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12-11-2009 - confirmed miscarriage

My mood while writing this blog: sad

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So I had an ultrasound done this morning around 9am and a miscarriage was confirmed. I'm suppose to be 9wks+5days today and baby hadn't grown past 6wks and no heartbeat. I'm very sure of my dates and the dr solidified my intuition of miscarriage. They gave me the option to pass naturally, take meds to help get things started, or have a D&C. I decided to take the meds. I inserted the pills into my vagina around 10:30am and was told cramps and bleeding should begin around 4 hours after taking them. It's been nearly 3 and I have some minor, dull cramps and a little spotting but I know the worse has yet to come.

I apprieciate everyone's prayers and comments about my situation. It's sad and disappointing but there's honestly nothing that can be done and I just have to accept that and move on. DH and I will try again as soon as I've had a few normal periods. I wasn't sure if I'd want to try again right away but he does and I think it's the best decision for us. He'll be deploying to afghanistan next august unless he gets a 1 year assignment to Korea instead (which we're crossing our fingers for) and hopefully we won't have any trouble getting pregnant again. Concieving tends to come easy for us but keeping the baby alive is what's hard. This will be my 2nd miscarriage. First miscarriage was 3.5 years ago at 11 weeks, then I had my beautiful baby boy (now 13 months old), and now another miscarriage. God gives us what we can handle when the time is right. I have faith that it was meant to be and a blessing in disguise.

To all my pregnant and mama friends, I wish you the best and healthy pregnancies. Please don't feel like you can't share good news around me... I love hearing your updates and seeing your excitement. I'm happy for all of you and I will be joining you again in the future. My sister is currently pregnant.. though we're not sure how far along she is but I'm sad we will no longer be pregnant together or at least only weeks away from each other. I'll be advising and helping anyway I can every step of the way (this is her first) and I have a beautiful, and active 13 month old to keep me busy so I feel blessed in more than 1 way.

My sister, Jessica (left) and myself (right)

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25 Comments on confirmed miscarriage


nerdyangel84 - Tuesday, 17 Nov
wow....I am so sorry! My computer's been on the fritz and I just read that. I am so sorry that this happened and wish you all the best next time! You are in my prayers.

MommyOf2 [KadenAndCohen] - Sunday, 15 Nov
I cannot begin to describe how much my heart aches for you. We never talk on here but having suffered from a missed miscarriage myself, I know how devastating it is. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Good for you for staying somewhat positive and believing that this was all God's plan. When the time is right, it will happen. Good luck in whatever you decide to do (TTC right away or waiting). Take care.

STCT - Saturday, 14 Nov
Sorry I just logged on and seen your blog. I'll be thinking you of and the family. I'm sorry this is the second time you had to go through that. I'll be here for you. You and your sister are so pretty.

heidismummy - Friday, 13 Nov
ive been through two miscarriages and i know how you feel. i too have a little toddler so i focus all my attention on her and when im having a down day i just think how lukcy i am to be blessed with her (as sadly some women never get the chance to have their own baby). i would definately say wait a few periods before trying again as my two periods following my miscarriage have been very heavy and they say its your body having to clearout properly before building up for another baby! i really hope everything goes well for you next time you get a positive test, its just sad that they give you no reason for why things like this happen! best of luck hun and im sorry to hear your sad news xx

ElliottnDeclans-mummy - Friday, 13 Nov
Hun, Im so sorry, I was thinking of you all day yesterday and we all were on the pages.It's nice to hear that you will try again and are still feeling a little positive. Like you say it will happen when it's meant to. You know where we are all if you need us. ((hugs)) xx

cookiejar - Thursday, 12 Nov
I'm sorry for your loss .Hugs!You sound like a very strong woman!!

