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14-9-2009 - Major Change of Plans

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Major Change of plans

I had typed all this up on Saturday but it didn't save and I was not in the mood to redo it then...

So Saturday was supposed to be a long 7 hour day in our birthing class and our tour of the maternity ward. Class was at 9 am… We were back home by 10 am…

I’m sure some of you have heard that Tyrus is a bit squeamish with certain things and I was curious as to whether he would make it to delivery with me. When he can sympathize with how someone feels or gets to see something that is too gory he tends to feel faint pretty quickly. We can watch all the CSI or Criminal Minds episodes under the sun, that’s not what does it to him. It has to be something REAL to him in his mind. Like when he was watching a UFC fight and some guy had his leg snapped backwards, or when he had his tooth pulled and the dentist had to have 3 people hold him in the chair just to minimize his shaking convulsions… or when the women starts talking about how I will know when my water breaks apparently…

Our instructor spent the first 35 minutes of class talking about herself, the class, how our day would go and when the tour would be. Around 9:40 she started talking about preterm labor signs, feelings and how to know if my water had broken. She then went into what colors are good and what colors are bad etc… Tyrus looked at me and said he wasn’t feeling so well so he was going to go get some air in the hallway. After a couple minutes I went to check on him as I already knew this was not good. I grabbed some OJ because it tends to bring up his blood sugar and revive him a bit, and ran out to find him on the floor of the hall in a pool of sweat. He woke up and just started crying, he was so sad that he couldn’t even make it through an hour of class without feeling woozy. I told him not to worry and that we would figure out something as this should be a pleasant experience for all 3 of us and obviously this plan was not going to work.

So it looks like I will be delivering this baby with my Mom and Sister by my side… My Sister I have no worries about, it’s my Mom that I worry about. She and I don’t do well under stress together; my Mom can annoy me like you would not believe with just a simple sentence… The last person I wanted in the delivery room was my Mom quite honestly, but if I asked my Sister and not her she was be seriously heartbroken and I would never live it down. My Sister is already devising a plan to keep my Mom from getting on my nerves through this and I’m already downloading lots of relaxing music to my iPod so I don’t have to hear her too much either.

It makes me very sad to know that Ty will not be there when I find out if we have a son or a daughter… the picture in my mind of him going to tell everyone in the waiting room whether it’s a boy or a girl has changed to someone telling him… and I hate that new picture…

I don’t really know how things will go now as he keeps trying to say he’ll be there… but I’m guessing we’ll find out in about 44 days. I don’t want to tell him that he can’t be there, but I can’t watch that while I’m trying to give birth to our child. It scares the hell out of me. Not to mention the fact that I’m sure once he starts convulsing the doctors will want probably send him to be checked and he will be furious because he has no insurance to cover anything they do to him at the hospital. Please just pray that I don’t go early at this point as the next available class isn’t until the 3^rd weekend of October, and this is the one and only class I really really wanted to attend.

Nothing has gone as planned thus far I’m not sure why I thought this part would…

I’ve also been having a lot of BH contractions the last 2 days with back and thigh cramps too. I don’t know if this is okay because we didn’t make it to that part of my birthing class. But I have an appointment tonight so we’ll see what they say. Sleep is no longer a friend of mine; it avoids me at all costs. And I’ve started feeling like I’m swelling a lot in these last 2 days… especially in my legs and feet. After this weekend I am so ready to be done ladies…

OH – and Happy 30^th Birthday Tyrus

11 Comments on Major Change of Plans

wilmie - Tuesday, 15 Sep
Maybe he should try sticking around and leave the room if he's feeling faint. My dh had the same problem. He faints when he sees human blood, but he really surprised me! He actually LOOKED when they did my c-section!

shea-elizabeth - Tuesday, 15 Sep
Oh man, oh man!! What a situation! I can sympathize. Poor Ty - but also poor you! He's obviously upset that he couldn't make it through the class and most likely not be able to be in the room with you when you hear the dr. say "it's a boy!" or "it's a girl!" That's going to be such a special moment that he must feel awful about not being there for, but that you must feel awful for the same reason! And my mom would be the same way. She would stress me out too much for her to be in the room. Although, I know she's hoping that I'll go into labor when Paul's at work so she and my dad can bring me to the hospital. When I took our hospital tour though - they said 3 people could be in there, but sometimes you need/want people out, so they gave us a code phrase to use so nobody gets their feelings hurt. Maybe you could bring that up to the nurse/dr. when it's just you in the room. Aside from that - I'm having BH all the time, and my hips are killing me at night. So sleep has become very uncomfortable and I am just tossing and turning all night. Oh - and my ankles tend to disappear over the course of the day from all the swelling. gross. Happy birthday to Ty! Hope you feel a little better after the vent, but know that at the very least, we're hear to listen and empathize. (p.s. sorry for the book) : )

jaydenty - Monday, 14 Sep
Awwwwww…..poor Ty! His heart wants to be there so badly, but his body is just not coming to the party. If you really think about it, I don’t think I would cope through that either, its only cos we HAVE to go through this that we’re there, but if I had a choice, I’d be waiting outside for the baby to be born too.I’m sure your sister will keep your mom in line, and try and not let them be there until its absolutely necessary for them to be in the room. The less you have to put up with your mom, the better….(so nasty!!!!) You know, maybe it wont be as bad as you think its gonna be as well, so just try and be positive.Well, if Ty wants to be there, let him be there till he feels he cant do it anymore, and then from there, your sister and mom can take over.Hey…..don’t be so negative missy, nothing has gone as YOU might have planned it, but it all happened the way it was supposed to happen, you might not know the reasons now but, trust me, it has!Yeah, I think we’re all feeling tired and big and swollen now. I’ve also started getting a lot of lower back pain and inner thigh pain now. Sleep is also no longer a friend of mine, he has abandoned me, if I’m not getting up to pee, then I just wake up cos turning around is such an “event”. I also want this just to be over, but at the same time, I’m gonna miss this so badly!OH and wish Ty a very happy 30th Birthday!!!!

