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8 Comments on Decisions.
aubbalways - Monday, 18 Oct
3rdtry- I'm so so so worried i'll become like your sister in law. :( I really don't want to regret giving him up later because i know i'll be depressed anyways, but always regretting it...that would do it for me. I don't know what would happen with my life if i always missed him && didn't feel like what we decided was right. I wish sometimes someone or something could just say "You're doing this && this is what's right.", it would be so much easier that way...though i know that could never happen.
3rdtry - Saturday, 16 Oct
I just want to say like everyone else you are a very strong person. My sister in law gave up her baby when she was 17 and regrets it all the time even though it is an open adoption and she knows it would have been so hard to raise him. You need to do what is right for you and no one can make that decision for you. Just know that what ever you choose it is permanent so think hard and long about it. You seem to have a great support system which is wonderful and I am very happy you have that. I wish you all of the happiness in the world and hope whatever you decide you are happy with your decision. Take care of yourself. Also one of my friends got pregnant at your age and she is 18 now, just graduated this past year and is working at a school she kept her boy and is a single mom.
aubbalways - Monday, 4 Oct
eliciamadora- I wish i had read this earlier because i feel terrible not replying quicker. This message has absolutely made me think about keeping him. I know we can do it, i know we can, but the only thing that kept me wanting adoption was thinking about just how difficult it would be for Quan && I. Would we really be able to go through school && raise a baby? Would we be able to work, go to school, && have enough money to pay for everything including preschool && babysitters? Not including diapers && clothes, etc etc. Sure we'd have help...but would it really be enough? I'm just so worried. :(
eliciamadora - Friday, 1 Oct
Giving up your baby would be such an incredibly selfless thing to do and extremely difficult no doubt, you already know this.But no one would blame you for keeping such a blessing. Don't say you would be depriving your sweet baby of anything, because he would have you. Perhaps he woudn't have as many toys as the other children but does that really matter in the long run? Toys? and 400 outfits? It's the love you give your baby boy that will matter the most.I am tearing up just imagining how you feel thinking these thoughts that you won't give him what he needs. Because it's you he needs. Your love and your arms to hold him when he crys, to be there when he needs you. Seeing the way you talk about him, I know with full certainty that you can give him everything that baby needs.If you're worried about food and clothing or toys, there are SO many programs that (my husband and I even are inrolled in) give our babies some of the things we can't afford.But what your baby really needs is you.Good luck with your decision. I'm here if you ever want to talk.-------Also, about living your life with a baby. It's still very possible and, you saying you're already falling in love with the baby. Imagine seeing him smiling up at you. Holding your finger with his tiny hand. Imagine how much more you'll love him then? It most certainly WILL impact your life. But in a good way. If you do decide to adopt out, there's always more time for another later on if you think you aren't ready.
aubbalways - Friday, 1 Oct
lilysmomma- Thank you for understanding. How old were you when you became pregnant? && yes, i know we can allow him to become everything to us...but there's still so much we'd have to accomplish before i would really feel like we would be good parents. I still have this && next year of High School...that's not even including college. :( Quan works, but i haven't begun yet && he just started driving. Trust me, we really do want him, but we're still not sure how well this will work out if we do decide to raise him ourselves.
aubbalways - Friday, 1 Oct
J.Nelly- We're still not sure. That's what this post was about. We didn't have unprotected sex, we were quite aware of the consequences so we used condoms so i didn't get pregnant...this was not something we planned. Even though we took precautions to not get pregnant, the condom broke && i did. I'm a strong believer in Pro-life so abortion was never an option, but we weren't sure if we were going to keep him, for both of the reasons i listed. It wasn't our fault for getting pregnant, && though i think you're entitled to your own opinion, i just wanted to answer your question about "knowing the consequences".
j.Nelly - Friday, 1 Oct
if u say u not ready then u not ready dont go ahead n keep him knowing u cant afford it. as long as u not having an abortion the baby will be fine wit ppl who will love him n give him everything u might cant at this moment. but i might sound self fish bout wat i am bout to say but if u n ur boyfriend werent ready to have a baby n u knew u was young then y u went and had sex knowin the consequences ?????? my first time having sex was at 15 but not b-cuz i wanted... i was forced. and after dat i decided to have sex n i knew dat if i got pregnant i would keep the baby no matter wat my parents said or wat the baby father said. cuz i kne wat could happen. but anyways i am glad u wasnt talking about n abortion as ur decision so i am proud of u to atleast make da decision to give it up for adoption knowing u cant afford it right now but not just b-cuz ya not sure ya want to take on responsibility yet for something ya both made. i am not tryna offend u i am just being realistic. i am young too n i was when i had my first child that r.i.p is wit god right now. i dont have it easy neither cuz money is tight right now so i kno were u comin from wit that but thats no excuse to say other wise understand? sorry if i offended u but thats my opinion.......god bless n good luck wit ur decision
lilysmomma - Friday, 1 Oct
I cant imagine having to go threw whatyou are going threw, and for that I am sorry. When is anyone really ready? I know when I found out I was gunna be a mom, Corey and I talked about our options cause we didnt feel like we were fit, but I fell in love and I knew it was meant to be. So Corey and I worked really really hard, bought a house, and a year later, it was the best decision of my life. Our daughter brought so much joy and love in to our life, I cant imagine doing it any differently. But thats us, your gunna have to do whats right for you, your so young, you have your whole life to live, but that little baby, could become your life too. Just because you have a baby doesnt mean your life ends, there are so many things I wanna do, and I cant wait to begin my journey, but my life will start again when Lilian is alittle bit older, when she starts school. Good Luck Hun
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aubbalways - Monday, 18 Oct
3rdtry- I'm so so so worried i'll become like your sister in law. :( I really don't want to regret giving him up later because i know i'll be depressed anyways, but always regretting it...that would do it for me. I don't know what would happen with my life if i always missed him && didn't feel like what we decided was right. I wish sometimes someone or something could just say "You're doing this && this is what's right.", it would be so much easier that way...though i know that could never happen.
