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12-9-2008 - Reality Check

My mood while writing this blog: Very sad

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My best friend received some terrible news yesterday, it's made me very sad, and it gave me a bit of a reality check. She was thirteen weeks pregnant with her first baby, and went for her first scan yesterday only to see that the baby had died. I just cannot imagine how awful that would be. She is truly devastated. She is booked in today to have an evacuation procedure which thankfully she won't remember.

Although she wasn't TTC for very long (in that she was one of the lucky ones) she has waited a long time for her situation to be right to become pregnant, and she's one of those people who was born to be a mum, which makes it even harder to deal with.

I spent most of yesterday thinking about how lucky us mums-to-be are, how this whole journey is just such a miracle, and how a few aches and pains and uncomfortable-ness is totally worth the effort. This has put so many things into perspective for me, I don't even know how to put it into words.

I just wanted to share this with you because it's given me such a lot to think about, and be thankful for, and even though we're not there yet, we have already been given a chance of this tiny miracle happening to us.

I am heartbroken for my friend and would really like it if you could could spare a thought for her today. Take care of yourselves

Jill x

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6 Comments on Reality Check


harrison mummy - Monday, 15 Sep
Bless your poor friend, I had three miscarriages before I had my first child and its an extrememly difficult time. I wish her all the best x x

minkymoo78 - Saturday, 13 Sep
She and her are in my thoughts. What you have told me is just horrible and cruel and it will take her a long time to come to terms with it. I'm so very sorry it's happened to her. x

Mrs. Beasley - Friday, 12 Sep
I am so sorry for your friend. She is in my prayers.

christina08baby - Friday, 12 Sep
It is a very sad thing to lose a child at any stage of pregnancy or life. I hate hearing things like this. My very first pregnancy was a blighted ovum miscarriage and I was 19 years old. I remember feeling empty and not understanding at the time what blighted ovum meant. That miscarriage was very hard on me and I was very depressed for awhile and thought I would never be able to have a baby. Even though there was actuallt no baby I felt at the time like I had been cheated or something. Had your friend previously seem a heartbeat on a scan for this pregnancy?

laura2525 - Friday, 12 Sep
Arhhh hun, i am so sorry for ur friend. what an awful experience for her to go through!! i no the feeling as i went through it my self last yr!! fingers crossed she will be okay and i no it's hard to believe but time is most defanitly a healer.. pass on my best wishes to ur friend x

winter-baby - Friday, 12 Sep
i cant imagine what your friend is going through it must be the worst feeling in the world. before i got pregnant i know it sounds stupid but i never really thought how heartbreaking a miscarrage actually was, now i cant believe how lucky i am to have gotten to week 29 and to be able to carry this miracle. ill be thinking of your friend today x x