*lovelymomma* - Thursday, 12 Nov
You and your family are inmy prayers! I wish you all the best with ttc in the future:) Your a wonderful person and awsome mommy with a gorgeous little boy! I almost cryed just seeing Garretts cute lil face when I came to your page! I'm sure god will bless you with another wonderful lil blessing. Keep on with your positive outlook thats what makes life wonderful!:) (((( Lots of huggs))) for you hubby and Garrett!

lovingLayla - Thursday, 12 Nov
im sorry for your loss, i know your little is watching over us, i will keep you in my prayers

juliegirly26 - Thursday, 12 Nov
so sorry for your loss:( i am so glad to read that you are a strong woman who is able to handle the good with the bad in life. you will have more babies~ keep your chin up!!

daisymae - Thursday, 12 Nov
Christa- I am praying and thinking of you, your husband, and Garrett. Miscarriages are hard physically and emotionally. I suffered one a few months before I became pregnant with Brayden. Your next successful pregnancy could be just around the corner! You know we are all here if and when you need us!

brendalee - Thursday, 12 Nov
I'm so sorry :(

mommy-to-Noah-and-Runa - Thursday, 12 Nov
sorry for your family's loss

angie2008 - Thursday, 12 Nov
I am truly sorry for your loss, i am in tears reading this. You are a strong brave woman and you and dh will come out stronger than ever before.

JordanAndKarasMummy - Thursday, 12 Nov
So sorry for your loss christa, my thoughts are with you & your DH (((HUGS))) I hope your recovery is short and you & DH can start TTC again. Love & hugs to you all xxxx

corrinaa - Thursday, 12 Nov
im so sorry to hear of your loss, i hope you and hubby are ok, i dont get on much but feel i should say im thinking of you all at this sad time. x x

acruz2343 - Thursday, 12 Nov
im so sorry for your loss..my thoughts are with you and your family...

♥Lucky♥ - Thursday, 12 Nov
im so sorry you and your husband are having to go through this. You are so strong and it sounds like you are a very positive person so i know you'll get through this but i know it must hurt right now. im sending lots of love and hugs right your way Take care sweetie

ChloeandTwinsmom - Thursday, 12 Nov
sorry to hear your sad newshope your ok wish u lots of luck for trying again xxxx

amandad74 - Thursday, 12 Nov
Oh armymom, I truly am so sorry for your loss. I actually feel like crying because I have been in your exact situation twice before (carried to 9wks and baby died at 6wks both times). Like you, I believe that everying happens for a reason and this baby had to make way for another precious one that you are meant to have. I am always here if you need to talk ((Big hugs)) xx

rice-and-squeaks-mama - Thursday, 12 Nov
Oh Christa, I am so sad for you and want you to know that we share in your loss, and cry alongside you at this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers and heart will be with you during the next hours as nature and the pills take there course, and in the coming months as you grieve for your loss. I believe that one day we will meet our 'angel' babies in heaven, and though it doesnt make the loss any easier, it gives us something to look forward to. I will be hoping and praying for your DH to get the posting you guys want (im guessing that means you get to stay together?). You are so brave and strong, and im full of admiration for both you and your hubby. We'll probably be TTC around the same time (Jan onwards for me) and I will start praying now for both of us to have happy, healty pregnancys. Sorry this post is so long, much love x

sammy28 - Thursday, 12 Nov
Christa....You are one BRAVE & STRONG woman and I GREATLY admire you! I am so sorry for your loss. Words can not describe how bad my heart hurts for your right now. I am here for you and you will continue to be in my thoughts. You are so blessed with your beautiful Garrett and I am sure he will help ease the pain...xoxoxo

alijo - Thursday, 12 Nov
army, I've been thinking of you since last night. I am so so so sorry for your loss. I am sending you all my best wishes and love to you during this time. (((hugs)))

nycmommy - Thursday, 12 Nov
Christa I am so sorry this has happened... Know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers... Know that I am here for you... Sending you a giant hug from me and my kids... Stay strong...know that even after the worst thunderstorm we are given a beautiful rainbow... Take care of yourself...

Lisa-and-Jason - Thursday, 12 Nov
So very sorry to hear..... Keep your chin up and God willing, you'll still have a baby in 2010!!

faith-star-x - Thursday, 12 Nov
oh christa i am sorry this has happened, i send (((hugs))) to you and dh and hope you recover quickly..in the times you feel down look to your gorgeous lil boy garrett as he is a star..and us!! we are all here for you xxx