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omg ladies i was recently going through my husband's my space page and discovered that he was searching for his old girlfriend this makes me soooooooo angry.why is he looking for her. am i not good enough. am i over reacting to this he don't know that i know this but he knows that i am pissed about something.i have been knowing him since i was 15 years old. he has married me and fathered 6 kids with me.am i just tripping or what .and when i went back to his myspace page the message he left for the girl was gone, he told the girl in message that she reminded him of his ex girl. then he had the nerve to say the this ex girl friend was a sweetheart am i not.ladies am i wrong for snooping on my husband. by the way my husband is a rapper.that is why he has the myspace page at all.i love him sooooooo much but am i trippin or what send me your opinions on this message.GOD BLESS
16 Comments on OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!
mixedsouthgurl - Thursday, 2 Oct
Confront him about it!! see what he say. If he says it was nothing or watever...den trust him. And take it from there.
dossfirstchild - Wednesday, 1 Oct
Girl, dont stress yourself about! I'm sure it was nothing...Guys just get bored...and sometimes have to feel like they 'still got it'...My hubbie did the same thing...and it use to bother me..but now i'm so over it...he always leaves his myspace up(and mind you he only has one becuz he too is a rapper)...Just talk to him...ask him what that was about...atleast you are not in the dark about what he is doing...Good luck!
ourbabynumber6 - Wednesday, 1 Oct
No you are not the only one that goes through their husbands myspace, because I do too. And you know what I realized on myspace, is that there are alot of lonely and desperate females on myspace. I know because they come at my husband all the time. I mean I do like myspace cause I do find all of my friends that I went to high school with and lost contact with them. But it is a lot of drama. So I do feel you a lot. And BTW your lil princess is so cute.
kitty79 - Wednesday, 1 Oct
Okay, so this is where I believe is my double standard. Personally, I have looked up my exes on Myspace just out of curiosity. I have sent messages to see what was up and chatted a bit. I know that my heart, body and soul belongs to my husband so I know that there is nothing wrong looking up my ex just to see what is up with him now. That said... I am a jealous woman who would not appreciate my husband doing the same. I found that my husband had visited his ex's website (she started some kinky ass business out in NY, think whips and leather) and I went balistic on his ass. Now I found out that it was actually his friend who found the site and looked at it on DH's lap top but still, I was pissed. Of course, he was a little pissy about me sneaking on his laptop.. but WHATEVER! Anyway... I guess I know what you are feeling and you have a right too.. but in most likely hood, it is NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT!
And I agree with everyone, you have a gorgeous looking family!
phillygirl2 - Tuesday, 30 Sep
First off, your baby is gorgeous. 2nd, i would be mad too. But like most people i have looked up my ex's as well as his (mainly just because i'm nosey and want to see what they are up to. If I was in your situation i would talk to him about it. Some of it may just be the fact that there is another new baby in the home and even less of your attention is on him and like someone else stated he just needed his ego stroked. Please do continue down the path of asking what is wrong with you because it is probably nothing. You just need to make certain that you voice to him *not in a confrontation* how you are feeling about him contacting her. Perhaps you all need to find a baby sitter and get some time alone, just the 2 of you. This is just my opinion i hope it helps Again, your daughter as well as the rest of the kids are just too cute
pricelessjojo - Tuesday, 30 Sep
U know what, I dont know what is it w/ these men. U bend over backwards for them when u can, then later on its another story. U having 6 kids may trigger in his mind that he's not gettin enough attention like he used. Men are like babies, feed them, clothes them, bathe them, give them attention, love, sex make them feel high. When I was pregnant w/ my daughter, yes it was all about my feelings, I knew he had feelings but actually getting pregnant was a lot more exciting, he begin saying I'm not caring and all I ever really wanted was to get pregnant. Now ur man being in the rap industry makes it more Challenging, he sees all these sexy beautiful girls and there's nothing u really can say, cause Rap is his thing. My husband is also on myspace, he's a sound engineer, and he meets all type of females, I can't be every where he is, but I have no choice but to learn to trust him. I read his mysapce comments also and read his personal messages, some messages sounds strange like something is going on, but I can't start assuming till I catch him in something. In the end I like to believe that he's really doing his job. Now for ur hubby to be searchin for his ex-girl, sounds weird, keep ur eyes opren, don't accuse him till the proof is in front of u and whatever u used to do that u dont do anymore, go back to doing, yes u have 6 kids but make time even if he doesnt have time. I feel u sista, and I hear my hubby say it to me a lot, I need more affection, acknowlege I'm here, but what about us, we need the acknowlege also, not just come from work and head straight to the studio, it goes both ways.
