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24-7-2009 - Prayer & Advice needed ASAP!!!!!

My mood while writing this blog: Looking For Answer

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I know I just had a beautiful addition to my family and I should be the happiest person and the world right now and trust me I am but what I have been holding back is the depression and sorrow I am also feeling at this time from somewhat losing a part of our family. This is a long blog and if you dont have anything that will help me to say dont bother wasting your time replying, I need advice, prayer and hope because I have faith and the lord above but I have No friends that I can go to and just let everything go and feel better.

As you know I went in on the 17th to have my water broke will that day I had my beautiful daughter and blessing from above Ginasys those were 2 days of glory and praise that she was o.k because I was sent in early because of a short in growth they thought they saw on a previous ultrasound ramar was great he made sure the nurses did there job when I was hurting and he took care of the baby when I needed along over due sleep he surprised me because he fainted with our 3 year old and he was there with the 2 year old but not like this. So the 19th came and I was so happy to go home we started getting ready and thats when our world came tumbling down while he was packing the car a police officer approached him and asked for his name once he told him his name he was arrested on a juvenile traspassing warrant and if that wasn't enough he comes upstairs with the nurse to talk to me and lets me know that I have a warrant dated back to 06 for a worthless check to Lee County Clerk of Courts and that my BF was being arrested my hurt split in to and crumbled my back started contracting I couldnt even speak I was crying so bad that the nurse offered to which my daughter until I calmed down I couldnt believe what I was hearing then the officer explained to me that he was not going to arrest me and that he was giving me seven days to get everything straighten out or he was coming back to arrest me he asked for my address and everything I give it to him and he left but before he left I just had to see if Ramar was alright so I went down stairs and the minute I hit the corner I see the officer putting the cuffs on him my legs went weak and I could hardly talk with all the tears all he keep saying was calm down everything will be O.K. he is not going to arrest you we talked about it I told him what our situation is but I didnt want to hear it I could not believe what was happening after getting myself sustained the officer let me give him our last kiss before he was taken away but not before I could ask him why would he come all the way to labor and delivery to do this when there are people out there killing people right now, abusing children and selling drugs he replied he was just siting in his car when a person came to him and told him that we was at CCH and we had warrants told him our names and he checked and sure enough we did so he had a job to do he couldn't help that somebody really didnt like us it was like I was dreaming or watching a lifetime drama what the hell was going on. So I called my family let them know what happened and ended up driving Ginasys and myself home from the hospital. I have been so depressed all I have been doing is crying I dont sleep, eat nothing I havent even went home yet I dont want to be there with out Ramar but something had to be done our kids couldnt lose both parents so I decided to try and make things right as you may know I am a criminal justice graduate so I just started doing what I was taught I started calling around to find out what could be done and I found in my case that the money that was paid was not showing up it took me two days to find it and what had happened was because it was a money order they put it in a different section and it didnt transfer over to the state attorney that was handling it to see so he put a warrant out on me on Nov 08 for 3500 dollars cash wtf where am I suppose to get that type of money with all my kids and family needs I would be out of house and home then that would be another problem cause I cant get any help from the government because we are a not a single parent household and we make to much and we dont make enough to get any help from the damn banks or loan facilities go figure and also because I didnt not pay a 670.00 court fee and in Ramar's case there is nothing we can do because it was a juvenile charge and he cant be bonded out so he has to do 21 days in juvie then were hoping they just drop cause the PD say they dont have jurisdiction over him anymore but the warrant had to be served so his grown ass is in a juvenile center with a whole bunch of kids and he calls almost everyday his mom took the girls down to see him yesterday the 2 year old and the baby and I have called everybody I can to make sure that he get out and the charges get dropped on the 5th of August because we need him home and with me I will have 3500 hundred dollars this week but if I bond myself out no bills will be paid I have no one to ask to borrow that type of money and I will not have any money to obtain a lawyer until the next month and I am sure I will need one to keep me from getting jail time the sound of that shit sends chills down my spend I think I would die I dont even want to go in to be bonded out much less be there for some days so I have been speaking to some lawyers and I think I have found a good one but if I pay him I wont have the money to bond my self if he cant get it lowered or turn in to asurity so I only have to pay 10% percent to a bondsmen I just dont know what to do because if I just go and bond myself out I will be legit but my kids will be out of a home, food, car and school starts on the 24th of August and I need school clothes for 5 of them all I do i can do is pray and have faith that god is going to send me a way to get through this hard time its just I cant help but thinking that I am being punished for missing 3 weeks of church I sent my kids 1 week without me 1 week I just didint feel up to going and I was just being released from the hospital last Sunday and trust me I know that the lord hears my prayers and he knows my heart and he knows that I need him and I am leaving all this and his hands but I cant help but worry the stress is killing me slowly every time I close my eyes I see him being hand cuffed in the lobby of the hospital and it breaks me down but I have to be strong for me kids they need me and I dont want them to know im sad and depressed so ladies this is my situation what would you do if it were you would you turn yourself in and bond your self out with all the money that your going to have for the whole month and pray to god that help will come from somewhere or get a lawyer and let him handle everything and pray to god that he can help you get the bond lowered or changed from a cash only bond either way I am going to need a lawyer its just I dont know if I should get one now or after I get the warrant off of me but like I said if I do that I dont have to worry bout being turned in and I could be at ramars hearing but what about my bills I dont know what to do but god has made it possible for me to be able to pay the bond off with the money I have coming in this month but nothing else at this point either it all on faith and my family is in the hands of the lord please send your advice and keep my family in your prayers and please again no lies or what you know you wouldnt do replies I need real advice not fake.


The meaning of Ginasys

The boy's name Genesis \ge-ne-sis\, also used as girl's name Genesis, is of Greek origin, and its meaning is "origin, beginning". Biblical: the first book in the Old Testament, and tells of the story of the creation of the world.

Genesis has 4 variant forms: Gennesis, Ginesis, Jenesis and Jennesis.

Genesis is a very rare male first name and a very rare surname (source: 1990 U.S. Census). Displayed below is the baby name popularity trend for the boy's name Genesis. Compare Genesis with related baby names.

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3 Comments on Prayer & Advice needed ASAP!!!!!


AKA.mom - Friday, 24 Jul
I am sorry to hear this is happening. My advice to you is see if the lawyer can get the bond lowered and go from there. I agree with Blessed girt from God take care of your legal matters first. Aug 24th is a month away. you have time to get the kids clothes and things for school. I know where I am from they always have bookbag giveaways with the bookbags filled with school supplies even some barber shops and beauty shops give away free hair cuts for the kids for school. Just keep praying and God will see you thru this. You will be in my prayers.

5 miracles and an angel - Friday, 24 Jul
If it were me, I would worry about the present, the LORD will take care of your future, He will make a way. Take care of your legal matters right now. I know it may not seem long, but its a month before school starts for the kids. Its not a long for you, but for HIM its plenty of time, just lean on him and you and the fam are in my prayers.

Mrs.Bolden - Friday, 24 Jul
Oh hunny I am so sorry that this has happened to you.. I wish I had some advice but I know nothing about that kinda of stuff. What I can offer is my prayers that everything will be ok and work itself out.. once again I am really sorry and I am praying for you and your family.