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09-10-2008 - Friends...

My mood while writing this blog: disappointed

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By no means, do I want to come across as negative or depressed because this has ben the happiest time of my life!! But I am sort of disappointed in some of my friends, wel mainly just one of my friends - my best friend.

The night I told her that I was pregnant she cried, not because she was happy for me, but because she was upset. It was very selfish of her to act that way, especially since I was quite stressed at the time anyways and that only added to it. I needed her support and instead she turned her back on me after saying nasty things to me. She has unincluded me in everything we used to do together and as a group with other friends, and also said some really hurtful things - thats when things got bad. I have since forgiven her but I will never forget. She still barely talks to me or has enough time for me, nor does she ask anything about my pregnancy. Normally friends, family, ppl you don't even know ask questions when they see you. She hasn't asked a thing! Not even what te sex of the baby was, his name, ultrasound pics...nothing! It really upsets me. This is such an important stage in my life and I really wanted my best friend there to share in it. We always did things in our life at the same time and were attached at the hip, but we have grown older and need to mature. We used to go out and party together a lot and I think she misses that. But sooner or later it was bound to happen, we were going to have to mature at some point. Sorry that I was the first person to do it. Her boyfriend and her were planning on moving away next summer and buying a house out of town. What did she think would happen to our friendship then? Obviously it would be a lot harder to get together but i wouldn't ever be mad at her for it. It's almost like she is jsut mad that I moved aheady before she did. I almost feel liek she feels sorry for me that I'm pregnant and can't party and go travelling...but honestly i don't care about any of that anymore, my priorities in what I want in life have changed, and to me it's for the better. Although my life is not perfect, it's close and it's geting there. I just want to tell her to start acting her age and realize that I'm happy so se needs to be supportive and at least take an interst in my life which right now is being pregnant and having a baby. People keep telling me she will be different once the baby is born but I don't beleive it.

I should really get over it because I have more important things in my life now and I have friends & family that are excited for me and supportive. I just hate thinking that after 20 years of friendship, all I really was to her is her drinking buddy....

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2 Comments on Friends...


carcaran - Friday, 10 Oct
Thanks so much for the support!
I remember her exact words were 'how could you be happy considering the circumstances' - i had jsut quit my job the week before we found out and my bf was just finishing up his schooling, so yes it was hard, but no reason not to be happy - that REALLY has bothered me ever since. Things have since got much better for me and my bf, thank god, but those words still linger...
It's not like we are 15, we are 25 years old and have had MANY years of 'partying' so I don't feel like I have missed out on anything in life.....I have realized I am through with that and I'm happy to move on with my life....I'm not asking her to do the same, i'm just asking her to be supportive
In fact, i think i partied all the time because I was missing something in my life, and that thing was filled when i found out about my little one!

Mandyd829 - Thursday, 9 Oct
Unfortunately, with friends sometimes you grow out of them. She was your main squeeze when you had no responsibilities. Its obvious either she is jealous of what you have or of what is to come or she is just being a jerk. You will notice that babies change people for the better or for the worse. unfortunately she is the worse. if she can't be happy and excited for you, you don't need her around anyway. Don't allow her to rob you of the joy of the best thing that is about to ever happen to you. She obvioulsy was never a true friend to you if she can't be happy for you.