loved and welcomed but he won't even talk to my belly or tell the baby he loves it cause he says it's not a person until it's like 3. I dunno- what do you ladies think? I'm an over reacting? is he just nervous? * sigh*

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1 Comments on support???


baby bake oven - Sunday, 12 Jul
I had all these same worries not that long ago.... He is coming around lately, but I'm just starting to worry less about him being there. So maybe your fiance just needs a little more time to adjust... maybe he won't really adjust until the baby is here. But I do think he'll come around... Add I really hope he does soon!

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