mrs. myers (Jessie) - Monday, 14 Sep
Awww, I'm sorry to hear about that, babe. I worry about my husband during the delivery as well. He doesn't get woozy, but he gets really upset when I'm in pain. I'm not sure if he's going to be able to handle being in there. Maybe to avoid getting upset with your mom, you can lay down some ground rules before you go into labor. That way she knows how to/how not to act. I'll be doing the same thing with my mama and sister, because I know they're going to be yelling at me to push harder, keep going, etc...and I don't want all that commotion. I just want to hear the doctor, and that's it. So I'm laying down the law before we even go in there.

B3thy - Monday, 14 Sep
Awwww sweetie....so sorry. Hopefully he will get a burst of steely disposition and be able to be in the room with you. My fingers are crossed! However, your sister is awesome and will be great if you need her. It will all work out as long as that little one waits until October 24th...glad to hear your appointment tonight went well. I cannot wait to meet this little one!!!!!! 44 days to go....holy cow :) Yeay!!!!

aileenc0 - Monday, 14 Sep
Why don't you ask the staff at the hospital to put some sort of drape over you like they would with a c section then ty won't see what's going on down there. I know my hubby disapeared at the last minute with my first daighter he got over his squemish nerves by puffing on the entonox and at the end of the labour he had much more of it than I did although I did have pethidine morphine and an epidural. lol. He may surprise you and just get caught up in the moment and be so excited tha he won'thave time to worry about his own nerves. The only thing I would say is if you don't want your mom at the birth why nt say you are only allowed to have 2 and that ty has to be there for the labour and your sis can be there for the birth...Or even just explain that you don't want her to be upset by seeing you in pain. It truly is the one moment when you should be allowed to be selfish and have only who you want people will understand. Any way Kim hope you work something out take care.

expecting-2b-patient (Cheryl) - Monday, 14 Sep
Oh My Lovely Kim! Why, oh why do issues always find you... why?? It is almost over, for real this time! I mean we were saying that at 28 weeks, but there is only 6 left! I totally understand poor Ty- there are a lot of men that get that way. There is really no reason why he can't be there while you are in labor. When it comes "time for the baby" he can leave and wait right outside the door. Your sister/mother can let him know what you've had (he still might want to wait till the baby is clean) and he can see him/her or go tell everyone in the waiting room. Still VERY exciting time!! Does he get any signs of when these squemish feelings come to him before he faints or has an "attack"? If so he might be able to stay as long as he can, and just not look. I know Dave can't watch anything on TV with blood or operations, he looks away. I tell him I don't know how he'll do it while I'm giving birth, but he says that's different-- I don't know though, he probably just wont want to watch. Loads of luck with your Mom, I really hope it doesn't become a stressful time for you, you're going to need support and people that are leave headed in these type of situations. It's too bad you can't tell her that there can only be two coaches in the room. So you want the second one available still incase Ty is okay.... Oh, girl I am hoping this is it for you!! You deserve to relax!

DoeysGirl (Cassie) - Monday, 14 Sep
Oh, honey! I'm so sorry! I'm sure Ty feels horible he can't be with you in the room. I agree with one of the gals below, though... Do you think his doctor could give him some Xanax or Valium or something to take the edge off? Mabe just enough that he could be there but still be able to maintain? You'd still need your sis, because he might not be totally functioning, but he'd still be there. Just an idea. :) I'm right there with you about the mom thing. She's insisted she get to be there through the entire labor, but I told her "no." We're doing natural, and I need to focus 100% on the task at hand. Maybe you can wait to find out the sex until Ty gets back in the room? Have the doc set him/her on your abdomen with a blanket over him/her and call Ty in right away to peek together? Or... He may totally shock you and be great that day and have absolutely no problems. It's amazing what our bodies can do when we need them to, you know? :)

ari08(ariana) - Monday, 14 Sep
You have had an intense pregnancy- but everything is going to be perfect once you have that little one in your arms. And maybe he'll make it to the birth adrenaline is an amazing thing and gives us strengths we never knew we had! As far as the thigh cramping, i think it's all normal, my hips have been killing me to the point of not walking well and they said that was fine. I dunno. let us know how ur doc visit goes.:)

angela32 - Monday, 14 Sep
Hey those classes are great but just be sure and just read up on everything from birthing to C sections and bringing home baby and nursing if you plan on it.It is really nice to have the class but if you read up you will be as prepared as you can be! Im sorry about your hubby but like you said put on the ipod and focus and he/she will be here before you know it and yall can go home!

excitedmisty (misty) - Monday, 14 Sep
That's awful :0( I'm so sorry for both of you having to go through with it...my brother-in-law was the same way, but what they did was (and yes, it got complicated)...her sister stuck by her side during labor and her MOM (this might work for you), stuck by his side during labor (he ended up passing out, so she got the orange juice, and a cold cloth, etc)...maybe you guys could get another ultrasound ...i've heard of couple having the sonographer put it in an envelope...that way while he is in the waiting room he could find out on his own??? good luck, i know all i want is eric to be there with me...hang in there!

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