QUEEN-RI - Tuesday, 30 Sep
ya hi welcome to my life! Mine is an ex football player and is now working on entering the entertainment business and I am the one who created the myspace page but he thought he would change the password after the first exgirl found him and I read the email exchange. Like I don't know him enough to figure out the new password! You are not wrong at all in feeling like you do and NO HE DOES NOT HAVE A RIGHT TO DRAG UP OLD FLAMES JUST FOR THE HELL OF IT AND SAY THINGS TO HER HE WOULD NOT SAY TO HER IN FRONT OF YOU. (sorry caps) After so many years and 6 kids for some reason men need their egos stroked and look in the worse places to get this done so defiantely stay on top of this. Good Luck! Gorgeous babies btw!!!!!
metsmom - Tuesday, 30 Sep
Well I hate to snoop because im always afraid of what might be found that would piss me off! But if you had a suspicion than I can understand looking. I would talk to him about it thought and find out what the deal is! You have a right to be mad! You are his wife and you do have a family together. There should be nothing to hide!
Jelly27 - Tuesday, 30 Sep
I don't think you are overreacting. Okay first I have to say your baby is absolutely beautiful. Okay back on track, I would be furious, but try not to read into it too much. If it continues to bother you, I say confront him about it. It may start something but at the same time it may clear your fears up. I say don't hold back. Let that man know you don't feel comfortable with what he said, and he may surprise you and say something like girl, you are overreacting, you know you the one. Or something corny like that. Either way, let him know.
busybeemom - Tuesday, 30 Sep
My DH better hope he never pulss that crap (I know he wouldn't)!!! I would be so mad though!!!! I'm sooooo sorry that happened to you!
julz - Tuesday, 30 Sep
I would be angry too, but I would talk to him about it, it might just be innocent. But definately talk to him, and don't just assume that he's up to no good, I have done that with my hubby and it has blown up in my face. Good Luck to you hun, keep us posted. Luv & Hugs-Julia
Boobah815 - Tuesday, 30 Sep
I definitely understand your anger... I'd be angry too. What I've learned is that once you go looking for dirt you're going to find it (even if it is something completely innocent)
My advice.... talk to him about it... don't be irrate but definitely talk to him about everything that's going on with him. He could have been looking her up just to talk.. maybe even update her on his family. Just because it's his ex doesn't mean they can't be cordial. However, the fact that he erased the message is a little suspect but don't let your reactions get the best of you... sit him down and have a talk. It might not be what you expected. Good luck and stay positive!
starby - Tuesday, 30 Sep
I'd be trippin' out too however just the other day, I looked up an old boyfriend on myspace...not for any other reason to see what a loser he was, hee hee. You should talk to your hubby about it though, find out what was really goin on, just try to stay cool, calm and collected, I know thats easier said than done :( Good luck girl!!!
lisalulu - Tuesday, 30 Sep
I would be upset too. I would definately talk to him about what you saw & how hurt you are. That said, I should confess I have looked up old boyfriends before, BUT I have never messaged them nor would I...I looked only out of curiousity w/ no intention of getting in touch. I say definately tell him how hurt you are. You probably just need to talk & clear things up. It really could be innocent curiousity, but on the other hand he should be focusing on you & your children not random girls on myspace. Good luck & hang in there!
Mommy with three cuties! - Tuesday, 30 Sep
First off, I love your picture on your page of your baby girl!! She is absolutely beautiful!!! maybe he was curious ans it was innocent. As long as he wasn't flirting I wouldn't worry about it. Just let him know how you feel. Let hm that your aware of him searching for her. I hope you feel better. God Bless you!
littlecavalier - Tuesday, 30 Sep
It honestly sounds fairly innocent by the way you are describing it. I still keep in contact with my ex and I think it's fairly common to think and wonder about people you used to date. My husband's ex-girlfriend used to call him and it used to make me jealous but I think as long as you trust your husband it's all good. Also, by him saying that she's a sweetheart, that doesn't take anything away from you!
