13-8-2009 - What a week!!!

My mood while writing this blog: Better

This has been one hell of a week.

Monday night solidified my biggest fear… Ty is nowhere close to having his place done. And it’s not nearly safe enough for me to move into in 2 weeks. I didn’t know what to do… other than cry… I’ve talked to my current landlord about month to month previously and they always said no. So I started looking for an apartment. The only place willing to take us and our dog with an immediate opening as well would not do a short term lease. So we were going to be locked into doubling my current rent and still having to pay the rent on his place for the next year. This is not at all how I was envisioning our first year with this baby but we are out of time. So I applied, alone because Ty was refusing to sign a year lease anywhere. I knew I wouldn’t be approved without him and it had me infuriated! After I gave her the $35 to run my credit she called to tell me that you have to make about $1000 a week to be approved there. It is completely beyond me why anyone who makes that much money would rent a townhome… but needless to say I was not approved. So I started freaking out again and resorted to the fact that I was going to be 29 years old, 7 months pregnant and moving back to my mother’s house while he moved into the unfinished place and kept working.

My Mom and I butt heads a lot and even she started looking for other solutions. She wanted to pay a contractor to go finish Ty’s place but of course he said no to that. This was fine with me because I honestly see no reason why my Mother should pay for that when it’s his Father’s fault the entire place was flooded and destroyed 3 years ago. And his Father isn’t assisting him by any means with any of this. His Father prefers to call Ty on his days off and have him run all over the place to pay his bills because he doesn’t want to spend money on gas and then doesn’t give him money for the damn bills either! This has obviously not helped us in trying to do the renovations in the least bit. This is the man who wanted us to buy a brand new car so he could make the payments for us, which I knew would never happen, and it has not happened even once yet. Luckily we were smart enough to buy something we were prepared to make the payments on but that is besides the point… I’ve got to stop complaining about him though.

Last night I received a phone call from my landlord. I guess the other apartment complex had called him to confirm that I lived in his place, paid my rent and such. He was calling to tell me that if we couldn’t be out by the end of the month it was okay. We could work something out to give us a few more months “because he knows how tough life is with a baby, especially your first one and there is no reason I should struggle like that when I should be enjoying this time”. I was shocked! He said that he knew we were just trying to renovate and I should light a fire under Ty’s butt, but there was no reason to go signing a year lease and pay a lot more money somewhere else. Mind you my little apartment is $600 a month and that includes my electricity! So this was such a relief for me to hear I cry out of happiness! It is a little place, but I won’t be at my mom’s or homeless so I’ll take it with a smile! Hopefully it’s only for a few more months anyway! Ty believes that he can still have his place done in about 2 months, but I really hold no faith in that right now. I won’t tell him that but I’m sure deep down inside he knows. This was the best birthday present I could have asked for! And I’m actually happy that I’ll most likely still be right across the street from the hospital when this baby comes. So there is another plus out of this messy situation! This is still not how I envisioned us welcoming this baby but it’s better than where I thought we were heading at the beginning of this week! Thanks ahain to those of you who have listened to me freaking out about this over and over for the last couple months! You have helped keep me from unleashing my psycho pregnant self on him and kept me semi-sane as well! So I thank you more than words can say! J

PS - OMG! I got to work last week and had an email that they replaced my crib with another on my registry because Delta is no longer making cribs with dropsides! I was furious, and my Mom already bought the wrong one and thinks it's the right one (thank you my little sister for not being able to keep this secret) and wants to have it set up at my shower because she is so excited for me to see it! I'm 5 foot tall, I want and probably need a drop side!!

THEN yesterday morning I got to work and had an email saying more items on my registry have been discontinued... Yep more means the ENTIRE set I picked out for my nursery... Every item from the sheets to the rugs... Another good reason for not having a nursery to put this stuff in I guess. But I'm still mad, it took me forever to pick that set and I like it!!!