3rdtry - Saturday, 16 Oct
I just want to say like everyone else you are a very strong person. My sister in law gave up her baby when she was 17 and regrets it all the time even though it is an open adoption and she knows it would have been so hard to raise him. You need to do what is right for you and no one can make that decision for you. Just know that what ever you choose it is permanent so think hard and long about it. You seem to have a great support system which is wonderful and I am very happy you have that. I wish you all of the happiness in the world and hope whatever you decide you are happy with your decision. Take care of yourself. Also one of my friends got pregnant at your age and she is 18 now, just graduated this past year and is working at a school she kept her boy and is a single mom.
aubbalways - Monday, 4 Oct
eliciamadora- I wish i had read this earlier because i feel terrible not replying quicker. This message has absolutely made me think about keeping him. I know we can do it, i know we can, but the only thing that kept me wanting adoption was thinking about just how difficult it would be for Quan && I. Would we really be able to go through school && raise a baby? Would we be able to work, go to school, && have enough money to pay for everything including preschool && babysitters? Not including diapers && clothes, etc etc. Sure we'd have help...but would it really be enough? I'm just so worried. :(
eliciamadora - Friday, 1 Oct
Giving up your baby would be such an incredibly selfless thing to do and extremely difficult no doubt, you already know this.But no one would blame you for keeping such a blessing. Don't say you would be depriving your sweet baby of anything, because he would have you. Perhaps he woudn't have as many toys as the other children but does that really matter in the long run? Toys? and 400 outfits? It's the love you give your baby boy that will matter the most.I am tearing up just imagining how you feel thinking these thoughts that you won't give him what he needs. Because it's you he needs. Your love and your arms to hold him when he crys, to be there when he needs you. Seeing the way you talk about him, I know with full certainty that you can give him everything that baby needs.If you're worried about food and clothing or toys, there are SO many programs that (my husband and I even are inrolled in) give our babies some of the things we can't afford.But what your baby really needs is you.Good luck with your decision. I'm here if you ever want to talk.-------Also, about living your life with a baby. It's still very possible and, you saying you're already falling in love with the baby. Imagine seeing him smiling up at you. Holding your finger with his tiny hand. Imagine how much more you'll love him then? It most certainly WILL impact your life. But in a good way. If you do decide to adopt out, there's always more time for another later on if you think you aren't ready.
aubbalways - Friday, 1 Oct
lilysmomma- Thank you for understanding. How old were you when you became pregnant? && yes, i know we can allow him to become everything to us...but there's still so much we'd have to accomplish before i would really feel like we would be good parents. I still have this && next year of High School...that's not even including college. :( Quan works, but i haven't begun yet && he just started driving. Trust me, we really do want him, but we're still not sure how well this will work out if we do decide to raise him ourselves.
aubbalways - Friday, 1 Oct
J.Nelly- We're still not sure. That's what this post was about. We didn't have unprotected sex, we were quite aware of the consequences so we used condoms so i didn't get pregnant...this was not something we planned. Even though we took precautions to not get pregnant, the condom broke && i did. I'm a strong believer in Pro-life so abortion was never an option, but we weren't sure if we were going to keep him, for both of the reasons i listed. It wasn't our fault for getting pregnant, && though i think you're entitled to your own opinion, i just wanted to answer your question about "knowing the consequences".
j.Nelly - Friday, 1 Oct
if u say u not ready then u not ready dont go ahead n keep him knowing u cant afford it. as long as u not having an abortion the baby will be fine wit ppl who will love him n give him everything u might cant at this moment. but i might sound self fish bout wat i am bout to say but if u n ur boyfriend werent ready to have a baby n u knew u was young then y u went and had sex knowin the consequences ?????? my first time having sex was at 15 but not b-cuz i wanted... i was forced. and after dat i decided to have sex n i knew dat if i got pregnant i would keep the baby no matter wat my parents said or wat the baby father said. cuz i kne wat could happen. but anyways i am glad u wasnt talking about n abortion as ur decision so i am proud of u to atleast make da decision to give it up for adoption knowing u cant afford it right now but not just b-cuz ya not sure ya want to take on responsibility yet for something ya both made. i am not tryna offend u i am just being realistic. i am young too n i was when i had my first child that r.i.p is wit god right now. i dont have it easy neither cuz money is tight right now so i kno were u comin from wit that but thats no excuse to say other wise understand? sorry if i offended u but thats my opinion.......god bless n good luck wit ur decision
lilysmomma - Friday, 1 Oct
I cant imagine having to go threw whatyou are going threw, and for that I am sorry. When is anyone really ready? I know when I found out I was gunna be a mom, Corey and I talked about our options cause we didnt feel like we were fit, but I fell in love and I knew it was meant to be. So Corey and I worked really really hard, bought a house, and a year later, it was the best decision of my life. Our daughter brought so much joy and love in to our life, I cant imagine doing it any differently. But thats us, your gunna have to do whats right for you, your so young, you have your whole life to live, but that little baby, could become your life too. Just because you have a baby doesnt mean your life ends, there are so many things I wanna do, and I cant wait to begin my journey, but my life will start again when Lilian is alittle bit older, when she starts school. Good Luck Hun
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