| 29-9-2008 - OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!! |  My mood while writing this blog:Ok |
omg ladies i was recently going through my husband's my space page and discovered that he was searching for his old girlfriend this makes me soooooooo angry.why is he looking for her. am i not good enough. am i over reacting to this he don't know that i know this but he knows that i am pissed about something.i have been knowing him since i was 15 years old. he has married me and fathered 6 kids with me.am i just tripping or what .and when i went back to his myspace page the message he left for the girl was gone, he told the girl in message that she reminded him of his ex girl. then he had the nerve to say the this ex girl friend was a sweetheart am i not.ladies am i wrong for snooping on my husband. by the way my husband is a rapper.that is why he has the myspace page at all.i love him sooooooo much but am i trippin or what send me your opinions on this message.GOD BLESS
16 Comments on OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!
mixedsouthgurl - Thursday, 2 Oct
Confront him about it!! see what he say. If he says it was nothing or watever...den trust him. And take it from there.
dossfirstchild - Wednesday, 1 Oct
Girl, dont stress yourself about! I'm sure it was nothing...Guys just get bored...and sometimes have to feel like they 'still got it'...My hubbie did the same thing...and it use to bother me..but now i'm so over it...he always leaves his myspace up(and mind you he only has one becuz he too is a rapper)...Just talk to him...ask him what that was about...atleast you are not in the dark about what he is doing...Good luck!
ourbabynumber6 - Wednesday, 1 Oct
No you are not the only one that goes through their husbands myspace, because I do too. And you know what I realized on myspace, is that there are alot of lonely and desperate females on myspace. I know because they come at my husband all the time. I mean I do like myspace cause I do find all of my friends that I went to high school with and lost contact with them. But it is a lot of drama. So I do feel you a lot. And BTW your lil princess is so cute.
kitty79 - Wednesday, 1 Oct
Okay, so this is where I believe is my double standard. Personally, I have looked up my exes on Myspace just out of curiosity. I have sent messages to see what was up and chatted a bit. I know that my heart, body and soul belongs to my husband so I know that there is nothing wrong looking up my ex just to see what is up with him now. That said... I am a jealous woman who would not appreciate my husband doing the same. I found that my husband had visited his ex's website (she started some kinky ass business out in NY, think whips and leather) and I went balistic on his ass. Now I found out that it was actually his friend who found the site and looked at it on DH's lap top but still, I was pissed. Of course, he was a little pissy about me sneaking on his laptop.. but WHATEVER! Anyway... I guess I know what you are feeling and you have a right too.. but in most likely hood, it is NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT!
And I agree with everyone, you have a gorgeous looking family!
phillygirl2 - Tuesday, 30 Sep
First off, your baby is gorgeous. 2nd, i would be mad too. But like most people i have looked up my ex's as well as his (mainly just because i'm nosey and want to see what they are up to. If I was in your situation i would talk to him about it. Some of it may just be the fact that there is another new baby in the home and even less of your attention is on him and like someone else stated he just needed his ego stroked. Please do continue down the path of asking what is wrong with you because it is probably nothing. You just need to make certain that you voice to him *not in a confrontation* how you are feeling about him contacting her. Perhaps you all need to find a baby sitter and get some time alone, just the 2 of you. This is just my opinion i hope it helps Again, your daughter as well as the rest of the kids are just too cute
pricelessjojo - Tuesday, 30 Sep
U know what, I dont know what is it w/ these men. U bend over backwards for them when u can, then later on its another story. U having 6 kids may trigger in his mind that he's not gettin enough attention like he used. Men are like babies, feed them, clothes them, bathe them, give them attention, love, sex make them feel high. When I was pregnant w/ my daughter, yes it was all about my feelings, I knew he had feelings but actually getting pregnant was a lot more exciting, he begin saying I'm not caring and all I ever really wanted was to get pregnant. Now ur man being in the rap industry makes it more Challenging, he sees all these sexy beautiful girls and there's nothing u really can say, cause Rap is his thing. My husband is also on myspace, he's a sound engineer, and he meets all type of females, I can't be every where he is, but I have no choice but to learn to trust him. I read his mysapce comments also and read his personal messages, some messages sounds strange like something is going on, but I can't start assuming till I catch him in something. In the end I like to believe that he's really doing his job. Now for ur hubby to be searchin for his ex-girl, sounds weird, keep ur eyes opren, don't accuse him till the proof is in front of u and whatever u used to do that u dont do anymore, go back to doing, yes u have 6 kids but make time even if he doesnt have time. I feel u sista, and I hear my hubby say it to me a lot, I need more affection, acknowlege I'm here, but what about us, we need the acknowlege also, not just come from work and head straight to the studio, it goes both ways.
