09-10-2009 - Masons Sperm Donor (for court)

My mood while writing this blog: rolling my eyes

September 2009

My oldest son, Mason, just turned 6 years old last month. His father has really had NOTHING to do with him since he was born. Only seeing him a handful of times and never calling to check on him. The times he had seen him he was pressured. Thankfully his dads family has WANTED to be a part of his life and usually goes and spends time with them every 3 weeks or sometimes more.
Mason has been through alot more than a 6 year old should. When he was 6 months old he started having severe seizures. No reason could ever be found. He is my MIRACLE baby! I was told that he would NEVER walk, NEVER talk, and they could give me NO prognosis on his future. I was 20 years old and scared to death. When he was 8 months old he had a seizure for 10 minutes straight and stopped breathing. The nurse came out and told me had had A STROKE...my heart stopped literally. Then in the next couple weeks to come....I was told he was DEAF. So I took it all in stride and learned sign language.
We had to put him on multiple medications and he did learn to walk (even though the doctors said otherwise), but then right after his 3rd birthday the seizures hit harder than ever. He was not a canidate for brain surgery because his seizures are global (all over his brain). But there was a new experimental surgery that we could try. I had to fight with myself for months to decide whether to do it or not. But I did not want him to become a vegetable. It was only FDA approved for 12 years and up...but I was allowing them to do this to my 3 year old. I let them do it.
In December of 2006 they placed a VNS implant into Mason.
**NO LIE---within 2 weeks of them turning this on....Mason was running, Mason was TALKING (NOT ONLY WORDS BUT SENTENCES), and his seizures were only little ones**
No one could believe it. He has come leaps and bounds. He is SO SMART. He knows more than most of the kids in his class. I am AMAZED! And I did all of this as a single parent.
Currently, since about May, Masons seizures have come on stronger and have caused alot of regressing. We have been doing all that we can we therapy and counseling. Currently he is taking 5 oral medications and is on the 2nd adult level of his VNS implant. I am optimistic about Mason, I have seen him pull through when others said he wouldn't. I believe that this rough patch will pass as well, we just need time and strength.
As far as his father goes, right now nothing has changed. In the past 2 years and 9 months James has seen Mason once and that was a year and like 3 months ago. On top of that it has been 11 months since he has even called me to check on him. He currently has not paid me child support for almost 10 months now, and the court systems keep letting us down (he is 5900.00 behind). I dont expect anything from him because he is a loser. But its not about Me....its not about his DAD...its all about Mason and what he deserves....and this is not it.

September 6th, 2009

Mason is officially 6 years old....and jerk off didn't call or show up at his mothers house (where he lives) while we were visiting. Sometimes I give him this benefit of the doubt, maybe he will do something to surprise me you know?? Well, no...he just plays it off like he doesn't exist. I can't stand it.

September 8th, 2009

I called the child support division again about the supposed court date and they still didn't have anything on the court docket. He went into our file and looked at the court report from when James went July 27th. He read there that I am supposed to appear in front of the judge on September 28th at 1:00 pm. So our trail date is set in stone, it just took them forever to let me know. So I already let my mother know because she for sure wants to go. I hope they lock his ass up. He is absolutely worthless . . . the only thing that could make the whole situation better was if his girlfriend was there to see how much of an idiot he really is.

September 12th, 2009

So I found out today that James got hired as Michael Myers at Industrial Nightmare for the halloween season. Will he report this....I dunno. But Im definitely keeping it for my records.
I also found out today that he is still blaming me for HIM not having anything to do with Mason. This appears to help him sleep better at night. I could yell about this until my face is blue, but it doesn't do any good. Its been almost 11 months since he has even called to ask how he was doing?? Im not an idiot. I am not going to call his ass to tell him how Mason is doing. And this is supposedly all my fault. RIGHT??!!
On another note . . . while snooping today I found that he posted pictures of him and Mason (when he saw him for an hour 4 years ago) on his myspace page. This aggravates me to know end. UGH!!! I wish court would hurry up.

September 17th, 2009

Today James family had their birthday party for Mason, we had so much fun and so did the kids. Supposedly James was suppose to call me because he wanted to come to the party. I never believed this in the first place . . . and to my surprise....he never called. So much for believing his crap.

September 26th, 2009

So I went over Debbies yesterday to help her babysit Arayna because she hurt her leg. I was fully aware that we would probably run into James. When she told him that I was going to be there by 2:30 she said he jetted off like a bat out of hell. (Is the Jerk off scared of me?) So while I was there he called . . . . and asked his mom if he could come home to eat . . . she told him yes . . . but then he never showed up. I think he is trying to keep from us having a confrontation. Oh boy, oh boy . . . court is Monday. It will be on I suppose...But I am beginning to wonder if he is even going to show up?

September 28th, 2009

I am so mad while I am writing this that I can't even see straight. We had court today where they were charging James with contempt for not paying his child support. Our time was 1:00. While we were sitting there waiting he looked as if he was going to throw up which made me laugh because he deserves every second of torture. They finally called our names 2 hours later and informed us that his public defender had an emergency in the family and they had to postpone his trial until DECEMBER 14TH!!! I was so mad that I couldn't even see straight. I understand that the emergency in the family is a big deal, but this is exactly why he thinks they are going to do nothing to him. I was also informed that there was no reason why I was suppose to be there. I told them I never got anything in the mail but the child support division and James both told me that I was suppose to be there. They said the only reason I needed to be there was if James gives me money face to face for Mason. HA! That will never happen. So He pretty much lied to me, go figure. So yet again, he can breathe ANOTHER sigh of relief while he has to wait another 2 months for his next court date.

October 28th, 2009

It has officially been 1 year since James called to check on Mason. Here we go again.

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November 15th, 2009

It has been 11 months since I have received any child support from James.