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bezzi44
	Age: 38 Country: USA Province/region: Michigan City: Holland Partner: Husband Rob Children: Yes, 3 Pregnant: Not anymore Occupation: Engineer
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08-1-2009 - Put in my place

My mood while writing this blog:
remorseful

I just got put in my place.... I was complaining to one of my friends and she said:

How about enjoying the last few days that you will ever be pregnant ever again in your entire life

Some of us will never have that opportunity

You have the rest of your life to drink beer.

And you have several more years to play hockey.

Please try to enjoy these last few days.

I know this isn't what you wanted, but here you are.

Make the best of it.

I totally understand the being uncomfortable. I am sympathetic to that. I'm just so sad that you have not enjoyed your pregnancy at all. From day one.

Wow, I feel really bad now. What a selfish, self-centered person I must be lately.

I don’t care how much I hurt at work, how many times I get jabbed in the ribs, how many times I have to get up to pee at night and how much the “hemmies” are swelling, I will no longer complain.

I might smack the next guy in the face here at work that says to my face, “You still here?” But that’s it.

Peace, Love, Labor and Fertility dust to you all!

xxx

10 Comments on Put in my place

catka - Friday, 9 Jan
hehe ... that's a very good friend bezzi! the real one! only real friends and people who care for you dare to tell you the truth like that ... other people would ignore you OR just agree with whatever u say ... or say whatever you WANT to hear..... kudos to your friend! :)

babygirl (pink) - Thursday, 8 Jan
Bezzi, it has to be something to do with this site. Before i joined, I didn't have any idea that we could safely give birth from as early as week 34. We like having you around. I've just woken up, and secretly wished that you didn't go into labour while i was asleep, because we will dearly miss you. We need you around. I wan't baby out too, but not because am miserable...i want baby out coz am so looking forward to seeing this miracle, that i cant wait. am thinking of all the care i will provide to the baby and how i wanna be the best mummy. But baby isn't here yet.

candiceleigh-x - Thursday, 8 Jan
You can complain here!!! We all complain and understand EXACTLY how you feel. When people who aren't pregnant say "my back hurts so much!" i'm just like "stfu" and when i was first pregnant and they were like "omg i'm so hungover i keep puking" I'd say "atleast you got to drink to have to puke in the morning, and you put yourself in that position so stfu" and people still complain! so if you need to complain, complain here, or to other friends who aren't going to say that. I would be very mad at her if that was me cause my hormones are everywhere. I'm sure we ALL enjoy our pregnancies...but it's the bad things that stick out more, especially now. Atm i'm constantly getting punched in the pelvic bone (or that's how it feels)

adnorel - Thursday, 8 Jan
Wow...at all the different opinions in just the comments to your blog. I complain a little bit about this pregnancy but not much because I'm not ready for him to come yet. The only reason I want to be induced on the 15th is because that is grandpa's 85th b-day and he is being named after grandpa I think that would just be cool. But I really wont be ready on the 15th either. If this baby could hang out 3 more years not sure I'd even be ready then. I hate being in my position sometimes knowing that this is the last thing I needed at this point in my life...just when I was fixing to be able to afford to move out of mommies house at 30 years old I will be stuck here because I got myself pregnant and now will have to pay for day care. I do feel really bad that I'm in this position and their are happy loving couples out there that only wish they were pregnant and I mostly wish I was not. I have a bi-polar 8 year old and I'm praying to God that this child is normal because this BD is more messed up in the head than my X-husband. Most ppl wouldn't even know my X was bi-polar unless they really really knew him. But this BD everyone knows he has major issues but him. I will love this baby and my family will love this baby but it sure was bad timing on my part. But it has to be God's plan or it wouldn't be happening...I try to keep remembering that...Things happen for a reason....I just don't know what that reason is yet.

trixie369 - Thursday, 8 Jan
I know I know! I have been feeling so out of it lately. I feel like I'm going to have a mental breakdown (I have a newborn that wants to party at night). But, then I remember that 2 of my girlfriends are dealing being first time parents with twins!
Your not self centered. Your uncomfortable. But at least you can act like you can enjoy the end of your pregnancy. Can't wait to see the munchkin!

mdenault69 - Thursday, 8 Jan
You have every right to complain... You are woman.. hear you roar. I feel bad for the woman who said that but you are the one with the aches and pains. No woman who has not been through it can understand nor sympathize. You have to complain to someone and it might as well be your co-workers vs. your family! You are a wonderful woman and you have been a wonderful friend to me and I have not heard you complain one bit out of place.
Michelle

R-N-E-Bump - Thursday, 8 Jan
Aww don't be so hard on yourself! You are very blessed, that's for sure. But those last couple weeks are so exhausting and you're just so ready to finally hold your baby! Yes, try to enjoy it...but don't feel bad for being tired and a bit impatient!!! Not to mention the hormones drive you mad!!!

Lovely3 - Thursday, 8 Jan
Ahhh, don't feel too bad. . .I think the majority of us get caught up in the discomforts of pregnancy. . .it doesn't make you horrible, I would say it makes you normal. But, your friend is very right. . .it is gonna be over soon, and you will be suprised that the day will come that you will wish it back, you will forget the discomforts and you will be amazed that with what seems a blink of an eye your little bundle of joy is grown. Just set in your mind to enjoy your days. . . even the not so great mornings. I work on that everyday even now. . .trying to pay attention to how much I say, "I dread". . .life is too short to dread so much, you know. We need to enjoy our journey.

luckywhite - Thursday, 8 Jan
harsh.. but fair...

once the initial shock wore off you probably enjoyed the day a bit more!! x

lilmissk - Thursday, 8 Jan
Your friend is right, and I needed to hear the same thing. It's ok though, we both have time to redeem ourselves.

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