QUEEN-RI - Tuesday, 30 Sep
ya hi welcome to my life! Mine is an ex football player and is now working on entering the entertainment business and I am the one who created the myspace page but he thought he would change the password after the first exgirl found him and I read the email exchange. Like I don't know him enough to figure out the new password! You are not wrong at all in feeling like you do and NO HE DOES NOT HAVE A RIGHT TO DRAG UP OLD FLAMES JUST FOR THE HELL OF IT AND SAY THINGS TO HER HE WOULD NOT SAY TO HER IN FRONT OF YOU. (sorry caps) After so many years and 6 kids for some reason men need their egos stroked and look in the worse places to get this done so defiantely stay on top of this. Good Luck! Gorgeous babies btw!!!!!
metsmom - Tuesday, 30 Sep
Well I hate to snoop because im always afraid of what might be found that would piss me off! But if you had a suspicion than I can understand looking. I would talk to him about it thought and find out what the deal is! You have a right to be mad! You are his wife and you do have a family together. There should be nothing to hide!
Jelly27 - Tuesday, 30 Sep
I don't think you are overreacting. Okay first I have to say your baby is absolutely beautiful. Okay back on track, I would be furious, but try not to read into it too much. If it continues to bother you, I say confront him about it. It may start something but at the same time it may clear your fears up. I say don't hold back. Let that man know you don't feel comfortable with what he said, and he may surprise you and say something like girl, you are overreacting, you know you the one. Or something corny like that. Either way, let him know.
busybeemom - Tuesday, 30 Sep
My DH better hope he never pulss that crap (I know he wouldn't)!!! I would be so mad though!!!! I'm sooooo sorry that happened to you!
julz - Tuesday, 30 Sep
I would be angry too, but I would talk to him about it, it might just be innocent. But definately talk to him, and don't just assume that he's up to no good, I have done that with my hubby and it has blown up in my face. Good Luck to you hun, keep us posted. Luv & Hugs-Julia
Boobah815 - Tuesday, 30 Sep
I definitely understand your anger... I'd be angry too. What I've learned is that once you go looking for dirt you're going to find it (even if it is something completely innocent)
My advice.... talk to him about it... don't be irrate but definitely talk to him about everything that's going on with him. He could have been looking her up just to talk.. maybe even update her on his family. Just because it's his ex doesn't mean they can't be cordial. However, the fact that he erased the message is a little suspect but don't let your reactions get the best of you... sit him down and have a talk. It might not be what you expected. Good luck and stay positive!
starby - Tuesday, 30 Sep
I'd be trippin' out too however just the other day, I looked up an old boyfriend on myspace...not for any other reason to see what a loser he was, hee hee. You should talk to your hubby about it though, find out what was really goin on, just try to stay cool, calm and collected, I know thats easier said than done :( Good luck girl!!!
lisalulu - Tuesday, 30 Sep
I would be upset too. I would definately talk to him about what you saw & how hurt you are. That said, I should confess I have looked up old boyfriends before, BUT I have never messaged them nor would I...I looked only out of curiousity w/ no intention of getting in touch. I say definately tell him how hurt you are. You probably just need to talk & clear things up. It really could be innocent curiousity, but on the other hand he should be focusing on you & your children not random girls on myspace. Good luck & hang in there!
Mommy with three cuties! - Tuesday, 30 Sep
First off, I love your picture on your page of your baby girl!! She is absolutely beautiful!!! maybe he was curious ans it was innocent. As long as he wasn't flirting I wouldn't worry about it. Just let him know how you feel. Let hm that your aware of him searching for her. I hope you feel better. God Bless you!
littlecavalier - Tuesday, 30 Sep
It honestly sounds fairly innocent by the way you are describing it. I still keep in contact with my ex and I think it's fairly common to think and wonder about people you used to date. My husband's ex-girlfriend used to call him and it used to make me jealous but I think as long as you trust your husband it's all good. Also, by him saying that she's a sweetheart, that doesn't take anything away from you!
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