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Age: 31
Country: US
Province/region: Pennsylvania
City: North Coventry
Partner: Tyrus
Children: Yes, 2
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26-5-2009 - Seeing red all of themMy mood while writing this blog:
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Today (and the last few days) I feel horribly angry, upset, miserable, slightly depressed... maybe all of them at once... I'm not really even sure. I feel very angry towards Tyrus. I feel like he wants to just forget about this baby thing until it comes out of my body. I feel like he feels like I am going to be the one handling the brunt of parenthood while he continues with life just as it is today. Iasked him how much time he is planning to ake off from Jiu Jitsu when the baby comes and he looked at me like I was an idiot... He goes to these classes every single week night for 2 to 3 hours and then Satuday morning for 3 hours. Along with his daily gym time of an hour or so... I feel like he is so determined to not deal with my "pregnancy moods, hormones, bs etc" that he has developed some hormones of his own... The worst part about this is that everything annoys the hell out of me. The little things that annoyed me before now annoy me 1,000 times more... but I refuse to start complaining about them in the least bit because I'm well aware that these are just the hormonal side effects of being pregnant. So I'm very mindful of the things I do complain about and he has no idea just how many things he does that annoy me to the core every single day. And I feel like he is so unappreciative of the things that everyone wants to do for us and this baby. He told me to tell everyone just to give me money at the shower so we can go buy the stuff on our own instead of taking back what everyone gets us... WTF is that?? We have a registry AND all these people (about 60 of them) are excited and want to do this for us so who cares what they choose to buy us! And he wants me to say no thank you??? Ahhhhhh! Stop complaining about people wanting to buy us things and get the place we're supposed to be moving to in a livable condition!! Grrrrrrrrrrr!!! Last weekend I said to him "can you believe we're going to have a child"... Well can you believe that his response was "I know. You won't let me forget it".... I can't even talk to him because every time I try I just end up balling my eyes out and not being able to get any words out so I run to the bathroom or hide in my bed until I'm done crying. I know we will be great parents together but I still want to know that he and I will be together through this, and right now I'm not feeling very confident about that. Oh goodness, I don't know if I'm just being overly emotional and hormonal or what... but it felt good to get this off my chest for now...

PS - my bump seems to have disappeared and I've felt very NOT-pregnant the last couple days... is that even normal???




8 Comments on Seeing red


aileenc0 - Friday, 29 May
You only have to look at your profile pic the two of you look great together men just deal with things differently and we are all hormonal basket cases just now but at least we can admit it when we're acting a bit mental. take care of yourself and get as much time to relax before the baby gets here.
take care


mommy2jasmine - Tuesday, 26 May
hey hun well i am really sorry all of this is happening to u , my hubby was in texas because he's in the army and when i told him the news he reacted in a weird way too but as soon as he came back and saw my belly and he loved this baby more than anyone now so why dont u include ur bf and take him to ur appointements and stuff , and if he's still not interested then sth is wrong with him !! as for the moody parts its normal cuz u have raging hormones everywhere in ur body so take it chill and if u need anything i am here for u ! big hug

shea-elizabeth - Tuesday, 26 May
Hey hon...sounds like things are a little rough for you lately. I'm so sorry. Like you need the extra stress right now. I've gotta concur with the others though...men don't get it (especially right now)...but hopefully the majority get better towards the end. Before I was even pregnant - mine said he wasn't gonna be in the room and I was crushed. But he's done a complete 180 and even looks forward to going to appointments with me now. (he said he was joking about not being there, but whatever). They just don't realize the impact the stupid stuff they say or do has on us pregnant women.

B3thy - Tuesday, 26 May
Hey girl! I am so sorry!!!! I can not imagine how tough it must be going through all of these changes to your life all at once. I agree with the other ladies...men just don't get it. I am sure he is overwhelmed and just can't express his feelings the way he needs to. He is definitely going to have to make sacrifices and I hope he realizes that sooner than later. Going to the gym as much as he does is kinda crazy (I have always thought so anyway). I can baby-sit and help out whenever so put me on speed dial ha ha. Ty is a good guy though and hopefully he will come around on his own as the time gets closer. I think they do need to see the actual baby to really get it! Getting nothing but money at a baby shower is no fun! Usually people are very good and get nice things (2 baby showers down, 1 to go before yours). Please email and call me whenever!!! I am here for you :)

natalie fisher - Tuesday, 26 May
aww hun i am sure yr partner will be a great dad, but u need his support right now it is hard and u are going through so much rite now, and as for the baby shower thing i think yr fella is way out of bounds ppl would be offended if u asked for money they all want to buy things that are cute and tiny and thats all part of the fun seeing what ppl choose, i wish we had them here in england as i could do wi help towards the babys things, i do have 3 boys but i left everything i had behind at my old place now i have nothing and a lone parent of 3 plus 1 on the way lol, u will be fine but u need to tell yr partner how u feel and ask for his support, xxxxxx love n hugs to u from me

eurekagrls2002 (Andrea) - Tuesday, 26 May
you are not alone in these feelings at all please know that! you sound like me a week ago....Im sorry you have to go through it and hope it gets better for you

ari08(ariana) - Tuesday, 26 May
It's very hard for a man to understand what we are possibly going through. Even if they are loving and caring 100% of the time they still will have no idea. I think since we as girls go through it it's easier andmore natrual for us to be able to thinking about giving up part of ourselbes for this little soul and will be joining our world soon. Sometimes Jed my guy is great, others i feel the exact same way that he could really care less. I think it's hard for them to remember we are even carrying a baby 24/7 until we get really big or it's been born. We remember everyday because we ar blessed with cramping, mood swings, fatigue, ect. I'm sure your man will come around he might just be going through his own fears try talking them out i guess? i dunno i hope everything works out. And as far as your bump, mine comes and goes too, depending on, not to be gross my bowels.

expecting-2b-patient (Cheryl) - Tuesday, 26 May
Ugg, you poor thing! I wrote you a bit on the forum about this. Becoming a parent is a HUGE life changing experience and a HUGE responsibility and everyone deals with the emotions of it differently. I think your Bo just decides he'll forget about it till it's here. I also think our hormones are going bonkers right now! I wrote about it on the 18 wk forum. But I cried after having sex w/my hubby last night. It was because I felt bad he hadn't been getting any, so I gave in, but cried through the whole thing! I know what you mean, it seems EVERYTHING and EVERYONE annoys me to no end! But if you take a step back and look at the situation sometimes it really isn't that bad... it's just US! At least we can admit to it at times though. Have you asked him how he feels about becoming a Father? Maybe he's scared... tell him you need reassurance from him... IDK.. Good Luck Hunny... it will pass!!
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